Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: Opening Up and Three-Way Erotic Stories (December 28, 7-11 EST)

Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
*Waiting in line*
12/28/2010
Contributor: clp clp
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
yay! (finally!!) Someone should spank you for being late.
Even tops need spanking sometimes!
Oooh... I want to see that.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Sammi
Ha - I suspect we'll all line up then
I am totally okay with that. Since I own like..half of EF's BDSM selection, it'll work out great.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I agree. I don't think anything is accomplished, no greater understanding of human behavior is achieved when we make claims like "humans are wired for this or that is in our DNA...(this reminds me of a post I read recently from some guy who ... more
I got the recessive male chromosome then...
When I was younger I thought the best way to defend my right to live my life as I saw fit was to make everyone else wrong.
To me it's the kind of logic she uses in her book. It doesn't make her right even if it is true because your life and love style should be consciously chosen and that takes preprogramming out of the equation.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
LMAO.. so true

After five minutes of punishment I'd be all "ok, where's mine???"
A veritable chorus of "Now do me!" and "MY TURN!"
12/28/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I love the way everyone perked up at the mention of spankings.

"Punishment? What! Where!"
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
I fully disagree. When I do something wrong, someone else gets spanked.
I am an unashamed switch...it could go either way with me but if I am in a foul mood the guys put away the paddles and floggers.
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
We sell a crappy book about how to have a threesome but unless you are looking for a plan on how NOT to arrange a group situation I don't recommend it.

I don't think BDSM relationships qualify as open...they usually are pretty scripted ... more
I cant remember now if it was the Ethical Slut or Opening Up, but one of them (or both possibly) explored the idea that relationships don't really have parameters that make them relationships. Even a one night stand is a brief relationship between two people.

I have relationships with a few people that are actually quite limited in their sexual contact, for a variety of reasons, however there is still a relationship dynamic, an intimacy that exists that makes me consider it a relationship (although not my primary one).

I suppose it call comes down to terminology. When I use "open" I refer to all forms of relationships that involved more than 2 people in some capacity, however limited.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I cant remember now if it was the Ethical Slut or Opening Up, but one of them (or both possibly) explored the idea that relationships don't really have parameters that make them relationships. Even a one night stand is a brief relationship ... more
I just use it to refer to the idea of two people who are in a relationship choosing to involve other parties.

I'm totally watching "Love and Marriage" right now. It's our Porn Club selection. Not sure if I like it.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
I am totally okay with that. Since I own like..half of EF's BDSM selection, it'll work out great.
I'm working on it...it took a long time for Sigel to be comfortable with me owning BDSM gear.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
I just use it to refer to the idea of two people who are in a relationship choosing to involve other parties.

I'm totally watching "Love and Marriage" right now. It's our Porn Club selection. Not sure if I like it.
I am waiting till the kids pass out and then I'm planning to watch one of mine as well.
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by clp
I love the way everyone perked up at the mention of spankings.

"Punishment? What! Where!"
Yes, spankings... I'm in!!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kayla
I just use it to refer to the idea of two people who are in a relationship choosing to involve other parties.

I'm totally watching "Love and Marriage" right now. It's our Porn Club selection. Not sure if I like it.
I can't wait to watch it!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I am waiting till the kids pass out and then I'm planning to watch one of mine as well.
We started off with BDSM gear which is how I started reviewing sex toys, so our BDSM gear totally overruns everything else. And we're giggling at this porn. We can't watch mainstream porn for arousal anymore. It's too giggle-tastic. Like the couple going into the kitchen to get pie for their guests and having sex for twenty-five minutes. I'd totally be going "How's the pie coming?" But they're neat to watch.

I liked Girl Talk more than Love & Marriage. This one isn't bad, but it's even less believable and more sound issues.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
We started off with BDSM gear which is how I started reviewing sex toys, so our BDSM gear totally overruns everything else. And we're giggling at this porn. We can't watch mainstream porn for arousal anymore. It's too giggle-tastic. Like ... more
LOL I could imagine the conversation..."Maybe they are whipping the cream by hand? "Is she BAKING the pie right now?" LOL
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
LOL I could imagine the conversation..."Maybe they are whipping the cream by hand? "Is she BAKING the pie right now?" LOL
Plot Spoiler: She tells him she wants a divorce while he's pooping on the toilet. It's so lol-tastic I can't take it seriously. Like, trying to have a DVD about divorce should probably not have so many plot holes. x.x
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Kayla
Plot Spoiler: She tells him she wants a divorce while he's pooping on the toilet. It's so lol-tastic I can't take it seriously. Like, trying to have a DVD about divorce should probably not have so many plot holes. x.x
Well there's the perfect place to tell someone you want a divorce. Course I was watching one of those real life dramas and the twit had her husband served divorce papers by the sherrif WITHOUT ever telling her husband!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Well there's the perfect place to tell someone you want a divorce. Course I was watching one of those real life dramas and the twit had her husband served divorce papers by the sherrif WITHOUT ever telling her husband!
That would really suck. I like the sex in this movie, but I always require a believable plot in order to enjoy the movie. We're done watching it though.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
I cant remember now if it was the Ethical Slut or Opening Up, but one of them (or both possibly) explored the idea that relationships don't really have parameters that make them relationships. Even a one night stand is a brief relationship ... more
I think the "emotional affair" (often long distance) is just as powerful as the physical relationships one can have. The parameters of the relationship need to be set by the people involved-- I think that's the thing I liked most about Opening Up, it's all about communication and making your own "rules."

(And sorry I'm popping in and out. Our power keeps flickering because of all the snow. Thankfully it hasn't gone out for more than a few minutes!)
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I am waiting till the kids pass out and then I'm planning to watch one of mine as well.
All this talk of porn is making me jealous.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think the "emotional affair" (often long distance) is just as powerful as the physical relationships one can have. The parameters of the relationship need to be set by the people involved-- I think that's the thing I liked most about ... more
Awww. That would suck. I don't know what I'd do without my internet. I'd probably be bored.

I liked Opening Up a lot. If anyone asks, that's easily the book I want to recommend to those seeking open relationships.
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think the "emotional affair" (often long distance) is just as powerful as the physical relationships one can have. The parameters of the relationship need to be set by the people involved-- I think that's the thing I liked most about ... more
I hate when the power flickers on and off. Ours did the other night twice then we finally lost power. It sucked!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
All this talk of porn is making me jealous.
Me too. I need to go watch those DVDs.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Don't be hard on yourself. You are not all that different from many other people. It takes practice and some habitual examination of your feelings to train yourself to believe he wants to be with you because he finds reasons in you that make him ... more
This is such wonderful advice, Laurel! You need to write your own book!!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It is a concept relating to loving the inner child but less fluffy. It deals more with rooting out and flushing the toxic shame which says "I am full of shame and worthless" and replaceing it with words like, "I have done things that I ... more
I know a couple of people that would really benefit from this book.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
This is such wonderful advice, Laurel! You need to write your own book!!
That is really good advice. You could be my therapist.
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
This is such wonderful advice, Laurel! You need to write your own book!!
I agree! Write a book.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It can be amazing if it's done right. With my two guys it is mind blowing. They know what I like and I know what drives them wild. They also now and respect each other's kinks. Just wish it happened more often LOL
Oh... wow. I think you have a perfect set up! Congratulations!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Kayla
Yeah. It was a good look into open relationships - especially since I will probably never be in one. Jor doesn't like the idea of it, and I wouldn't consider BDSM play with other people as an open relationship even though it probably is. I ... more
I don't like the "it's biological" take on polyamory OR monogamy. Human beings are individuals and as such, we're all going to want and crave and need different things. To try to put us all in the same category-- all poly or mono-- is just silly.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I hate when the power flickers on and off. Ours did the other night twice then we finally lost power. It sucked!
Last time that happened to us and the power went out, I realized I had no accessible flashlights, and only massage candles to burn.
12/28/2010