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Naked Reader Book Club Discussion: Opening Up and Three-Way Erotic Stories (December 28, 7-11 EST)

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Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
Hi! And welcome to tonight's Naked Reader Book Club discussion! We'll be discussing Alison Tyler's anthology Three-Way Erotic stories (fiction) and Tristan Taormino's groundbreaking guide to open relationships, Opening Up!

Whether you've only fantasized about a threesome or open relationship or are in a happy poly triad, this discussion is sure to shake off the cold winter chill!

Welcome!
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Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
I"m here! Am I early?
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Hi! And welcome to tonight's Naked Reader Book Club discussion! We'll be discussing Alison Tyler's anthology Three-Way Erotic stories (fiction) and Tristan Taormino's groundbreaking guide to open relationships, Opening ... more
Hey guys!

Welcome to another cold winter Naked Reader Book Club meeting. Grab your blankets and hot toddies and curl up by the fire with us!

(can you tell I am cold??)
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I"m here! Am I early?
No! I think everyone else is just snowed in. Welcome! Have you read either of the books we're discussing?
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I"m here! Am I early?
Not at all, you are right on time, but you also get the worm for being the early bird. $25 gift card for being the first one to post!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
No! I think everyone else is just snowed in. Welcome! Have you read either of the books we're discussing?
I must confess.. I have not read either of the books.
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Hey guys!

Welcome to another cold winter Naked Reader Book Club meeting. Grab your blankets and hot toddies and curl up by the fire with us!

(can you tell I am cold??)
Hey!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Not at all, you are right on time, but you also get the worm for being the early bird. $25 gift card for being the first one to post!
Really? Yippeeeee!! Thank you!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Hey guys!

Welcome to another cold winter Naked Reader Book Club meeting. Grab your blankets and hot toddies and curl up by the fire with us!

(can you tell I am cold??)
Hey Laurel! I panicked when I got here and couldn't find the link to the discussion! I think in the holiday madness I forgot to send it to you!! Sorry!!
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
So, I have been reading Opening Up ( I am still not done) and I love it! I've always had fairly unconventional believes about monogamy and how so many people seem to fail at it. This book has reinforced and helped fully form some of what I've already believed to be true.

My bottom line impression is that even if you have no desire to open up your current relationship in any way, this book helps spur open and honest communication with your partner about how you feel about him or her, the relationship itself, other people... etc.

The one thing that being in an open relationship taught me was the vital importance of constant communication and honesty, for any relationship.
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Hey Laurel! I panicked when I got here and couldn't find the link to the discussion! I think in the holiday madness I forgot to send it to you!! Sorry!!
lol I kept waiting for it, searching, thinking I must be missing it. Then I just decided perhaps you were going to create it when you got here at 7. It's been a long day for me, so I apologize if it was here somewhere already and I missed it!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
That sounds like a book I need to read. I do believe in always communicating with your partner. I just sometimes have a hard time doing it.
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Oh and ... plug for Kristina... her Community Interview launched today. Already she's got over 30 questions, but don't forget to get over there and ask her something!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
I'm going to have to think of a question for Kristina.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
Really? Yippeeeee!! Thank you!
Congrats! That's awesome!!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Oh and ... plug for Kristina... her Community Interview launched today. Already she's got over 30 questions, but don't forget to get over there and ask her something!
Thanks! I haven't been able to be online all day-- the snow kept my babysitter home and one year old toddlers don't allow for computer time... I'm going to start answering questions tonight!!

Please do stop by and ask me ANYTHING!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Congrats! That's awesome!!
Thanks!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
So, I have been reading Opening Up ( I am still not done) and I love it! I've always had fairly unconventional believes about monogamy and how so many people seem to fail at it. This book has reinforced and helped fully form some of what I've ... more
I think Tristan's book is an important conversation starter for any couple considering taking the plunge into an open relationship. It's not mainstream and certainly not something to be discussed at most dinner parties. It's nice to have a guide that offers a practical, thoughtful approach.

Would you consider being in another open relationship (if you're not currently)?
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think Tristan's book is an important conversation starter for any couple considering taking the plunge into an open relationship. It's not mainstream and certainly not something to be discussed at most dinner parties. It's nice to have ... more
I don't think I could be in an open relationship.
12/28/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
I think Tristan's book is an important conversation starter for any couple considering taking the plunge into an open relationship. It's not mainstream and certainly not something to be discussed at most dinner parties. It's nice to have ... more
Absolutely.

I was in an open, long-distance relationship for 8 years. Since then, I've had several less serious relationships with people, none of which have been exclusive.

Some of them have been in deeply committed partnerships which hasn't always been an easy thing to navigate, but I don't know at this point, under what circumstances I would choose to be in an exclusive, monogamous relationship.

It's certainly possible, but it would be surprising.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I don't think I could be in an open relationship.
Fair enough. How about a one-time threesome?
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
I wouldn't definitely read her perspective on an open relationship before completely saying no.
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Kristina Wright
Fair enough. How about a one-time threesome?
I have thought about a threesome. But have yet to do it.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
Absolutely.

I was in an open, long-distance relationship for 8 years. Since then, I've had several less serious relationships with people, none of which have been exclusive.

Some of them have been in deeply committed partnerships ... more
Do you think a long-distance relationship is more conducive to an open relationship? Less jealousy or risk of confusing friends and family? (I know several people who are in open, long-distance relationships.)
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I wouldn't definitely read her perspective on an open relationship before completely saying no.
Meant WOULD not WOULDN'T.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Hi all, trying to catch up! I read Opening Up and LOVED IT!
12/28/2010
Contributor: staceejaxxx staceejaxxx
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Hi all, trying to catch up! I read Opening Up and LOVED IT!
Hi!
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by staceejaxxx
I have thought about a threesome. But have yet to do it.
Something to look forward to.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by LicentiouslyYours
So, I have been reading Opening Up ( I am still not done) and I love it! I've always had fairly unconventional believes about monogamy and how so many people seem to fail at it. This book has reinforced and helped fully form some of what I've ... more
Absolutely! I also found that it is a great resource for family to understand what is "going on" with non-monogamous relatives.
'Course that is for the open minded relatives cause if they are not wanting to understand and MUST judge I have found no rational is ever going to make sense to them. It's always going to be about not haveing 'self control'.
12/28/2010
Contributor: Kristina Wright Kristina Wright
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Hi all, trying to catch up! I read Opening Up and LOVED IT!
Oh, yay! Why did you love it?
12/28/2010