It all has to do with my thoughts, if I can't concentrate, get into it, and my mind is just distracted-then theres no orgasm for me, or if there is it's so crappy that it's more frustrating than enjoyable. its near impossible for me to have an orgasm just from intercourse without toy play, I prefer masturbation-clitoral stimulation works best for me. right now I'm a sexual wreck-lol-I've hit a wall when it comes to enjoyment, turn ons, interests...time for a sexual overhaul!
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08/22/2012
Augustxsins
For me, the best sex involves DP with a toy or Dom/sub play.
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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It depends on my mood, my energy, how much time I have, and what I'm looking for. "Good" is usually an orgasm or exhausting myself enough to sleep. "Better" is normally a long session, having a new toy to try, and usually at least one or two orgasms. "Best" is a surprisingly awesome orgasm, a very long session with multiple toys, certain props, or a certain mood.
I have to agree with a lot of the answers on this thread; situation, mood, energy.. they all contribute to how good something is. The amount of passion directly relates to how good of a time is had, for me at least. If there's no passion, what's the point? And the more passion, the better. It doesn't really matter the outcome, just that there's some connection. The better the connection, the better the experience.
Before giving a "real" answer, I'd just like to say that I generally try to actively avoid ranking or scoring sessions. My vague feeling is that doing so functions mostly to distract from the experience itself and generally make it seem less enjoyable by comparison.
Of course, there are some cases where it's tough NOT to say a particular session or orgasm was far better than normal. A few things would probably help make that the case: several orgasms in a short period of time (not true multiples; being male-bodied makes that one difficult, but I'm working on it...), orgasms so strong they cause temporary dizziness...With a partner though, a session might be incredible not just because of visceral physical reactions but other things as well that I'm finding difficult to put into words.
It's usually best for me when I can make my bf go crazy...it turns me on so much to see him lose control. That and when we orgasm at the same time.I love it!
For me good is: good for him, feels good for me.
Better is: when he goes the extra mile or we incorporate toys into the mix.
Best: if I end the session shaking and can't move afterwards.
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08/23/2012
rust
Best is when nothing else in the world exists at that moment.
orgasms make sex better doesn't matter whether there big or small.
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08/23/2012
tigres1385
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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it depends a lot of my mind frame. If I am in the mood, where we are, what extras are being used etc. Either way it is always great to have sex with my boyfriend!
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08/23/2012
Booxs2
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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It used to be, for me, that my first orgasm was the strongest & then they would get less intense with each subsequent one. But now it's just the opposite. Each one gets stronger until I can't move a muscle after the last one! I think a lot of it has to do my fiance, he's definitely a giver!!
Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good,
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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So I think there is a difference between good and best. I don't think I have ever had sex with my wife that isn't good. IF we are lucky every once in a while we have sex that makes us think man that is the best we have had in a while. It typically has nothing to do with the number of orgasms or any special position. It is about the intensity, maybe because we have been apart for a while or because we have spent the entire day teasing each other. "Best" is not necessarily best ever for us as much as it is best in a while or since we did _____. I don't think better fits this as better is just what best is compared to good. I don't think I have ever come away from sex thinking that was better sex.
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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I don't think of ranking them. Some sessions are memorable, maybe because of a new and unique location or an extraordinarily high orgasm count. Other than that, at its worst it's good and it can only be better than that.
you forgot unimpressive and possibly awkward which for me is when it turns out there is no chemistry and especially if the person is uptight.
vanilla just doesnt do it for me anymore.
good is when it's good even without an orgasm. better is orgasm. best is when i'm brought to the edge over and over until i finally orgasm and its super intense. legs shaking, out of breath, dont' touch me for a few minutes. and i need a sandwich and water.
I am so loving how most if not all the answers involve some sort of connection as being a requirement.
Makes me wonder how all of you feel about casual sex in general. Anyone care to share their opinion on that?
That's something I've never pulled the trigger on. I'm acutely aware of my inability to separate sex and emotion. Similarly, when I'm not having sex as often with my partner, I feel less emotionally connected.
just being with my new wife is amazing we always have great orgasms between the both of us
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08/23/2012
krazed79
I think to achieve the best you need the right person. Someone who will listen to your voice and body to help you get to the big O. Someone you can relax with and enjoy and pleasure.
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Okay, so last week we were talking about beating your personal best and setting a new personal record. This week, we're going to dig just a little deeper on this topic. "Good, better, best" - what determines the difference between the three in your mind? Is there an orgasm count needed, a certain toy, or maybe a certain position is required? Do you have trouble distinguishing between the three?
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The best is when my toes tingle. So some nights it maybe fast and furious and other nights it can be slow and playful. Just depends on the mood and the day.
I think it really depends on the mood and the amount of time we have (we have kids). My husband and I are perfect partners for each other and we really take the extra time to please each other. Playing with toys is good, but playing with my husband is the best
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