When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a fetish of interest; even more still have taken the traditional route: sexperiments.
(We just so love how that word flows off the tongue, don't you?)
It's as simple as it sounds; you see, hear, or think of something which might be fun to try and you see if you like it. Whether it's anal sex, double penetration, BDSM, forced and/or denial of orgasms, sex in public...the list of possibilities for getting off are endless and everyone does things just a little bit differently. It takes time and patience to learn how you like things done.
By experimenting, we learn more about ourselves and can become more honest and real about what we want in the bedroom. Yet, so many of us are still afraid to speak up and ask for what we crave. Are you one of them?
The sex toy industry is really trying to change the reputation of toys - things that were once scary are now mainstream and now you can purchase toys in drug stores and the shelves of big box stores. This is quite the positive outlook while faced with the idea that we're actually in an era of sexual repression.
But, which toy is right for me?. That's a really good question, and one that is answered by experimenting. In order to make deciding easier, we've put together a number of kits based on our most popular toy categories. Each kit can be customized and contains essential products guaranteed for a great first time! Or, provide a great bargain for those who already know exactly what they desire. You may find additional information on each genre of toy here, Tips and Guides.
Over at Eden Cafe we're giving away kits for three winners Click the link to find out how to enter!
1st Prize: Winners choice of any THREE kits 2nd Prize: Winners choice of any TWO kits 3rd Prize: Winners choice of kit
Your Assignment:
For those who would consider themselves advanced or intermediate players in the acts of your choice, do you remember your aha! moment where you felt like you were finally getting into a consistent groove and could perform the act with your "eyes closed", so to speak? Did you have help from your partner, books/videos, friends...?
For those who still consider themselves beginners in their desired areas of play, how did you figure out this was something you were interested in doing?
For all who play outside of the world of stereotypical missionary sex, can you recall a particular mishap which had you thinking twice about participating in said act again?
Annnd...last but not least, what is something you haven't tried yet that you really, really want to try? What is something that is a hard "no" for you or your partner?
Because me and my boyfriend have been together so long, sex itself is something we're both very 'good' at. We usually do it with me on top, and we both usually finish more than once.
My partner isn't very adventurous, so the list of things we still have yet to try is very long. I figure that since we're young and have so long together I don't have to push it too hard! What I really want to try and get him into a little bit is d/s stuff. I especially like the idea of being dominant sometimes, but I think that he feels emasculated by the idea. It's a work in progress!
Even though I have a fair amount of experience with anal and prostate play, in many ways I still feel somewhat like a beginner. I'm always learning new things and what I like/don't like. I think for me the main obstacle was learning to relax and I realized it was less of an issue when I could insert a large plug with little to no warm up that previously would have required extensive warm up.
Something that has always fascinated me is fisting, both vaginally for my with and anally for me. I'm not sure we would ever try it, but it certainly interests me.
One area that is a no, at least for my wife, is bondage of any type. Se really does not like to feel restrained or restricted.
EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a
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EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a fetish of interest; even more still have taken the traditional route: sexperiments. (We just so love how that word flows off the tongue, don't you?)It's as simple as it sounds; you see, hear, or think of something which might be fun to try and you see if you like it. Whether it's anal sex, double penetration, BDSM, forced and/or denial of orgasms, sex in public...the list of possibilities for getting off are endless and everyone does things just a little bit differently. It takes time and patience to learn how you like things done.By experimenting, we learn more about ourselves and can become more honest and real about what we want in the bedroom. Yet, so many of us are still afraid to speak up and ask for what we crave. Are you one of them?The sex toy industry is really trying to change the reputation of toys - things that were once scary are now mainstream and now you can purchase toys in drug stores and the shelves of big box stores. This is quite the positive outlook while faced with the idea that we're actually in an era of sexual repression. But, which toy is right for me?. That's a really good question, and one that is answered by experimenting. In order to make deciding easier, we've put together a number of kits based on our most popular toy categories. Each kit can be customized and contains essential products guaranteed for a great first time! Or, provide a great bargain for those who already know exactly what they desire. You may find additional information on each genre of toy here, Tips and Guides. Vroomy Vibe KitsG Marks the Spot - G-spot KitsBack Door Adventures - Anal KitsRomantic Couples KitsBoys Love Toys, Too - Men's KitsPleasure Perfection - Prostate KitsOver at Eden Cafe we're giving away kits for three winners Click the link to find out how to enter!1st Prize: Winners choice of any THREE kits2nd Prize: Winners choice of any TWO kits3rd Prize: Winners choice of kitYour Assignment:For those who would consider themselves advanced or intermediate players in the acts of your choice, do you remember your aha! moment where you felt like you were finally getting into a consistent groove and could perform the act with your "eyes closed", so to speak? Did you have help from your partner, books/videos, friends...? For those who still consider themselves beginners in their desired areas of play, how did you figure out this was something you were interested in doing? For all who play outside of the world of stereotypical missionary sex, can you recall a particular mishap which had you thinking twice about participating in said act again?Annnd...last but not least, what is something you haven't tried yet that you really, really want to try? What is something that is a hard "no" for you or your partner?
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I normally play solo. I'll normally do things somewhat scientifically - research it (both info in general and reading erotica), hypothesize my reaction (aka imagine it with me involved), then find a way to test it out!
I don't feel like I'm a beginner, but I also feel like there's so much out there for me to still learn.
My husband and I have been together for over two years now, a lot of things have been sharing with each other the things that we'd like to do together, easing into things.
I want to try pegging. He likes anal play, but isn't comfortable with that idea right now. He said maybe someday, so I'm being patient.
I've always considered myself very sexual and I have alot of fantasys and fetishes, but I've pretty much always been with inconsiderate jerks or duds I need/wannt the G-spot kit because I have NEVER found it, I would LOVE to find it. I'm single right now, I'd rather masturbate to my fantasys then get another bad partner and I'm just not into dating/looking for a partner at this time. i've mentioned things I wanted to do, introduced props/toys, dressed up and they still didn't have a clue! So for now I'm looking foreward to finding my G-spot and having my own fun!
I'm pretty much a beginner as far as anal play goes. Never thought I would like it, and didn't want to try but I saw the Bootie, bought it, and have been interested since.
I still feel like a beginner with anal and prostate play, but I do have some experience. I just kind of tried it and discovered I really like it a long time ago.
I really want to experience pegging with my wife. We are getting closer, but not quite there yet.
Any kind of pain play is a definite hard no for the wife and I. Just not something we're in to at all.
I'm still a beginner in solo play. I just read the above article on finding your g-spot, so I'm hoping during my next sexperiment session, I will get better results.
III really want to try more anal play on my partner. Particularly I want to try pegging. Slowly but surely he's warming up to the idea of a finger, but anything else scares him off a bit.
As for how I figure out what I want to do... erotica, looking at all the fun toys on Eden, lots of fantasizing... I'm also open to trying quite a few things once (or twice just to double check), so if Partner comes up with something I'm willing to try it. So many different things to try!
I have learned so much, We actually own a thigh harness, I haven't approached the subject of pegging at this time. Hell, I didn't know what that was 4 months ago!
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09/25/2012
Nancy Musser
I am pretty new to the whole using toys with my boyfriend thing, and I was very shy and skeptical about it at first. I never had or used a toy in my life, but i just recently got two toys I won in giveaways and one if a PINK BULLET and the other is BUTTER KISS, and let me tell you OMG, talk about adding some fun and breath taking pleasure with your lover.
I wouldn't say I'm a beginner, well not with the more insane stuff but with simple more level headed I am. So a kit like this would be a great change of pace!
My partner and I like trying new things. We've been together for years, so ordering something new from Eden or trying out something we've read about keeps sex interesting for us
For me, (though I've tried it myself with a less-than-quality product) I've always had a thing for sounding. My partner is willing to try something small, we've been looking at silicone ones online. Metal ones seem to be a definite NO (the long ones anyways) but at least he's willing to try smaller ones
OH boy if I won first, I'd get my partner kit #5 and #6, and either #1 or #3 to share.
EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a
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EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a fetish of interest; even more still have taken the traditional route: sexperiments. (We just so love how that word flows off the tongue, don't you?)It's as simple as it sounds; you see, hear, or think of something which might be fun to try and you see if you like it. Whether it's anal sex, double penetration, BDSM, forced and/or denial of orgasms, sex in public...the list of possibilities for getting off are endless and everyone does things just a little bit differently. It takes time and patience to learn how you like things done.By experimenting, we learn more about ourselves and can become more honest and real about what we want in the bedroom. Yet, so many of us are still afraid to speak up and ask for what we crave. Are you one of them?The sex toy industry is really trying to change the reputation of toys - things that were once scary are now mainstream and now you can purchase toys in drug stores and the shelves of big box stores. This is quite the positive outlook while faced with the idea that we're actually in an era of sexual repression. But, which toy is right for me?. That's a really good question, and one that is answered by experimenting. In order to make deciding easier, we've put together a number of kits based on our most popular toy categories. Each kit can be customized and contains essential products guaranteed for a great first time! Or, provide a great bargain for those who already know exactly what they desire. You may find additional information on each genre of toy here, Tips and Guides. Vroomy Vibe KitsG Marks the Spot - G-spot KitsBack Door Adventures - Anal KitsRomantic Couples KitsBoys Love Toys, Too - Men's KitsPleasure Perfection - Prostate KitsOver at Eden Cafe we're giving away kits for three winners Click the link to find out how to enter!1st Prize: Winners choice of any THREE kits2nd Prize: Winners choice of any TWO kits3rd Prize: Winners choice of kitYour Assignment:For those who would consider themselves advanced or intermediate players in the acts of your choice, do you remember your aha! moment where you felt like you were finally getting into a consistent groove and could perform the act with your "eyes closed", so to speak? Did you have help from your partner, books/videos, friends...? For those who still consider themselves beginners in their desired areas of play, how did you figure out this was something you were interested in doing? For all who play outside of the world of stereotypical missionary sex, can you recall a particular mishap which had you thinking twice about participating in said act again?Annnd...last but not least, what is something you haven't tried yet that you really, really want to try? What is something that is a hard "no" for you or your partner?
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I think I'd consider myself intermediate- I lost my virginity about two years ago, and I think theres so much more to learn! But I was a natural from the very start, I must say I'm up for any position or any place. The only thing a hard no for me is anal- because of medical issues
EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a
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EdenU – Let's Sexperiment!When it comes to sex, we all start off as beginners. Some of us have turned to erotica, adult films, friends or the internet for more information on how to be a better lover or the best way to get our feet wet in a fetish of interest; even more still have taken the traditional route: sexperiments. (We just so love how that word flows off the tongue, don't you?)It's as simple as it sounds; you see, hear, or think of something which might be fun to try and you see if you like it. Whether it's anal sex, double penetration, BDSM, forced and/or denial of orgasms, sex in public...the list of possibilities for getting off are endless and everyone does things just a little bit differently. It takes time and patience to learn how you like things done.By experimenting, we learn more about ourselves and can become more honest and real about what we want in the bedroom. Yet, so many of us are still afraid to speak up and ask for what we crave. Are you one of them?The sex toy industry is really trying to change the reputation of toys - things that were once scary are now mainstream and now you can purchase toys in drug stores and the shelves of big box stores. This is quite the positive outlook while faced with the idea that we're actually in an era of sexual repression. But, which toy is right for me?. That's a really good question, and one that is answered by experimenting. In order to make deciding easier, we've put together a number of kits based on our most popular toy categories. Each kit can be customized and contains essential products guaranteed for a great first time! Or, provide a great bargain for those who already know exactly what they desire. You may find additional information on each genre of toy here, Tips and Guides. Vroomy Vibe KitsG Marks the Spot - G-spot KitsBack Door Adventures - Anal KitsRomantic Couples KitsBoys Love Toys, Too - Men's KitsPleasure Perfection - Prostate KitsOver at Eden Cafe we're giving away kits for three winners Click the link to find out how to enter!1st Prize: Winners choice of any THREE kits2nd Prize: Winners choice of any TWO kits3rd Prize: Winners choice of kitYour Assignment:For those who would consider themselves advanced or intermediate players in the acts of your choice, do you remember your aha! moment where you felt like you were finally getting into a consistent groove and could perform the act with your "eyes closed", so to speak? Did you have help from your partner, books/videos, friends...? For those who still consider themselves beginners in their desired areas of play, how did you figure out this was something you were interested in doing? For all who play outside of the world of stereotypical missionary sex, can you recall a particular mishap which had you thinking twice about participating in said act again?Annnd...last but not least, what is something you haven't tried yet that you really, really want to try? What is something that is a hard "no" for you or your partner?
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I consider myself more advanced...but it's be awhile since I've been with an advanced partner. Usually I start from square one, but the fun is in introducing partners to new things. For me a hard no is anal play...brings up bad memories.
I'd consider myself to be sort of in-between beginner and intermediate level. My husband and I have been experimenting with different things for a while now, and we're pretty open about bringing new ideas to the table, but that's mainly because I still haven't found what "works" for me.
Personally, I feel like I am still a beginner even with the experiences I have had. In my mind, I have only begun to sexperiment because I really feel like I am missing out on a whole world. Lucky I have a guy who is willing to try anything to please me. So I think I will be having a lot more fun in the future. Plus I am still looking for new worlds to enter.
My partner expressed an interest is a sex swing just this past weekend, Since I'm into anything she is into and vise versa, this seems to be the newest intrigue that we will soon explore Myself, if something comes to mind that I want to try, I will not stop till I have experienced it. I waste no time when something new comes to mind. Call me crazy if you will but I for one do not want to end my days on this planet without experiencing EVERYTHING that I can or want to!! And since I have no guarantee that I will wake up tomorrow or make it through the day, I'm taking no chances!
I've already began my sexual quest when I officially admitted to being heavily into BDSM. I am a submissive and I love everything that comes with my role. Even during solo play, I incorporate BDSM gear; it just enhances my experience. My hard no for now is anal sex, due to medical issues and really bad incidents that happened to me in the past regarding it...My Dom is interested in it, but He agreed to let me decide about when to start training for it, since I told Him the terrible story about why it is a no for me.
