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I think having content that could serve as a bridge for couples to look down the rabbit hole would be good. Individually we all have various desires, but they get shelved due to embarrassment, shame, nerves, etc.

Having had a quite a kinky streak myself, this bridging and communication with partners is always interesting, and never ending. Just because you introduce one idea or fantasy, doesn't make the next one easier or less weird.

Articles, activities, and fun contests that couples could participate in and open up together with would be beneficial. And perhaps there could be an avenue for them to share their journeys, reactions and discoveries for other people to learn from and enjoy.

You're welcome! And thank you.
These were blog article ideas I've been bouncing around the old brain.

It's almost always a jumping 'out of the closet' naked experience. Surprise! So..

Like so many things in life, from surfing to public speaking, playing violin, or communicating with a partner- Confidence is key. Confidence is sexy. Stilling the chatter of the mind and approaching something with some gravitas goes a very long way. It's a meditative process- exploring and distilling fantasy into reality, and getting a feel for the words and tone you might approach it with.

Putting some thought into the lead-in first sentence is the extent that I would suggest scripting in advance. After that it is a dialogue, and your frame of mind- being calm, confident and compassionate is more valuable than a scripted argument you are trying to deliver. Talk about increasing anxiety.. tried it.

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While outright rejection of my crass ideas is rare. A more polished sensitive approach goes along way for the vibe of the reception.

Over the years I've suggested many times bluntly "I want to tie you up, etc, etc." "I want to put etc, etc, in your ass." Sometimes is met with subdued acquiescence- both conversationally, and worse- during the play. That does not turn me on. I want a more jubilant response. More sexual tension, more friction, more excitement.

Intimate conversations are foreplay- be patient and attentive. Be aroused by the limbo land and the nerves.
So now I prefer to create some space, curiosity and some excitement.

By using some variation of a playful but serious lead-in like this:

"Hey, its been a while since we've talked about our relationship and intimacy. Lets make time tomorrow afternoon to check-in with each other and talk about our sex life."

The response is usually quite curious, "What do you want to talk about?!"
So be prepared to carry on the conversation on the spot- as a 'casual precursor' to tomorrows date.

From there urge her to share any inklings of fantasies or desired satisfactions. Don't get you're hopes up for anything radical, just check in. Then take your turn to share how etc, etc, has been turning you on, and etc, etc, is so sexy."

And be playful! "Yea I'm weird, but you're too hot. You make me weird."


Best of luck kinky people!