How did you go about starting your anal experience?

Contributor: friendly friendly
How did you go about starting your anal experience? Did you start with toys and work your way up? If so, which ones were they? Did you just have anal sex right off the bat? Was it painful? I'm curious.
10/31/2012
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Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Start with education. Research is beyond easy these days. The firs step is self exploration with external anal massage - then penetration with finger penetration - 1 then 2. When you are comfortable with that - toys are a logical next step.

Teach yourself how to do it without pain - going slow. Then as you go on with toys - always stop short of pain.

Anal play like all other forms of sex should be about pleasure.
11/01/2012
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I started with toys and have used a silicone plug. I had tried working my way up to something just smaller than my partner.

We went slow, used tons of lube, and he was super patient. My first experience with anal sex was recent and so painful I cried. He didn't do anything wrong I just couldn't handle it. His his is smaller than the shaft of his penis so it just kept getting worse for me. With the head in it actually felt kind of good. Any further than that and I was a wreck

I am determined to try again though because i think I will enjoy it once it gets comfortable for me. He loved what little he got of it though.
11/01/2012
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I started with my husband and his penis. He wanted me to be as comfortable as possible so key is to start off slow in insertion and the receiver has to be relaxed, it helps a lot to be. To be honest it is an annoying weird feeling for first few minutes. So just hang in there and keep relaxed and trust me your lover will love it. I make it a big option for my husband especially during my monthly thing (sorry to bring that up but its the truth). you will get use to it but it is annoying first few minutes like I said before. Sit and relax maybe concentrate on how enjoyable, it is for your lover it will be worth it.
11/01/2012
Contributor: Sweet-n-Playful Sweet-n-Playful
I started with anal sex right off the bat. I am not large enough to accommodate and it hurt very much, despite all efforts to lubricate and keep my muscles relaxed. I am now using toys to work my way up.
11/01/2012
Contributor: xxombie xxombie
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Originally posted by BrittaniMaree
I started with my husband and his penis. He wanted me to be as comfortable as possible so key is to start off slow in insertion and the receiver has to be relaxed, it helps a lot to be. To be honest it is an annoying weird feeling for first few ... more
I agree with Brittani on the monthly thing. Anal isn't my most favorite activity but since I do enjoy it on occasion, during your period is an excellent time to stay intimate.

Everyone so far has said what I would say; Start slow, work your way up to where you're comfortable. For me, every time is like this. It's never just all out cock/toy right in.

I would also suggest lots and lots of lube. It makes the difference between feeling terrible and feeling good. Don't be afraid to try different kinds of lubrication either. It REALLY is your best friend during anal sex. I have found what works great for me is the tingling/cooling lube from the KY Yours & Mine set. I think the extra sensation helps me relax since it's very noticeable when used anally.

The only other thing I think is worth mentioning is that you should be in control. It's your anus so you should really be the one who decides what, when, where, how much, and stop.
11/01/2012