Fulfilling Fantasies

Hi Croc,

Thanks for your advice. I appreciate it.

My fiancee is in her sexual prime. She knows that her sexual prime is finite. She is unbelievably horny 24/7/365. She has a gang bang fantasy, which is a common female fantasy. My bet is she could fuck an entire NFL team and wear out every player.

My fiancee's concern is regretting not experiencing her sexual fantasies while she was physically and psychologically capable. She does not want her sexual prime to wane with regrets.

She's had most of her sexual fantasies since late adolescence/early adulthood.

She has thought of plans for experiencing her sexual fantasies.

A couple years ago, while she was insatiably horny and after I had fucked her twice, she laid her naked body across mine and asked me if I knew a swingers club. She was more than half-looped. I found one that was in the Palm Springs area. She wasn't willing to make the drive to satisfy her elevated libido.

My fiancee's primary concerns are STD's/diseases and video of her engaging in sex acts viewable on the 'net. Other than those two, I cannot recall her mentioning boundaries.

Her dominant sexual fantasy is MFM sex. She'll vacillate between her other sexual fantasies. Recently she's been on her black men fantasy. She wants to be held "captive" by handsome, athletic black men who'll use and abuse her nearly perfect naked body for their sexual pleasure...and hers. My fiancee has always been attracted to handsome, athletic black men.

BTW, most women rank MFM sex as their primary sexual fantasy. My fiancee has had her MFM sex fantasy since high school. She had her first and only (until very recently) MFM sex in college. She has had many, many MFM sexual experience during college with the same to college classmate. She absolutely loved sexual euphoria of being a porn star for two men who came all night long. So did she. Their MFM sex intermission was a shower so she would was their dried cum off of her body and shampoo their matted cum out of her matted bush. Taking showers with two men who washed her body and pampered her was sexually exhilarating for her. It's her most reminisced sexual experience of her college days. Many of her sorority sisters did MFM sex.

My fiancee has two married girlfriends who are swingers. They routinely engage in orgies and multiple men sex. However, they endure a lot of stress emanating from hiding their sexual activities from their kids and extended families. My fiancee does not want to bring that stress to our marriage. Hence, she wants to experience her fantasies before we unite as one at an altar.

Hi Leil,

Thanks.

It's extremely rare for a man and woman to be totally sexually compatible, best friends, and in love with each other. You are 100% right, men and women should be involved in each other's sex lives.

As a man, I can tell you that the worst mistake a man can make is demean a woman for her sexual history. What a woman has done and how many men she's done is only her business. A woman must never be judged for her sexual history. I'd love my fiancee just as much if she were a former porn star.

All women must be able to trust their husbands/boyfriends with their most hidden sexual secrets. If they cannot completely trust their husbands/boyfriends to not judge them for their sexual histories, their relationships are built on illusions.

My fiancee and I were extremely sexually active before we began dating. We both love sex and the identical sex. We both love hard, rough, nasty, hair pulling, ass slapping, dirty talking sex. My bed is always a shambles after sex and I'm usually worn out (she's always ready to go again-and-again while I'm usually worn out). She literally craves sexual euphoria. Truth be told, I do most of the work. She loves to be pushed, pulled, and tossed. She has told me that I cannot fuck her hard enough to hurt her. She's not a toy. She will not break.

I absolutely adore my fiancee's sexuality. I love her incredible sexual intensity because she is not reticent to talk about sex candidly. My guess is most women are reluctant to tell their husbands/boyfriends about their sexual fantasies and sexual experiences for fear of harsh judgment. My fiancee is able to tell me anything about sex knowing that I will never, ever judge her. My fiancee told me very early in our dating relationship that I am the only man she has ever known with whom she has been totally comfortable talking about her sexual experiences and her sexual fantasies.

BTW, I know and/or met at least five guys my fiancee used to fuck. Her close male friend, with whom we'll socialize and whom she invited to be the other guy in our recent MFM sex, is a former boyfriend. She has told me in detail about their sexual activity as though she was obligate for full disclosure. She did not want me to think that she was hiding something from me when she introduced him to me. I was able to figure out that if he used to be her boyfriend, he used to fuck her. He did, almost every day and often more than once a day. I get along very good with her male friend. He's genuinely nice. He does regret breaking up with her. She has never told him that she was ready to move on, but he made the move before she did. She still loves him as a close friend, but she has never been in love with him.

My fiancee has an extremely healthy and realistic view of sex. She views sex as normal and natural. She does not believe sex is a subject that should be silenced. On the contrary, we both believe and open and honest communication about sex is essential for a healthy and enduring relationship.

Men are easy. Once they cum, they're happy. Lots of men have FMF sex fantasies. I don't. My fiancee has offered FMF sex to me as an implied quid pro quo for her MFM sex fantasy. I told her that I couldn't handle her let alone another woman. My fantasy is for my fiancee to experience any fantasy she desires. When sex is over, she'll awake next to me.

My fiancee has an adorable, innocent, and completely honest manner in which she'll talk about sex. Especially when she's drinking, she can almost lose herself in reliving sexual ecstasy while telling me how much she loved fucking a couple of her former boyfriends while their male roommates were watching her. She knew they were watching her fuck her boyfriends. Her boyfriends' roommates assumed she didn't know. So she put on incredible porn shows for her boyfriends' roommates. She has always loved to have sex in front of male audiences. It turned her on knowing that other guys were turned on and probably jacking off to her incredible body and her fucking performances.

When my fiancee gets in to detail about how a guy performed a sex act on her or how she gave blow jobs, she'll get me an eyelash away from shooting a wad in my pants. We consider it foreplay before we get naked. She enjoys listening to my sexual experiences, too.

I've joined this site to figure out how I should proceed with fulfilling my fiancee's sexual fantasies and whether I should encourage her to fulfill her fantasies while they're consuming much of her sexual thoughts and she's in her sexual prime.

I'm not jealous. I know that my fiancee knows sex for euphoric pleasure and sex as an expression of love.

I'll always remember that absolutely adorable and matter-of-fact way she asked me to the effect, "If having sex caused me to experience sexual euphoria, why would I not have sex?"

I have read enough research that women's orgasms can have an almost intoxicating effect. Women's brains release myriad of euphoric chemicals at orgasm. Hence, healthy, uninhibited women who love sex can become quasi-addicted to orgasm. My fiancee has asked me many times whether I thought she was a nymphomaniac. I have no clue of what would define a nymphomaniac. I've reassured her that she has an extremely healthy attitude about sex, receives tremendous euphoric pleasure from sex, and her desire for sex is completely normal, especially considering that she's in her sexual prime.

The next she brings up her fantasy of sex slave held captive by black men for their sexual pleasure...and hers, I'll ask her how she plans on experiencing it. I'm curious to know how deeply she has considered it. Will she want me to participate? Watch? Protect her should one of her black bulls gets too carried away? Would her multiple black men sex fantasy count as her gang bang fantasy? Who knows? But she'll be completely honest with me if I were to ask her. I do know that she has a pronounced black men fantasy.

Outside of a bedroom, it would be easy to assume that my fiancee is Puritanical who has sex with lights out and missionary. If people only knew the extent of her sexuality.

I've never loved a woman as much as I love my fiancee. We really are two of a very special kind.

With all due respect to you, Sancho01, I'm not really sure what your end goal is here.

You say:

"I've joined this site to figure out how I should proceed with fulfilling my fiancee's sexual fantasies and whether I should encourage her to fulfill her fantasies while they're consuming much of her sexual thoughts and she's in her sexual prime."

Yet with several of the responses from our community members, you don't accept what they have to say, and even go further to share with them 'the correct view', which is obviously yours. I don't always agree with what other Eden community members have to say but I never tell them that 'what they think they know is really a huge croc of crap'. It's just rude, disrespectful and unnecessary.

So far, all I have read in your posts is the same information about your SO in roughly 40+ different discussions. It seems that you and your SO are doing just fine and that you have a wonderful relationship with her. And she has a great sex life and you have a great sex life, and together you both have an awesome sex life. So I just sit here and wonder-- what exactly is your end goal for posting if you already know the key to relationship happiness--to this perfect, blissful relationship that you have already established with this wonderful woman that you have already shared so much information about with us, and you already know the answers to all of the questions that you have posed. Did you just want to tell us about her? Wonderful if that's it. I feel as if I know her personally now. But when people treat others badly, my bad side tends to come out and late at night, my facetious side also tends to rear its ugly head.

Could there possibly be anything that you could learn from us?? us on Eden--just groveling along day to day.... in our sexual ignorance.....?