THE TALK. Was "anal" part of it for you? Will it be when YOU give it to your kids?

Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I remember my father leaving a copy of The Joy of Sex lying around.

I thought I had to be a hairy hippy to have sex. (Anyone who remembers the 70s version of TJoS will know what I'm talking about.)
I sure do remember that book. Got it when I went to college. Still have it too, buried somewhere in the cellar.
09/01/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
Never spoke about "anal" when I got the talk. Not sure if I will include it in the conversation for my kids.
09/14/2011
Contributor: Love Bites Love Bites
I heard about anal sex during the talk. I was told that it could hurt, but if your partner is gentle and caring, it can be as fantastic as regular sex. I was told that I should never do it if I didn't want to, and not to rush, to start slow.

I think I will take the same approach with any kids that I have. Anal is still sex, and just as intimate and important to discuss as vaginal sex. I think it would have scared me a lot if I hadn't been told about it.
09/14/2011
Contributor: MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
anal sex is just another kind of sex, just as blowjobs and titty fucking will probably be mentioned, so will assplay.
09/14/2011
Contributor: PunkyB PunkyB
I never got a serious sex talk from my parents. I am not sure how I will aproach it with my son... hes still a toddler though so I guess Ill cross that bridge when I get there
09/15/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
No, I wont go there with them....
09/19/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
I won't be having children at all but if any of my friend's offspring come to me with questions, I will answer them and have them be informed, whether my friend approves of it or not. They will be informed unlike most children/teenagers/man y adults today.
11/19/2011
Contributor: whitknee whitknee
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Originally posted by Bignuf
We had a big time discussion among our close friends last night. All are into anal with their spouses, but NONE there spoke a word about it when they had "the talk" to their kids, growing up. None of them heard a word about it either. ... more
i cant even remember how i learned..
12/14/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
It wasn't mentioned.
12/19/2011
Contributor: null null
Bahaha that'd be so terrible...
My mom told me sex is only for making babies, not for enjoyment, and I think she likes to imagine anal and oral do not exist.
12/19/2011
Contributor: shinypinkstars shinypinkstars
Kids are in middle school and high school so they know about it. We have talked about risk of STDS w/it,safety, etc.
12/19/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I never had a sex talk, as the channel of communication was always open and I could ask if I had questions, but I had a book designed to teach younger kids about sex, and I learned a decent bit from the internet and sex ed in school, and it just continued from there.
I don't plan on children, but if I did, I'd probably point them in the direction of resources that I know to be factual and reliable, in order to teach them. That might be different if I actually WANTED kids instead of just thinking about it hypothetically, but... yeah!
12/20/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
I feel like there is so much that goes into regular intercourse, I wouldn't want to overload them, so gonna leave anal out of 'the talk'. I will recommend some great resources though and they can learn ore if they are interested.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Dirminxia Dirminxia
I never got the talk, I never needed it. i grew up on the beaches of the Mediterranean, and anyone who has been there knows that more often then not, sex is something you can find pretty much anywhere you look.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I never really had "the talk". I was just allowed to ask whatever questions I wanted. I never asked about anal, because by the time I really found out about it I had the Internet to look it up on.

If I had kids, sure. I can think of easy and non-weird ways to present it if we're already talking about modes of pleasure.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Positwist Positwist
My parents never really had "the talk" with me. They've always been open with me and receptive to my questions, so stuff came up in drips and drabs.

I don't plan on having kids, but I'm already excitedly plotting what I'm going to do with my eventual god kids. I have free reign to corrupt them however I see fit, so you bet I'm going to be super sex-positive godma. Anal included, of course.

It boggles the mind that our culture pretends no one has anal sex. Why not save our kids from torn buttholes and let them in on the secrets, ya know?
04/10/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
Yep! Along with oral, though nothing in-depth. It was pretty much "sometimes people have these other kinds of sex, and /they are still sex/, don't let some boy try to tell you otherwise!" I was welcome to talk more about it if I had any questions, but I didn't, so that was the end of it.
04/10/2012
Contributor: blackadeezee blackadeezee
I never got "the talk" I learned about sex in very negative ways from the very person who was supposed to protect me from that, at such a young age. I FULLY intend to talk my my daughter when she is older. At her age (5) she knows that her "special" parts are for her eyes only, unless she is hurt and then only her parent or a DR can look at her. Once she is old enough (a couple years from now) we will start talking about more. I fully intend on being open with her, about what she will go through. Im no idiot, I know as a teenager she will have sex but hopefully I can make sure she isnt as uninformed as I was, so she can protect herself. I want her to know sex in natural, I dont want her to hide from us. I wouldnt be happy if she lost her virginity at like 15 or so, but I would expect it around 16 or 17 maybe. As long as she is open, doesnt lie, or hide from her parents, I wouldnt hold it against her.
04/24/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
I wasn't told about anal, nor does it appeal to me now. As for telling my children about it... I'm not sure.
04/24/2012
Contributor: godweensatan godweensatan
If I ever multiply (have kids) and I will them that Anal with a condom is like heaven on earth. And if you are in a long term relationship...lose the condom and feel a grand load blown inside your butt....even better...

and this i why ill never have kids... I will never grow up
04/26/2012
Contributor: Various Various
I never really had 'the talk' from my parents, and I'm pretty certain the talk with my children will be along the lines of "Sex is not bad, it is perfectly fine to have sex, but please use precaution and be aware of the responsibility you are taking on. I would like you to wait until you are in a long term committed relationship, but only you can decide when you are ready. If you do desire to have sex, please use protection and girlies, don't be afraid to tell me so we can go get some birth control. Please don't be embarrassed to ask any questions, because I certainly don't mind answering them"

I don't really feel like anal or oral needs to be brought up unless it is asked about.
04/26/2012