Does anal really feel that good? And if so, is it mostly exclusive to males?

Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I've let my boyfriend fuck me in the ass a few times and it's only hurt and felt uncomfortable. It felt like I was taking a number two! We didn't warm up or anything but we did use lube.

When I do it to him however (using a vibrator), he seems to really enjoy it. It hurts him at first but after a while, he ends up liking it. However, he just likes the vibrations and moving it back and forth too much just hurts him.

Should it feel good for me, too? Do I just have to work up to the point where being penetrated by my boyfriend or a toy doesn't hurt anymore (and the same for him, as well, of course)? And another thing: I want to eventually peg my boyfriend. Right now, he's not entirely receptive to the idea because he likes the vibrations but, again, the back-and-forth hurts him. Until then, I thought we could try smaller toys designed to massage his prostate (and maybe my own hands if I can bring myself to doing it). Where is the prostate, though?

I'm such a newb.
12/18/2011
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Contributor: MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
From a man's perspective, I would imagine it wasn't exactly the greatest feeling in the world when you were first penetrated vaginally. If it was a pleasant experience, excuse my rudeness and off the wall remark. If it was a little on the uncomfy side, then that is the point I am trying to make. With a little patience, experience, and trying to find out what feels good, the anus works in much the same way for both males and females. I started small (i.e. fingers, self-experimentation), trying to figure out what felt good for me. I have graduated up to toys and p-spot toys. I have not been pegged, but would be up for the possibility. Although I would imagine it varies from man to man, the prostate is generally located about about an inch to 2 inches inside the anus and is shaped like a walnut. I would recommend partner laying on his back. Once located, move your well lubed finger(s) in an upward motion along the wall of the rectal lining that faces the front of his body. Try to locate a round bulb of tissue — this is the prostate. Once you locate this area, move your finger(s) in a "come here" motion, as if you were asking someone to move closer to you so that you could whisper a secret.

For both of you, are you supposed to like anal play? Uhhmmm, no, obviously it is not for everyone. Patience, lots of lube, starting out slow at first and not rushing into it are the best advice I can give. And obviously if it is painful or you are not comfortable, try another day, and once again, take small steps!

Hope this helps....patience Grasshopper's, no need to rush!
12/18/2011
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by MrWishyWashy
From a man's perspective, I would imagine it wasn't exactly the greatest feeling in the world when you were first penetrated vaginally. If it was a pleasant experience, excuse my rudeness and off the wall remark. If it was a little on the ... more
You're right. My first time was painful and didn't really feel all that great so I understand where you're coming from. Maybe I can convince him to get us smaller things to try first and who knows where we'll end up? Thanks!
12/18/2011
Contributor: cmm cmm
Put it this way, my girlfriend wasn't sure at all about it, but now she almost exclusively prefers it. She claims the orgasms are far more intense than regular vaginal intercourse. The only real hurdle a couple has to get past with anal sex is the stretching of the anus to the point where it's comfortable to have sex.
12/23/2011