DP: Can anyone do it?

Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
So I really want to be able to DP with my partner and a toy but I'm not sure I'll be able to. I've tried inserting a toy vaginally while he was already inserted anally and I could do it but he said he could feel it anally and it hurt, there wasn't enough room left for him. The toy I was using was not very thick (4.5 inches around at it's thickest) and it was silicone so it was flexible. Is there anyway that I could stretch myself out more to be able to do this or any positions you would suggest or is my anatomy just not big enough to ever do it?
07/13/2012
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Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
You can't "stretch" yourself permanently. But, when aroused the vagina does expand and open more and you can work with it. I have very little room in my pelvis, (I have a contracted android pelvis and cannot even give birth vaginally doing all the right things) but we can DP with a vaginal toy and him in the back door. The more aroused you are, the better. I have to have an orgasm before I can have anal sex. Maybe that would help you relax and "loosen" things up temporarily. But, your body will always go back to the way it was after a short period of time.

We had to work up to it, but I found anal sex easier with something vaginally placed. It just works better for me.

Have you tried putting a slim vibe or dildo in vaginally first then lube up and gently try with him? Even with a lot of experience, I would say it takes several minutes of thrusting before My Man can get in anally even now. He is just really gentle at first and barely makes any penetration and it happens gradually.

That's the best advice I have for you. Good luck.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
Thanks, I'll have to try it that way next time
07/13/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
Your anatomy sounds like mine! I agree with P'Gell have whatever inserted vaginally first and then insert the anally. I find it best to have my partner be vaginal and a dildo to be use anally. It just works better for my anatomy. I can use a toy vaginally while he is inside me anally, but it's somewhat uncomfortable.

I have the best luck with silicone dildos or plugs. I use the plugs when he wants to be vaginally and I use the dildos when he wants to be anally. The dildo that has worked for me is Sedeux Please and the plugs that work are Mood Naughty Small and Beginner Anal Kit.

I'm looking for a vibrator, but so far haven't found a good one for anal.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
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Originally posted by Beck
Your anatomy sounds like mine! I agree with P'Gell have whatever inserted vaginally first and then insert the anally. I find it best to have my partner be vaginal and a dildo to be use anally. It just works better for my anatomy. I can use a toy ... more
Thanks for the suggestions! I've actually been looking at the mood naughty but unfortunately it was out of stock last time I placed an order
07/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Bex1331
So I really want to be able to DP with my partner and a toy but I'm not sure I'll be able to. I've tried inserting a toy vaginally while he was already inserted anally and I could do it but he said he could feel it anally and it hurt, ... more
4.5 inches is NOT slender. Get something REALLY thin, but with a safe base, or a REALLY slender anal plug, that will stay in due to a thin neck on it. THEN have him try and enter you vaginally. OR, have hubby in the back door and use some very slender toys, or even a small vibrating egg, vaginally, to give him a little "buzz" back there. EXPERIMENT...but stretching you out will NOT solve that problem. Good luck with this.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by P'Gell
You can't "stretch" yourself permanently. But, when aroused the vagina does expand and open more and you can work with it. I have very little room in my pelvis, (I have a contracted android pelvis and cannot even give birth vaginally ... more
Never tried to see if anal is "easier" after an orgasm or with a toy in the vagina. Never thought to try. Going to have to experiment on that. THANKS for a creative idea for this weekend.
07/13/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
I found that out last night, I purchased larger anal beads and there was no way my husband was getting in vaginally and it was quite uncomfortable
07/13/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I only do DP using my anal plug because it makes me super sensitive, and doesn't get in the way when my husband's taking me vaginally.
07/13/2012
Contributor: Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Bex1331
So I really want to be able to DP with my partner and a toy but I'm not sure I'll be able to. I've tried inserting a toy vaginally while he was already inserted anally and I could do it but he said he could feel it anally and it hurt, ... more
I don't know, but I would like to try it!!
07/13/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Interesting threat- thanks to P'Gell, Beck, Bignuf and Rossie for their useful advice.
07/14/2012