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Contributor: DELETED DELETED
Ok, here I go again asking questions because I am so unexperienced..Is anal sex more fun or pain? I only recently experienced having a tongue up there in my virginal ass which I loved and have also enjoyed a probing finger from a lover but never a cock..I am sooooooooooooo curious to know if it is really fan"fucking"tastic as one of my girlfriends has told me.. I have been reading about anal orgasms which really has me thinking about getting on all fours soon! So any anal lovers out there? What's it like??
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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01/07/2010
Contributor: Holly Hox Holly Hox
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, here I go again asking questions because I am so unexperienced..Is anal sex more fun or pain? I only recently experienced having a tongue up there in my virginal ass which I loved and have also enjoyed a probing finger from a lover but never a ... more
I am curious about this too. MY hubby isn't really into it, but I am very curious. A finger is good, and i've even used a smaller toy which I liked. But I am wondering if it is actually as great as everyone says, if maybe I can convince my hubby.
01/07/2010
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
A lot of community members LOVE it! I've never tried it but am very curious.
01/07/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
With me, yes. I almost always enjoy anal sex when I'm involved.

don't rush it, don't under-prepare. BREATHE!

LUBELUBELUBE!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Anal sex can be awesome and mind blowing but can also be a major pain in the ass. I love to get it and I love to give it via a strap-on.
There is so much information in older forum posts and of course check out Tristan Taormino's vid, "Expert Guide To Anal Sex". "Bend Over Boyfriend" is also a decent intro vid.
Butt plugs are also a source of pleasure, start small and use plenty of lube. The Ryder is always a favorite plug and a great warm up. Masturbation with a butt plug in your ass, can be so hot both for gals and guys. Patience and relaxation are also key. It is so worth it!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Mp4 Mp4
As a guy I've always had fun recieving anal sex. If it's painful then you need to slow down, try to relax and possibly use more lube. I get fucked almost daily and it's always amazing.
01/07/2010
Contributor: Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Yes! I have to say that I've had some of my best orgasms with anal, and my partner loves it too. Seriously, everyone should try it, and more than once! The first time might not be so wonderful, but just like vaginal sex, it takes practice to figure out what works best for you and your partner.

Like others have said, patience, lube, and a considerate partner. It can really hurt and be very harmful, so be sure to communicate. Relaxing is very important too; if you're too tense it's just not going to work out.
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Liz2
Anal sex can be awesome and mind blowing but can also be a major pain in the ass. I love to get it and I love to give it via a strap-on.
There is so much information in older forum posts and of course check out Tristan Taormino's vid, ... more
I love the butt plug idea! I masturbate too much now!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Mp4
As a guy I've always had fun recieving anal sex. If it's painful then you need to slow down, try to relax and possibly use more lube. I get fucked almost daily and it's always amazing.
You must have some incredible ass, dude!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Lithaewyn
Yes! I have to say that I've had some of my best orgasms with anal, and my partner loves it too. Seriously, everyone should try it, and more than once! The first time might not be so wonderful, but just like vaginal sex, it takes practice to ... more
I want to try it..for me, anything involving my ass is hot!!
01/07/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
You've already taken the first step, which is to realize that anal play can be pleasurable, and mentally opening yourself to the possibility. Good start, but you do have some more work ahead for you.

You need to learn how to relax and take something into your rectum.

Go slow, and start with small things (fingers, toys). Use plenty of lube, and takes as much time as you need.

In answer to your question: since you've tried anal play and know you like it, then yes, anal sex will be fun for you if you take the time to do it right (and your partner does, too).
01/07/2010
Contributor: Miss Jane Miss Jane
Anal sex is fun *when it's done right*. My first attempt at anal sex was EPIC FAIL and it turned me off of it for a long time. Though I don't have the "awesome anal orgasms" I hear about, it's something that both me and the boyfriend enjoy a lot.

Start slow.

Use lots of lube, and use a good, thick one.

Ease into it. There might be a little initial discomfort until you relax enough, but if it ever really *hurts*, stop and take it slower.

Also, a lot of people use desensitizing lubes. Don't. Sure, you'll be able to take all of him all at once faster.. but is it really worth if for the possible anal rip? Ouch. Talk about an awkward hospital visit.
01/07/2010
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by DELETED
I love the butt plug idea! I masturbate too much now!!
You only masturbate too much if you are missing classes, work, meals or neglectine hygiene.
01/08/2010
Contributor: DELETED DELETED
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Originally posted by Liz2
You only masturbate too much if you are missing classes, work, meals or neglectine hygiene.
Well, I am not missing classes or work and I shower every day!! So I'm good to continue the "self pleasuring" that I enjoy!!!
01/08/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Liz2
You only masturbate too much if you are missing classes, work, meals or neglectine hygiene.
oh, there IS a yardstick to measure by...whew! Thanks Liz2!
01/08/2010
Contributor: Mp4 Mp4
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Originally posted by DELETED
You must have some incredible ass, dude!!
That I do....

2-5x a day is not uncommon for us at all. Having a gallon of wet platinum helps out a lot.
01/08/2010
Contributor: ♥ Amanda ♥ ♥ Amanda ♥
Anal sex is amazing! I just think it depends on what size you are using. I prefer a smaller size anally myself
01/08/2010
Contributor: Bee24 Bee24
Anal sex is soo amazing and is a must to atleast try once. I would recommend to start out small and work your way up to larger girths and lengths. I still do prefer vaginal sex over anal but i would say i want anal just as much as i want vaginal sex. I agree with the others to always breathe, relax and have fun
01/11/2010
Contributor: smokey195813 smokey195813
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, here I go again asking questions because I am so unexperienced..Is anal sex more fun or pain? I only recently experienced having a tongue up there in my virginal ass which I loved and have also enjoyed a probing finger from a lover but never a ... more
Nancy it's GREAT when you learn to relax.Relaxing is the key,take your time and use some good waterbase lube,I rub lube on and then put some on my finger and push it inside some first.You might want to practice by your self for a while. I've been enjoying it since I was a young boy.I expeirenced my first anal orgasm when I was about 13 and I've been hooked and enjoying many different objects from around the house since.
Start with something smooth and small first then gradualy go to larger longer objects.I started with an unused pencil and went up from there,hehe. I'm always on a search for something new,larger and longer that I've never used.
I'm always trying to see how big around and how long I can put up my ass.
I can I now can f... myself with a rubber penis thats about 2 1/2 inches thick and 12 inches insertable length all the way to its big rubber balls.(not the largest but the longest to date) As I said practice, I'm now 51 yrs old and ass f... weekly mostly by myself. My wife has a really big strap on she uses on me not sure of its size but I'm stretched and full of dick while she's on top, missionary style I've found to be the best for me,doggy style is pretty good to.Be patient,relax and PRACTICE,PRACTICE,PRAC TICE.Good Luck and Good Fu..ing
02/20/2010
Contributor: KBToys24 KBToys24
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Originally posted by Mp4
That I do....

2-5x a day is not uncommon for us at all. Having a gallon of wet platinum helps out a lot.
Just had to mention... I am utterly jealous


Anal sex is great to me. I suggest alone playtime to anyone new to it because you are in complete control of the situation and can take as much time as you want. Like everyone has said, take it slow and relax, but also make sure your partner understands the no matter what they may want when you say slow down or stop, they do it -_- (kinda sad that I have to mention that but reality n all)
02/20/2010
Contributor: Snozzberries Snozzberries
I LOVE IT. I can have a squirting orgasm just from anal penetration. It's different than when I have a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, but only different like chocolate and vanilla ice cream are different - I like both, they're just different flavors.

Great, now I want icecream and buttsex. ... maybe not both at once.
03/09/2010
Contributor: lovr lovr
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, here I go again asking questions because I am so unexperienced..Is anal sex more fun or pain? I only recently experienced having a tongue up there in my virginal ass which I loved and have also enjoyed a probing finger from a lover but never a ... more
its like being a virgin all over again =]
01/09/2011
Contributor: lovr lovr
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Originally posted by Snozzberries
I LOVE IT. I can have a squirting orgasm just from anal penetration. It's different than when I have a vaginal or clitoral orgasm, but only different like chocolate and vanilla ice cream are different - I like both, they're just different ... more
both at the same time would b awesome
01/09/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Butt sex is great! It feels so unlike anything else. It feels good, with the proper warm up! I'll second that is can be like being a virgin all over again!
01/10/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
It's VERY FUN!
05/27/2011
Contributor: Brianna91 Brianna91
It's far and away the best. For my partner and I oral and anal is all we do really. It's been awhile since I've even had vaginal sex. And I can't say my early experiences were horror stories either, and that it got better. My first time didn't hurt since I'd been masturbating that way with my vibrator. It began good and months later was fan"fucking"tastic as you say! I admit too I'm a size queen, maybe because I've done it often over the last four years. Seriously I stand about 5 ft and weigh just over 100 lbs and my booty totally handles the meaty cannon the guy I'm with now has. Overwhelmed in every best sense of the word! Never understood it when someone I know might talk about how it hurt them so much? Two things stand out right away, they're almost always physically larger than me, and they weren't crazy about the idea to start with. That's really the main obstacle, not the sphincter muscles! S-T-R-E-T-C-H !!! those muscles and go DEEP! Lol

Another way I tend to differ is the way nearly everyone screams LUBE LUBE LUBE and MORE LUBE! Really? There IS such a thing as too much of it you know. And that comes from a girl who loves it slow and deep and then fast and hard from a man who is thankfully freakishly hung, and using no more than modest amount of vaseline or platinum wet lately.
05/27/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by DELETED
Ok, here I go again asking questions because I am so unexperienced..Is anal sex more fun or pain? I only recently experienced having a tongue up there in my virginal ass which I loved and have also enjoyed a probing finger from a lover but never a ... more
NO anal should ever hurt. If something causes pain...especially there. STOP. Pain is a warning and you don't want warnings from sensitive spots on the body. TONS of lube (too much and then add more!!!) and SLOW, SLOW, SLOW till everything is slick and comfortable is the ONLY way to do anal right. Should be all gain, and ZERO pain. Also, NEVER do the POUNDING or RAMMING thing. That tissue is just not designed for it.
06/08/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Brianna91
It's far and away the best. For my partner and I oral and anal is all we do really. It's been awhile since I've even had vaginal sex. And I can't say my early experiences were horror stories either, and that it got better. My first ... more
It's much better to start with too much lube and then move down then to start with not enough.
06/11/2011
Contributor: earthmama earthmama
So far I consider it neither bad nor good. On the whole I prefer other things. It's just too much logistically involved for me to really consider it a regular go-to activity sexually. It isn't bad, but I don't get anything special out of it.
03/09/2013