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Contributor: Zandrock Zandrock
When stimulated anally, do you lose your erection?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
I go a bit soft, but not all the way
2  (6%)
No
9  (26%)
Sometimes
21  (60%)
Other (explain)
3  (9%)
Total votes: 35
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Depends. Mainly only with something thicker, so sometimes.
07/24/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
For most guys this will be "sometimes" When playing anally don't use the penis as a gauge for how much he likes it.
07/25/2012
Contributor: NightKat NightKat
ScottA is absolutely right. We can't really control that, it does happen sometimes.
07/25/2012
Contributor: Why Not? Why Not?
Nope. It usually makes me harder. I realize I may be the outlier in these statistics though.
07/25/2012
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
My hub has never been touched
07/25/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
If there is no penile stimulation I will, but mostly this only happens when I am going solo. It is a tremendous turn on when the wife is at the controls so it is never a problem there.
07/25/2012
Contributor: AbbyLover AbbyLover
if i push then i lose it. but if i relax i dont
07/25/2012
Contributor: AbbyLover AbbyLover
Quote:
Originally posted by mrs.mckrakn
My hub has never been touched
its time lol
07/25/2012
Contributor: TheHardOne TheHardOne
Depeneds on the toy. I don't like anything thick.
07/26/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
I soften a bit, but I find it more relaxing than arousing when my girlfriend is back there.
07/26/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
When stimulated anally, do you lose your erection?
It is SO odd....and you ask a great question. Sometimes my erection is rock hard when my wife is playing "back there" and other times I go pretty soft,even though I am turned on. Not sure why that happens.

Once, as she had her finger in my rear and was playing with my prostate and sucking on me, I simply was STAYING soft (my brain was screaming WOW...turned on), then INSTANTLY I got a rock hard Woodie, CAME LIKE A GEYSER (she never chokes, but that time, my cum must have hit the back of her throat so hard she almost did)!, and then was instantly soft again.
It was SO strange we still marvel at how that happened, and don't understand the physiology of WHY???!!!
07/27/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ganconagh
I soften a bit, but I find it more relaxing than arousing when my girlfriend is back there.
That may be part of it. It is very sexy, but yes, relaxing too. In fact, that effect may go both ways. She has NEVER fallen asleep on me during oral, or vaginal play, but she has a COUPLE times when I have her fully anally penetrated. Seemed odd, as that can be very stimulating,but she said she just felt "satisfied and relaxed"!!!! It's all good.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by AbbyLover
if i push then i lose it. but if i relax i dont
Interesting observation. Must try this.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TheHardOne
Depeneds on the toy. I don't like anything thick.
We only play with thin toys on both of our bottoms, but sometimes I am still hard, and other times, pretty soft, so the toy connection doesn't seem to be the issue or modality changing my reaction in this case.
07/27/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Why Not?
Nope. It usually makes me harder. I realize I may be the outlier in these statistics though.
Indeed. Sometimes it does give me a rock hard erection...other times, it makes me LOSE the one I have. Does your get harder when she has you penetrated with something??? External anal stimulation always give me a hard erection, it is penetration that can change things up and cause a complex set of reactions.
07/27/2012
Contributor: aimtoplease aimtoplease
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
When stimulated anally, do you lose your erection?
depends on what else is going on
07/27/2012
Contributor: panda555 panda555
If I am doing it myself with a toy I go soft for a bit then hard if it's done by someone else I am hard the whole time
07/28/2012
Contributor: stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
Sometimes, but that doesn't mean I'm not enjoying it, or real close to getting off.
07/28/2012
Contributor: squire squire
Another example of how we are a penis focused culture rather than viewing our sexuality as an expression of our inner-selves and our energy Nice to see like minded people emphasize the process of experiencing pleasure rather than focusing on a bench mark !
07/28/2012
Contributor: garylangworthy420 garylangworthy420
ive never lost it during anal
07/28/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Why Not?
Nope. It usually makes me harder. I realize I may be the outlier in these statistics though.
Same here!
04/04/2013
Contributor: Yellow Dog Yellow Dog
Nope. Purple rager, generally, and especially with a c-ring involved.

That's what makes it so frustrating (in a good way, generally), not being able to "arrive" without penile stimulation.
04/04/2013
Contributor: AF AF
It has all got to do with your pelvic-floor muscle (the one you uses to prevent peeing (or orgasm) when contracting): when you relax your anal sphincters you have to relax your pelvic-floor muscles -> less erection. When you contract your pelvic-muscles, the erection gets stronger (less anal relaxing). However..an erection with a buttplug is trainable, just takes time (pilates could be beneficial haha)
04/12/2013