I don't know about this for everyone but I know it works for some. With my partner, I like to use toys on him while he jerks himself off until he cums, and it always seems to be a larger volume once his prostate has been stimulated.

Very real. My wife gets close,but usually if i use a vibrator i can get it to happen myself.

how far in does she put her finger? Like all the way in or partially. and is the prostate gland noticeable or do u have to already know what u r looking for?

It's easiest to find it when the guy is already aroused...the prostate will firm up and enlarge, making it easier to find. She usually has her finger all the way in when she's fingering/massaging my prostate - she tells me it's far easier and less tiring to use two fingers (the first two), rather than just her middle. A nice glass dildo is good too, but wifey just *loves* sticking her fingers in my ass

I do it to my lover all the time. I use a well lubed finger and simply rub his prostate gently, without touching anything else. He still has a HARD orgasm in about two minutes that way. It is really a big TEASE however, since most of the time, when I am playing with his prostate, I enjoy sucking on him and it turns his "10 scale" "BIG O" into a 20!!!!!

WOW...any time I have played with my hubbys prostate, it is all stars, gushing, contractions, moans and shudders. He has NEVER not had a powerful ejaculation. Frankly, since I am usually have my lips firmly around his tool at that moment (as I often do anyway), I KNOW how hard he cums that way, since I can FEEL the power as it hits the back of my throat!!! He goes from "squirt, squirt" normally, to "fire hose". I love it. Only gagged ONCE when he has come (after being together 36 years now) and that was after teasing the heck out of his prostate and NOT letting him get to the edge for about an hour. When he DID cum, his ejaculate HIT my tonsil so hard I coughed for about five minutes...then we both laughed our butts off!!!!!!!!!

If you use your index finger, which is MOST sensitive to touch, you will learn where the prostate is quickly. After that you can use other fingers. I use my middle finger as a rule. Anyway, just use WELL lubed finger (best if you sacrifice the nail and clip it short, for safety, really....your man will look at that finger and CHERISH you for he KNOWS it is for HIM), anyway, insert it AIMING FORWARD towards his BELLY BUTTON. GO as far as you need to (I have my finger in ALL THE WAY...but I know with a previous lover it was NOT in so deep), and then you will feel what really does feel like a WALNUT SURFACE. A walnut shaped, sized and textured (although SOFT, of course) organ. THAT is the prostate. DON'T bang it, scratch it or hurt it...it is DELICATE. Just massage it, up and down or around and the results will be amazing. Combine it with oral or a hand job with the other hand and your guy will have a more intense orgasm then he has EVER had...and he will likely thank you for it in a million ways!!!!

My hubby is SO odd this way. We have tried every "P" spot vibe and toy in the world on him, and NOTHING hits that spot...EVER...except my fingers. Some of the expensive and best rated toys just "hurt" according to him..and he has no reason to lie about it. Every time some new "P" spot toy comes out, we buy it, try it and it then rots away in the bottom of the closet. Sad, but true. We wonder if HE is the only man in this situation? I will say, with MY FINGER, it is a 100% success rate. Always has been. Decades ago, he was "schooled" in anal sex by a previous lover, and she was "good" at prostate massages, but he still swears that "I AM THE BEST EVER" back there. Hum....he BETTER think so!!!
I let him play in my sensitive tushy all the time too...but he has never yet found MY prostate (THAT'S A JOKE PEOPLE!!!)...but I tell him to "keep looking...maybe some day"!!!!

Indeed, I can make my hubby explode just with prostate play, but it is SUCH a tease thing to do to the poor guy. Plus it wastes all that yummy precious juice he makes just for me!!!! Can't do THAT too often can we? Waste not, want not.

Word on the street is that he can now find your prostate. The G-spot is now referred to semi-officially as the "female prostate". He even has his choice of orifices to use.

Wow that sounds so hot! Wish I could get an o like that!

Some guy's can't seem to have a prostate orgasm, though if you really want to be "milked" and can get something big enough to squeeze the prostate up there I'll guarantee that you can get something out - though the experience might not be as pleasant as you were wanting.

I think that this is one of those things where terminology is too loose. "Milking" is used for too many things, some orgasmic, others a component of BDSM and orgasm denial.

Agreed, "Milking" to me only refers to massaging the prostate to release stagnant fluid from the gland. Stimulation (including massaging) of the gland leads to O's (Of one form or another).

Seems like some guys can have the Super O's, some blended O's, some just get anal O's and some can even get an O without ejaculation. As with most things, we are all different. I have heard that some guys can take a year or two to figure it all out. I can have blended O's and have had a few anal O's but not the Super O after two years of trying. No worries though, in this case the trip is more fun than the destination.

For those that would like to learn more about P-spot massage, Prostate massage 101

Heard of it, never done it. My hub's not into the bum.