This is kind of an odd question, but one of our "free speech dinner" companions and I are close friends outside of the dinners and we talk about sex and all kinds of stuff (more parenting and money issues, then sex, really). However, we were talking sex the other day and anal came up. She is more of an anal fan then me, and somehow we got to talking about the fact that (I kid you not), medical tape is used to spread butt cheeks during anal surgery, and we were surprised no one had come up with some "fun" version of "spreading tape" (with designs, colors, etc).

Then the topic came around to "who, if anyone, does the spreading", and it occurred to us we "did things different". She loves doggy style and apparently often lays with "chest on bed" and reaches around to spread her cheeks for her guy, and play with his cock that way as he enters her.

I am mostly on my back, or side, and if I am on my back, no one spreads anything. If I am on my side, I may reach around with my upper hand and pull up on the upper cheek to spread myself open for him, but mostly he does what he needs to, either for better access or for an optimal view (he loves to watch his tool enter me. We are both pretty visual. He will even hold a video camera so I can watch him enter me on the TV while he is doing it) .

Anyway, who does the spreading (and I don't mean the peanut butter and jelly), in your relationship? less