bad orgasm

Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
Has anyone ever had a really bad orgasm. Like, when it's all said & done, you just lay there thinking, "huh, that kinda sucked." I've had this happen a few times.
05/28/2011
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Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
I haven't had a "bad orgasm" exactly, but once I think because we were rushing things a little, I got a headache from it. Its complicated but it has to do with too much blood rushing to your head from trying to reach an orgasm really quickly. That was my lesson early on to slow down lol. Haven't had it happen since which is a good thing
05/28/2011
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
The tiny little orgasm I managed to eek out with the Eroscillator was just pathetic. That qualified as bad. It definitely put me in a grumpy mood.
05/29/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
I've had some pretty bad orgasms. I've had orgasms where they've barely managed to come (pun intended or not, you pick). I've had ones where my leg cramps up in the middle of it (this is ESPECIALLY fun). If I'm rushed (and it's not part of a kink scene... just the "oh yeah, come for me" when I'm already TRYING to come) I've had ones that were weak. Those are all "bad" in my opinion.

"Good" ones make me moan and sometimes will need to catch my breath...

"Amazing" ones make me yell and talk and whimper and need to catch my breath...

Multiples make me laugh and cry at the same time (and these always involve my g-spot)
05/29/2011
Contributor: NibbleMyGarter NibbleMyGarter
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've had some pretty bad orgasms. I've had orgasms where they've barely managed to come (pun intended or not, you pick). I've had ones where my leg cramps up in the middle of it (this is ESPECIALLY fun). If I'm rushed (and ... more
I may have a tiny bit of s&m in me because when I get leg cramps during orgasms it tends to intensify the experience. Odd.
05/29/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I've never really had a truly "bad" orgasm, but I have had some that afterwards I felt like I might as well have not even bothered in the first place.
05/29/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I've had orgasms that have given me bloody noses (usually when winter sets in and the air dries out.) Those are kind of a bummer, especially if your partner gets squicked out by blood, and you're not the first one to notice.

Other than that...

From PIV, anal, finger clit stim or dildos---some are weaker, some are stronger, some leave me speechless for minutes afterwards. But they're all good, even the weak ones.

From dedicated clit vibrators---while the orgasms can be just as strong as anything in the upper category, sometimes my clit will hurt a lot afterwards, and if I have something inside of me it will be really uncomfortable and I'll need it out. So while the orgasms themselves are just fine...the sensations afterward are bad enough that I would have rather gone without the orgasm sometimes. I don't know if I need better quality vibrations or what, exactly.
05/29/2011
Contributor: big b big b
if we play for along time first ones geart,second ones good after that it like was that one
05/29/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I can't recall ever thinking that after an orgasm. There are some that I would say are less satisfying than others (for me, pure clitoral orgasms are that way, much less satisfying), but I've never thought "that sucked". Now, when I was younger and didn't have orgasms... that truly sucked!

As an add on, I'll say this since it just popped in my head - sometimes, if I have a huge amazing orgasm, and I can tell I'll orgasm again, but the 2nd one is tiny and weak, I will think I should have just left well enough alone. lol I'll be left feeling less satisfied after the 2nd than if I would have stayed with the huge amazing one. But that's just my bad judgment call, and I've learned how to do better in that department so it doesn't happen much.
05/29/2011
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
never had a "bad orgasm"
05/29/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I've never experienced a bad orgasm!
05/29/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've had some pretty bad orgasms. I've had orgasms where they've barely managed to come (pun intended or not, you pick). I've had ones where my leg cramps up in the middle of it (this is ESPECIALLY fun). If I'm rushed (and ... more
Gah! Leg cramp orgasms are horrible!! I haven't had one happen in awhile though thankfully. Glad to know I'm not the only person who gets those!
05/29/2011
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
Has anyone ever had a really bad orgasm. Like, when it's all said & done, you just lay there thinking, "huh, that kinda sucked." I've had this happen a few times.
If I think that then it wasn't an orgasm. Simple as that for me.
05/29/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I have while masturbating. Sometimes I know why (such as I went too fast or was too distracted) and other times the build up is fantastic and then, poof, the orgasm is lame.
06/17/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
OKAY, I just had the WORST ORGASM EVER a few nights ago. I was OMG HORNY and I jilled-off and I ended up hornier WAY hornier than I was before I jilled off. SOOOOOO DEPRESSING. I just went to sleep after that. It wasn't even worth trying again, my vibrator and dildo were packed and in the car and I couldn't get to them to try and help remedy the situation.

06/17/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
I thought all orgasms were good
06/18/2011
Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
Quote:
Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
I've had some pretty bad orgasms. I've had orgasms where they've barely managed to come (pun intended or not, you pick). I've had ones where my leg cramps up in the middle of it (this is ESPECIALLY fun). If I'm rushed (and ... more
I haven't really had "bad" ones more like "meh". I have also had the leg cramp and wrist cramps! so horrible.

a good one I will moan and hold my breath

amazing ones I growl and start yelling oh god oh god fuck

and over the moon ones are g-spot and I will do all the above and sometimes squirt, my muscles twitch, I feel like I am going to pass out and then I have aftershocks lol
06/18/2011
Contributor: kelaaa33wish kelaaa33wish
Yes it happens to me, it is hard to explain but if I don't have a gush, I feel like I have been cheated.
06/18/2011
Contributor: Jenyana Jenyana
Sometimes, when I'm getting close to orgasm, my left hip starts to hurt. Like, really hurt. I don't know just how things are wired, but it truly sucks when that happens. Doesn't stop me going forward, though.... it just means that if I was having sex with a partner, that's when they have to get off and just use their hands because I will need to almost close my legs to aleviate the pain. :/
07/14/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Yeah, sometimes I get like 2 contractions that are almost nothing. Usually when I'm stressed and distracted. It's a total letdown.
07/14/2011
Contributor: northstar northstar
Probably those from a vibrator that is really not strong enough. So bad it's almost pointless!
07/16/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I've never really had a truly "bad" orgasm, but I have had some that afterwards I felt like I might as well have not even bothered in the first place.
Same here!
07/17/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
A bunch of my orgasms have been like that
07/17/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I'm not sure if there can be a "bad orgasm", but there are definitely some that are much less satisfying. Combine that with a males' refractory period and there can definitely be a disappointing orgasm.

I've had them (twice) when there's an ejaculation but only a hint of the contractions. I was playing a long and then all of a sudden there was a single squirt or some dribbles and that was that. I was left thinking "what happened?"

The two times I've had them have been from anal/prostate stimulation. It sounds odd, but true: anal/prostate stimulation, which can give phenominal pant-and-rest-for-a-lo ng-time orgasms also have given me the disappointments. I guess that it must be the "milking" thing that gets talked about from time to time - enough of the right stimulation and pressure and the reproductive system just dumps the semen instead of giving you the stars-and-fireworks. As I've said it's been very rare, though, most orgasms are fun.

The other "semi-disappointments" are those where you're tired and just trying to get to the finish line.
07/17/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
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Originally posted by Waterfall
I haven't had a "bad orgasm" exactly, but once I think because we were rushing things a little, I got a headache from it. Its complicated but it has to do with too much blood rushing to your head from trying to reach an orgasm really ... more
I've been getting headaches when I orgasm lately too. Maybe I just need to slow down...
08/10/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
Has anyone ever had a really bad orgasm. Like, when it's all said & done, you just lay there thinking, "huh, that kinda sucked." I've had this happen a few times.
Yes, most definitely. I often have orgasms (usually during sex to be honest) where it starts off feeling like it's going to be really good, but ends up as a disaster. The orgasm will be very prolonged, and very weak. And I almost always have to do it all over again just to be satisfied... sometimes more than once.

I find that if I do about ten minutes of direct clitoral stimulation before sex, I wont end up having these "duds". So oral sex and rubbing is something my husband and I practice frequently.
08/10/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I only get headaches after orgasm if my blood pressure is up.
08/10/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
Has anyone ever had a really bad orgasm. Like, when it's all said & done, you just lay there thinking, "huh, that kinda sucked." I've had this happen a few times.
Yikes. Never. I cannot imagine a "bad" orgasm, any more then a "bad" ice cream sundae. Some are AMAZING, but none are less then "GREAT".
08/10/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by M121212
I've been getting headaches when I orgasm lately too. Maybe I just need to slow down...
I would mention that to your doctor. Could be blood pressure, or even odder things like blood sugar. Worth mentioning, and "don't be shy". Honest, your doctor has heard this all..a million times.
08/10/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
OKAY, I just had the WORST ORGASM EVER a few nights ago. I was OMG HORNY and I jilled-off and I ended up hornier WAY hornier than I was before I jilled off. SOOOOOO DEPRESSING. I just went to sleep after that. It wasn't even worth trying ... more
Interesting. Every orgasm I have ever had has been with a partner. Never even tried to go there alone, yet seems the folks, like you, mention solo play as the times they have "failed orgasms". I wonder if it just must be "more perfect" when alone, then the "mentally involved" case of being with another person?
08/10/2011