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Contributor: Eatme Eatme
pls can someone help me.

i was in a committed relationship for many many yrs i have always had sex. i really ever needed to masturbate or use a lot of toys.
now i'am single again and im getting toys and they are not helping me to cum on my own. can somebody tell me the best toy to get but not expensive.
im going thru a lot right now and i also got laid off so money is kind of tight.
all info is welcome, i need all the help i can get !!!
11/30/2012
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Contributor: *Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by Eatme
pls can someone help me.

i was in a committed relationship for many many yrs i have always had sex. i really ever needed to masturbate or use a lot of toys.
now i'am single again and im getting toys and they are not helping me to cum ... more
Stress could contribute to why you are having trouble reaching orgasm. I have no suggestions other then if you are looking to spend very little money earn points til you can afford what you want. You may also need to relearn your body on your own to find what can help you climax. Good Luck on this
11/30/2012
Contributor: MrWill MrWill
Quote:
Originally posted by Eatme
pls can someone help me.

i was in a committed relationship for many many yrs i have always had sex. i really ever needed to masturbate or use a lot of toys.
now i'am single again and im getting toys and they are not helping me to cum ... more
You are stressed, probably depressed, and all the issues you seem to be having will only compound the problem.

If at all possible seek help. (I'm in no way calling you a psycho or anything!!!!) Stress and depression feed each other, and can cause chemical imbalances that really make life SUCK.
11/30/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
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Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
Stress could contribute to why you are having trouble reaching orgasm. I have no suggestions other then if you are looking to spend very little money earn points til you can afford what you want. You may also need to relearn your body on your own to ... more
Stress is a biggie. Relaxing, yoga, eating well, potentially talking to someone, and exercising are all helpful things.

Having consistent cardio exercise is linked to an increased chance of getting orgasms. (Not saying anything about your exercise regiment, just saying from the study). Women with consistent exercise report higher frequency of orgasms. But most important is the ability to have a calm, focused mind.

Good luck!
11/30/2012
Contributor: linnlinn linnlinn
What about a good sexy book? They say that the mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. What if you get a good book, or borrow one, and relax a little and just have fun discovering something new, see why turns you on? It has worked for me
12/01/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
Stress could contribute to why you are having trouble reaching orgasm. I have no suggestions other then if you are looking to spend very little money earn points til you can afford what you want. You may also need to relearn your body on your own to ... more
thanks
12/10/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by MrWill
You are stressed, probably depressed, and all the issues you seem to be having will only compound the problem.

If at all possible seek help. (I'm in no way calling you a psycho or anything!!!!) Stress and depression feed each other, and ... more
im not, lol and thanks
12/10/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
Stress is a biggie. Relaxing, yoga, eating well, potentially talking to someone, and exercising are all helpful things.

Having consistent cardio exercise is linked to an increased chance of getting orgasms. (Not saying anything about your ... more
thank you !
12/10/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by linnlinn
What about a good sexy book? They say that the mind is the biggest sexual organ we have. What if you get a good book, or borrow one, and relax a little and just have fun discovering something new, see why turns you on? It has worked for me
thanks ive tried a lot of things but i guess i have to try more.
12/10/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
There is also the possibility of medication side effects. Even if sexual side effects are not on the label, that doesn't mean it cannot affect you in that way.
For example pain meds have that effect on me. I asked my doc about it and she said that even though there wasn't anything in the "literature" about that, it was possible. I wish you well.
12/10/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
It's mostly likely mental stress, but save your points and get a fleshlight. Best Bang for the buck (pun intended).
12/10/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by RonLee
There is also the possibility of medication side effects. Even if sexual side effects are not on the label, that doesn't mean it cannot affect you in that way.
For example pain meds have that effect on me. I asked my doc about it and she ... more
thanks sweety !
12/10/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
It's mostly likely mental stress, but save your points and get a fleshlight. Best Bang for the buck (pun intended).
ok lol i will, thanks
like ur name !
12/10/2012
Contributor: LeeBee LeeBee
You might want to forgo toys for a while, actually. Give yourself a chance to see what you like on your own. that's always helped me when I'm in a bind.
12/11/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
It's mostly likely mental stress, but save your points and get a fleshlight. Best Bang for the buck (pun intended).
thank you
12/18/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by Trysexual
It's mostly likely mental stress, but save your points and get a fleshlight. Best Bang for the buck (pun intended).
thank you
12/18/2012
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
Are you on any medications? I take antidepressants and they mess with my ability to have an orgasm. I can usually get one (and only one) but it takes forever.
12/18/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Yeah usually when I have problems reaching orgasm it's cause I'm overthinking it or emotionally compromised.
12/18/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by LeeBee
You might want to forgo toys for a while, actually. Give yourself a chance to see what you like on your own. that's always helped me when I'm in a bind.
Thank you
12/21/2012
Contributor: Eatme Eatme
Quote:
Originally posted by Bill220
Are you on any medications? I take antidepressants and they mess with my ability to have an orgasm. I can usually get one (and only one) but it takes forever.
no no meds but thats how i am too im use ot having the real thing. sad but true.
12/21/2012
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
As everyone else has said, stress plays a big factor. Subconsciously, your mind might be preoccupied. Try to really relax before you "go at it". Maybe use porn in tandem with toys? It could help keep you distracted.
12/21/2012
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Eatme
pls can someone help me.

i was in a committed relationship for many many yrs i have always had sex. i really ever needed to masturbate or use a lot of toys.
now i'am single again and im getting toys and they are not helping me to cum ... more
Gods honest truth, everyone who is commenting on stress being a leading factor is completely right. It doesent seem right but trust me it is!
12/21/2012