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I am 32 (almost 33) and have never had sex. I grew up in a Chrisitan home and I made the decision to save myself for marriage. Then I chased career instead of finding a husband and having a family. So now I'm in my 30's and am starting to
I am 32 (almost 33) and have never had sex. I grew up in a Chrisitan home and I made the decision to save myself for marriage. Then I chased career instead of finding a husband and having a family. So now I'm in my 30's and am starting to feel as I missed out along the way. As a result last fall I bought my first vibrator because I wanted to know what it felt like to have an orgasm, but I didn't want to have sex. The orgasm was amazing. I was quite literally "spent" afterwards. I just had this surreal sense of peace and tranquility. Since then I've never had such an intense orgasm again. Then a month ago I had a neurostimulator implanted in my back because of pain from ruptured discs. Since that surgery I haven't been able to have any orgasms. I waited until last week to even try so I didn't delay my recovery. But I just can't get off. So I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for getting back to that wonderful state of bliss I first experianced.
It's difficult to pinpoint what could be the problem. If your inability to reach an orgasm is not related to the stress of the recovery and about not hurting yourself, then you should consult your physician.
I am no health professional, but are you taking any medication for the pain that could affect your ability to reach an orgasm? If not, then you should definitely consult to verify if the implanted neurostimulator is not the source of your problem. It's quite rare, but the lack of orgasm may be a side-effect. So, you should consult and have some tests.
Don't be shy to ask your doctor about this. It's perfectly normal for patients to care about having a normal sexual life, even solo.