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Contributor: Leil@ Leil@
(EdenFantasys)
Dear contributors, who're up for a “quick” challenge?

We've been talking volumes on "How to make him last longer" - because it's interesting and important. But we are an inclusive community, aren't we? So there is another side of the coin - when he just can cum, after going for hours and hours long.

What to do when he takes ages to cum?
You've had your orgasm - maybe even ten - you're feeling sore and a bit hungry, but he just isn't there yet.

Let's discuss that for a minute. I know firsthand that there are members of this community who've dealt with the situation like that and you are generally so full of wow insights!
We would love to make an article from the tips you guys can share to really help people who are struggling with such a mismatch of sex pace.

Please, share your experience. Maybe, you have used special sex positions to speed up his finish? Or maybe there are sex toys in your collection that perfectly do the deed? Please, provide a unique and really valuable solution so we can actually help people.

Sooooo... it’s INSIGHT TIME!

If your insight is really valuable - we won’t let you go without a reward! Yes, it's that simple -if your insight proves to be valuable and makes it to the article, you'll get a prize.

Stay tuned to see who comments first!
03/02/2020
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Contributor: frisky069 frisky069
Quote:
Originally posted by Leil@
Dear contributors, who're up for a “quick” challenge?

We've been talking volumes on "How to make him last longer" - because it's interesting and important. But we are an inclusive community, aren't we? So there is ... more
For my husband specifically there are a few things we do. Sometimes all it takes is for him to flip me sideways one leg under him and my other leg however he wants it and he will get off pretty quickly if he takes full control of it as I rub my clit.

Another way that works well for us is, I start by sucking his dick and massaging his balls. After a few minutes I'll climb on top into his favorite position. I'm basically in a squat position, which makes it easier for me to control thrusting as he is enjoying the show, he normally massages my breasts or rubs on my clit also.
03/02/2020
Contributor: Soundside46 Soundside46
This can happen from time to time. You cannot get over the edge. You are right there but it just wont let go. I can be frustrating. Sometimes, even though you are turned on, you feel like you could last forever. Here are some things that work for me.

Sometimes just a finger or toy inserted anally, unless you already have something back there, will drive a man over the edge. Sometimes you just get frustrated and a little tired so a little breather is a great idea. Stop get a drink of water and go back at it in a few minutes. Every once in a while you need a change of pressure or tightness so switching from vaginal intercourse to a hand job or breast job will do it. And sometimes you just need to take things into your own hands and finish the job yourself since you know what feels best to you.
03/03/2020
Contributor: YetiandWarden YetiandWarden
Quote:
Originally posted by Leil@
Dear contributors, who're up for a “quick” challenge?

We've been talking volumes on "How to make him last longer" - because it's interesting and important. But we are an inclusive community, aren't we? So there is ... more
This does happen to many people in their sex life at some point. It can be caused by such a wide variety of things that asking why is often a moot question. Our go to for this is an ottoman we keep in our bedroom and she rides me as hard as she can. Theat pushes me over the edge nearly everytime.
03/04/2020
Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
There are a few things that I do with my husband if I know he may need a little help to get there:

1- I 'practice my kegels'--I basically squeeze as tight as I can and hold it as long as I can. And I can see and feel him react. And I do this over and over.

2- I will also rub/squeeze his balls sometimes if I'm in a position where I can get to them.

3- I will scratch my nails up and down his back and ass (my arms aren't that long so mostly back) if I'm in a position to. He really likes that. Not too light (not tickling) but not too heavy scratching either--medium like someone scratching an itch.

4- I will tell him how good it feels to me in a whisper (and maybe some other stuff) but not too graphic because he doesn't really like to hear me cuss or talk too explicitly. You have to do what you know turns your SO on. Don't talk dirty in a raunchy way if you haven't discussed with him ahead of time whether he likes raunchy or not because it may turn him off. If he likes raunchy, then go for it!!! I will also make noises, which he likes. I don't really do this on purpose for him. I make noises because I'm enjoying myself--but I'm pretty sure it turns him on!

5- If none of that works, we will switch positions--usually to standing doggy, with me bent over and leaning on the bed. We both are very turned on by this position and this usually pushes him over the edge!
03/11/2020
Contributor: Dominica Dominica
My ex had a thing about rough sex. When we were having sex hard and he was allowed to be a bit harsh and rude and cause a bit of pain, it was a tremendous turn on for him! He could cum within several minutes!
03/20/2020
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Perspicace mais érotique
There are a few things that I do with my husband if I know he may need a little help to get there:

1- I 'practice my kegels'--I basically squeeze as tight as I can and hold it as long as I can. And I can see and feel him react. And I ... more
We must have had the same sex instructor I do the same and a few additional tricks.
I don't actually want him to cum though. I'll hump my hips and pelvis upward and hold him tight. That usually does the trick. If not I'll talk dirty to him. Like, " comon! give to me "

So who's getting ten orgasms . From your man?
04/22/2020
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I've experienced difficulty orgasming due to one or another medication. Prostate play or even Wifey giving my hole a good workout by pegging me often helps quite a bit.
Unfortunately, for the fellows who are not so sure of their own sexuality and may be fearful of being thought of as gay, that might not work though.
04/22/2020
Contributor: Spidermonkey Spidermonkey
I agree with the woman that would massage her husband's balls and showing attention to arousing him more by making pleasure noises and nasty talking. My cock loves that stuff. If you can, maybe try to get ahold of his balls and stroke his pole while firmly (but not crushing) massaging his taint muscle. I've had explosions that shot my cum all over the place
04/27/2020
Contributor: Perspicace mais érotique Perspicace mais érotique
Thanks for the tip!!
04/28/2020
Contributor: GrayFUN GrayFUN
Quote:
Originally posted by Leil@
Dear contributors, who're up for a “quick” challenge?

We've been talking volumes on "How to make him last longer" - because it's interesting and important. But we are an inclusive community, aren't we? So there is ... more
As a man I will say there are two sides this coin. My partner has this problem with me sometimes, about 40% of the time.

For me my wife needs to be really turned on and this involves both of us. My partner needs to dress or be sexy and I need to treat her as she is super sexy.
- Foreplay is usually important for both of us
- Lingerie is also super helpful in setting the mood
- I also enjoy it when my partner comes after me it makes me
feel sexy and turns me on

Position and change, my partner is easily pleased by me in conventional positions that are for me sometimes dull. I always enjoy being with my partner but it gets to the point where I am not sexually aroused or pleasured.

Change positions and this is easier said than done.
Exercise and stretch - when you are with someone you
should give them your best, don't go crazy
- 5 min alternate between stretch and something
simple like sit ups or leg ups
Do your research and be open to new things. Don't do
something you don't like or that causes you pain, but
explore and question your boundaries.
- Try a new position at least once a week
- Explore and tryout position furniture and bandage

Explore his body and pay attention to what he likes and
explore your body and pay attention to what really drives you
sexually crazy.
- Similar to above try some role reversal.
- Touch kiss and lick every part of his body to find
his particular hot spots. This also includes stuff
you can do to increase arousal.
Ex: If my partner sucks and licks my balls before a blow job she has a higher chance of getting me to orgasm.
- Be honest and use lubes if you need to. On the
same token, use support furniture if you don't have
the strength or flexibility for certain positions.
- Related to above, set the room up in advance or
make sure you have everything if you are traveling.
If you need lubes or props make sure they are handy
so you use them and spo you don't ruin the mood.
Last two are biggies.

SET ASIDE TIME TO BE SEXY WITH EACH OTHER - aka make your partner's pleasure a priority in your day
- Get your sex schedules lined up and set aside time
for when your partner is turned on. If your
partner just masturbated an hour or so ago because
they were turned on it is going to be harder to
get them to orgasm again in a timely manner.

The last is acknowledge that your partner might not orgasm because of a mental or physical issue. Again get them to be honest and open with you about what they actually want and like rather than what society sets forth. My partner has to remind me that I don't have to fuck her for an hour every time and that sometimes she likes quickies.

The most important is to be open and honest with yourself and your partner. This is a specific topic where your partner has taken the time to figure you out so now you have to bring the time and commitment to figure them out. This can be tricky if they don't know their body but, that's what can lead to great orgasmic discoveries. So be open, do your research and ask around if you think need help with your technique. But, most of all make sure you are having the most sexual fun you can be.
05/02/2020
Contributor: LivvieR LivvieR
I think I can learn alot from this site haha! I will have to take notes.
05/03/2020
Contributor: Andys Andys
though I am a male and I can pretty control myself and decide when letting go, i think that you need to find your man's hot spots

generally, anal play, dirt talk, nipple teasing and his favourite way to release should be enough! at least they could work well for me!
05/05/2020