In my store, I get a lot of female customers who come in and say they've never done it, but think that they want to start because they want to learn what makes them orgasmic.

Masturbation is nice because it allows you to figure out your own body. You can see what you like, what you don't like, what feels good, and everything else without having the pressure of someone else standing there. There's nothing wrong with it. It's not something that's dirty or gross. It's something totally natural to do and not do.

The main thing I tell my customers is that society sees it as something that's a negative and unhealthy thing to do, and that they should challenge that view and become more sexually liberated. Sex isn't shameful at all, and neither is a little self-love.

What you can do to make it seem a little less strange to you is to tell your husband about it. Send him texts while he's gone saying that you're thinking about him while doing it. Tell him all about it. Play out fantasies in your head of the things the two of you will do. Just make sure you're comfortable with whatever you do and you let those feelings you may already have about it. Personally, I find it really liberating to be able to do it on my own and not need anyone else.