I have never been able to orgasm during sex and I get so envious of women who are able to. I have tried SEVERAL things and usually give up halfway through because it seems kinda pointless when I am so frustrated. I was wondering if anyone has good advice for different strategies on orgasming during sex. (Maybe it is my mindset going into sex that is affecting my ability to orgasm and if so, even advice on attitude and little mental exercises would be fantastic too).
Tips on positions/toys to achieve orgasm during sex
02/25/2014
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Prolong foreplay, get yourself good and ready then relax and go with it. Try to get lost in the moment. Also keep in mind that for many women penetration is not enough for them to have an orgasm. Add a little clitoral stimulation either by manual methods or perhaps introducing a small vibrator.
02/25/2014
if you're talking about intercourse, a lot of women don't orgasm vaginally. you might want to experiment w/ vibrators & dildos by yourself. see what you may learn from them. and I mean experiment for quite awhile. take at lease 20 - 30 minutes using them. and use them over & over. it may take some time before you learn how your body responds to how you use them.
some ladies have a G-spot orgasm w/i minutes. some may take up to 20 minutes when using a vibrator. a wonderful thing about vibrators is that you just lay back & let them vibrate you to bliss. dildos are used to massage the G-spot & for thrusting.
oh, and here are some G-spotters I highly recommend:
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now if you want a clit orgasm during intercourse, you could use a small clit vibe. of course, this would have to be ok w/ hubby. and he just may get the plus of the vibrations too. I don't have any experience with clit vibes during intercourse except vibrating cock rings. here's a couple the two of you may want to try.
the freebie one: link
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I think having expectations for ourselves puts a lot of pressure on us that keeps us from enjoying sex. don't focus on having an orgasm. focus on the pleasure you're experiencing. stay in the moment. if you never have a vaginal orgasm, that's ok. a lot of ladies have the same experience.
so relax & enjoy. enjoy the pleasure you are experiencing. forget about the big O. if you enjoy oral, be sure to get plenty of it. and be sure foreplay lasts as long as you want. attitude is key to your sexual pleasure. just stay focused in the moment.
good luck & here's to finding sexual bliss.
some ladies have a G-spot orgasm w/i minutes. some may take up to 20 minutes when using a vibrator. a wonderful thing about vibrators is that you just lay back & let them vibrate you to bliss. dildos are used to massage the G-spot & for thrusting.
oh, and here are some G-spotters I highly recommend:
link
link
link
link
link
link
link
now if you want a clit orgasm during intercourse, you could use a small clit vibe. of course, this would have to be ok w/ hubby. and he just may get the plus of the vibrations too. I don't have any experience with clit vibes during intercourse except vibrating cock rings. here's a couple the two of you may want to try.
the freebie one: link
link
I think having expectations for ourselves puts a lot of pressure on us that keeps us from enjoying sex. don't focus on having an orgasm. focus on the pleasure you're experiencing. stay in the moment. if you never have a vaginal orgasm, that's ok. a lot of ladies have the same experience.
so relax & enjoy. enjoy the pleasure you are experiencing. forget about the big O. if you enjoy oral, be sure to get plenty of it. and be sure foreplay lasts as long as you want. attitude is key to your sexual pleasure. just stay focused in the moment.
good luck & here's to finding sexual bliss.
02/25/2014
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I've had the same problem too and communication with my partner is what really helps.
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hydrahex
I have never been able to orgasm during sex and I get so envious of women who are able to. I have tried SEVERAL things and usually give up halfway through because it seems kinda pointless when I am so frustrated. I was wondering if anyone has good
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I have never been able to orgasm during sex and I get so envious of women who are able to. I have tried SEVERAL things and usually give up halfway through because it seems kinda pointless when I am so frustrated. I was wondering if anyone has good advice for different strategies on orgasming during sex. (Maybe it is my mindset going into sex that is affecting my ability to orgasm and if so, even advice on attitude and little mental exercises would be fantastic too).
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If I am having sex with penetration, I just tell my partner to lean back and go slow as I massage myself. When I feel like I am getting close, I tell him to go slightly faster and faster until I orgasm.
It's hard for me to bring myself to orgasm if he's going too hard or too fast or if he's leaned against me too much.
...and he just can't focus on literally rubbing me the right way while he's doing his thing.
Communication will make you cum! haha
03/05/2014
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