How would you react if your partner decided he/she never wanted to receive oral?

Contributor: celibacysucks celibacysucks
They will still give it, they just don't want any reciprocation.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'd consider ending the relationship.
6  (4%)
I would be really upset. It might provoke me to stray to get it outside the relationship.
3  (2%)
I would insist they respect MY wishes in bed and at least TRY to allow it.
11  (8%)
I would be upset, but I would respect my parter and try to get over it.
61  (43%)
I wouldn't be upset, there are other fun things to do.
51  (36%)
I would be relieved.
4  (3%)
Other
7  (5%)
Total votes: 143
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Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
I wouldn't care. There are many other ways to be satisfied
12/13/2010
Contributor: Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
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Originally posted by onehotmomma
I wouldn't care. There are many other ways to be satisfied
so very true
12/13/2010
Contributor: rdytogo rdytogo
I would hate it as I love doing that both for his pleasure and just because I like doing it.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Porfiriato Porfiriato
I would be more upset about having to stop going down on my partner than I would be if they stopped giving blow jobs.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
The first thing I would wonder about is why they decided this all of a sudden.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
Eh, I'm not sure. I'd probably be concerned, because my boyfriend LOVES receiving oral. Unfortunately I'm the one who doesn't like receiving, and he loves giving so I just kinda do it for him sometimes XD
12/13/2010
Contributor: leatherlover leatherlover
I would probably be a little upset because I just loving doing it to my wife, but at the same time, it would probably allow me to use more toys on her, so not a horrible situation.
12/13/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
The first thing I would wonder about is why they decided this all of a sudden.
Same here, after 20 some odd years of enjoying it so much, I would have to wonder why the change.
12/13/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
It doesn't bother us one way or another.
12/13/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Oral is more intimate than straight up sex to me. It would be a big deal.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Lindz86 Lindz86
I enjoy giving/recieving oral, but especially giving. If he didn't want it anymore I'd be kind of sad, but as previously mentioned, there are plenty other ways to have fun!
12/13/2010
Contributor: PussyGalore PussyGalore
I'm not going to lie, I would be hurt. I would ask questions concerning my technique, if I did something wrong the last time and now he's gunshy or whatever else may personally apply in the situation. He's never really been a huge fan of it but he lets me do it as much as I want. He'd rather penetrate me or a toy than get oral. Or so he claims.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Airekah Airekah
Of course, it is a strange day when men start turning down oral... but I think I could live with his decision.
12/13/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I do like going down on her, but if she said she didn't like it...

We're committed, and so I'd respect her views and get on with other things.
12/13/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by Waterfall
The first thing I would wonder about is why they decided this all of a sudden.
I stopped liking it when I was pregnant and didn't want it for a long time. (as in, my eldest just turned 5 this past summer and I'm just getting to the point where I enjoy it again)

There were lots of reasons, but mostly after having daughters I had to come to grips with a lot in my past and I was pretty introverted, sexually, for quite some time. My Mister was pretty disappointed but respected my wishes. NOW? He's quite delighted that I'm back on the other side of that hurdle.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
That's how I feel. Oral does nothing for me, I'm not a fan of getting it at all. I love to give it though, but only if my bf goes the extra mile and makes sure he tastes sweet. He has a poor diet and so he can taste kinda bad at times.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've already been through this - more or less - with both mouth-to-breast and cunnilingus. For a while it all my wife wanted was a clit orgasm and done. But with some maturation on her part and persistence on my part we've gotten over both hurdles. She's not going to orgasm from either - but she enjoys them both as a normal part of foreplay. I'm quite pleased with the outcome.

When you're in a life long committed relationship both sides have to be willing to make adjustments - enough said!
12/13/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
dont see this ever happening in our relationship
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Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Thats fine with me...there are lots of ways to have fun.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I think I would be bummed but it would not kill our sex life.
12/13/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
I would be very surprised if my guy decided he no longer wanted to receive oral because he loves it so much. I wouldn't get upset though, just be surprised and definitely ask why. I'd respect his wishes though so I feel like I could get past it.
12/13/2010
Contributor: RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
They will still give it, they just don't want any reciprocation.
Before I actually did it, I was really nervous about giving my boyfriend a blowjob. Now there are days I can't get it out of my head. I think I would be pretty upset if he said he didn't want it anymore... I wouldn't break up with him or start cheating, but I would definitely try to change his mind.
12/13/2010
Contributor: ZenaidaMacroura ZenaidaMacroura
I'd be pretty upset. I love giving oral, and it's one of the biggest turn-ons there is for me.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Yoda Yoda
Can't say I'd care too much either way.
12/13/2010
Contributor: LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
I'd be concerned about why they suddenly felt this way, more than about not being able to perform oral sex, but ultimately, unless there was a serious reason that needed to be addressed, it would have little affect on my sex life.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by celibacysucks
They will still give it, they just don't want any reciprocation.
I would worry that something was wrong with my partners if they suddenly decided they wouldn't enjoy a sex practice that they previously enjoyed or at least allowed. For my guys this would be a really strange thing as both of them really enjoy a blow job...and I would wonder what was going on to prompt the change! At the very least it would have to be discussed in some detail before I would be comfortable with a non-reciprocal arrangement.
12/13/2010
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
I would also be most concerned about what caused this sudden change.
12/13/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
If he didn't want it, wouldn't bother me. It's my goal to make him happy and if that didn't make him happy, no worries.
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