ok so i wanna ask my husband if he would be interested in having a 3 some with another guy. we have had one previously with another man and it worked out wonderfully for both of us(i got the royal treatment and he was happy that i enjoyed it). my problem is afterwards we tried having an open relationship which turned out bad due to my part(shamefully i will admit that i cheated). i am afraid to suggest we have another 3 some in fear he will think i will want to cheat again and that is definitely not the case i felt horrible for doing it before. i just wanna have some fun and spice things up in our sex life again like we used to do. i'm not sure how to bring it up or if i should just let it go and find some other way to spice things up. any suggestions?
3 some again after cheating?
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I would maybe bring it up in a roundabout way, more focusing on his feelings about it as opposed to asking him outright. Other than that, depends on how much he trusts you after you cheated on him. Sounds like a tricky situation.
07/08/2012
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You cheated in an open relationship or you hadn't defined your boundaries and stepped outside of them? If you actually did cheat and sought to keep this from your partner then I would say it might be time to invest in the current relationship rather than adding another person to the mix even if it's only for one night. Cheating takes time to mend, especially if you really had no reason to cheat.
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ok so i wanna ask my husband if he would be interested in having a 3 some with another guy. we have had one previously with another man and it worked out wonderfully for both of us(i got the royal treatment and he was happy that i enjoyed it). my
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ok so i wanna ask my husband if he would be interested in having a 3 some with another guy. we have had one previously with another man and it worked out wonderfully for both of us(i got the royal treatment and he was happy that i enjoyed it). my problem is afterwards we tried having an open relationship which turned out bad due to my part(shamefully i will admit that i cheated). i am afraid to suggest we have another 3 some in fear he will think i will want to cheat again and that is definitely not the case i felt horrible for doing it before. i just wanna have some fun and spice things up in our sex life again like we used to do. i'm not sure how to bring it up or if i should just let it go and find some other way to spice things up. any suggestions?
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If you broke a boundary (say your partner wasn't entirely clear that he/she didn't approve of whatever you did but you didn't set out to conceal your activity) then this is a bit easier to deal with...though still painful as hell. If this is the case then redefine your boundaries, and this time go into detail. Be HONEST with yourself and with your partner.
Perhaps you could try a FFM 3some rather than the same sort that lead to heartache before? Give him some royal treatment, re-establish your commitment to each other, and maybe begin again.
It's not easy but it CAN work.
Honestly, if your sex life is boring then you really should work on that first as a couple. Offering a potential lover a SMOKIN' good time is much better than trying to use another person as a sex toy in the hopes it will make it all exciting again. It won't...
I wish you both luck but as the party who has been cheated on I have to say you have an uphill climb ahead of you. I'm available to talk if you want, I have been where you are.
07/08/2012
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