Age Gap Lovers: Thoughts?

I am nearly 11 years older than my wife. We are celebrating our 30th anniversary this year (a trip to Maui). We are now empty nesters and have sex more often than we ever did as youngsters - we have a lot of fun together.

But it's not all hugs and kisses. There are some ironies in life that are exacerbated by age differentials. Physically men's sexual performance peaks in their 20s - which is true for me. I could get erections on demand and climax multiple times a day. Although performance remained adequate through my 30s and 40s. The 50s and 60s have been less kind.

Couple this with the often quoted meme that women peak in their 40s and you can see where performance issues can be exacerbated. Nothing is true for all women - but it is true that my wife's interest in sex skyrocketed in her 40s.

Although we find ways to keep it fresh and fun - it takes a lot of Viagra/Cialis and a ton of toys to keep things going! less

First off, congratulations on your 30th anniversary! That's wonderful!
Second, thank you for sharing your experiences. I appreciate it very much.

I think while in general, sex drives can and do change as people age, a lot of time it also depends on the individual.

For instance, a friend of mine is 32 and her husband is 54. According to her, when she was with a man her own age, he had a lot of problems keeping and maintaining an erection. The very few times they did have sex, it would end so fast she couldn't even enjoy it. It wasn't until she got with her husband that she could actually enjoy sex, because his drive matched hers and supposedly they go at it quite often. They've been married five years now and she's one of the happiest people I know, so, who knows?

I myself dated a guy with a relatively low sex drive. He was only (if memory serves) two or so years older than me and had absolutely no desire for anything physical. We never got passed kissing and the poor guy was a terrible kisser (this could be why I hate kissing now). He even told me once he only masturbated like once every six months or something. less

Has anyone on here ever dated/been intimate/in a relationship with someone who was significantly older or younger than them? If so, what was it like and would you do it again?

Or better yet...have you never stopped doing it? It seems a lot of my friends (and by a lot, I mean 7) are not just dating, but are marrying partners who are significantly older than them (10, 17, and in some cases, even 21+ years older). They seem pretty happy, so I was just curious. I hate resorting to movies and all that media mess but it seems like we're programmed to think there's something weird or wrong with it.

As always, any input is appreciated. less

Has anyone on here ever dated/been intimate/in a relationship with someone who was significantly older or younger than them? If so, what was it like and would you do it again?

Or better yet...have you never stopped doing it? It seems a lot of my friends (and by a lot, I mean 7) are not just dating, but are marrying partners who are significantly older than them (10, 17, and in some cases, even 21+ years older). They seem pretty happy, so I was just curious. I hate resorting to movies and all that media mess but it seems like we're programmed to think there's something weird or wrong with it.

As always, any input is appreciated. less

Has anyone on here ever dated/been intimate/in a relationship with someone who was significantly older or younger than them? If so, what was it like and would you do it again?

Or better yet...have you never stopped doing it? It seems a lot of my friends (and by a lot, I mean 7) are not just dating, but are marrying partners who are significantly older than them (10, 17, and in some cases, even 21+ years older). They seem pretty happy, so I was just curious. I hate resorting to movies and all that media mess but it seems like we're programmed to think there's something weird or wrong with it.

As always, any input is appreciated. less

Has anyone on here ever dated/been intimate/in a relationship with someone who was significantly older or younger than them? If so, what was it like and would you do it again?

Or better yet...have you never stopped doing it? It seems a lot of my friends (and by a lot, I mean 7) are not just dating, but are marrying partners who are significantly older than them (10, 17, and in some cases, even 21+ years older). They seem pretty happy, so I was just curious. I hate resorting to movies and all that media mess but it seems like we're programmed to think there's something weird or wrong with it.

As always, any input is appreciated. less

Has anyone on here ever dated/been intimate/in a relationship with someone who was significantly older or younger than them? If so, what was it like and would you do it again?

Or better yet...have you never stopped doing it? It seems a lot of my friends (and by a lot, I mean 7) are not just dating, but are marrying partners who are significantly older than them (10, 17, and in some cases, even 21+ years older). They seem pretty happy, so I was just curious. I hate resorting to movies and all that media mess but it seems like we're programmed to think there's something weird or wrong with it.

As always, any input is appreciated. less