Do you reveal your number of sex partners?

Do you reveal your number of sex partners?

AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
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Yes, I bite the bullet and tell the truth
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52  (67%)
No, I tell them it's my business not theirs
EdenJP , Hazeleyes2012 , ~BabyCakes~
3  (4%)
I fib a little, no one has to know the real truth
JessCee , Nkev , shnsmth6
3  (4%)
Other with an explain :)
P'Gell , Ms. Spice , Coralbell , gone77 , AndroAngel , Airen Wolf , Valentinka , Nazaress , mandaj , In Between Soliloquies , El-Jaro , MeliPixie , potstickers , sktb0007 , Shellz31 , gothicwhispers , novanilla , mpfm , Noelle , bog
20  (26%)
Total votes: 78
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12/14/2011
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JessCee JessCee
I don't really want to fib about the number of partners I've had, but I honestly don't know the #... and I definitely don't want to tell a partner that!! LOL So, I give my best estimate as if that's the definite #.
12/14/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
He knows how many men I've been with. I don't know the exact number of women he's been with, mostly because I never asked. He was sexually active before I met him, I was a virgin when he and I got together. I was with men when we had an Open Relationship, so he knows.

But, it wasn't "bite the bullet." He just asked and I told him. I know my number is lower than his.
12/14/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
I chose other because I didn't have to "bite the bullet." I had no problem telling my boyfriend.
12/14/2011
Beck Beck
I bite the bullet and was completely honest, I do not find anything wrong with me having as many partners as I do, but was for some reason ashamed to say. He did not care at all when I told him.
12/14/2011
gone77 gone77
I've never had a sexual partner, so I've never had to answer that question. However, even if I'd had numerous partners, I'd have no problem telling a current partner. I'd also have no problem not telling them, if that's what I wanted. It's no one's business how many partners I have or haven't had.
12/14/2011
EdenJP EdenJP
Great question
12/14/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
I didn't have a problem weighing in and telling him about all "0" if my previous partners. It was a little need to know, since at the time we were starting our relationship I thought I might be asexual.

Even if it were more, he'd know about them. Honesty is important.
12/14/2011
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
I've only ever been with my wife sexually, and I plan to keep it that way forever, so yes, I tell the truth.
12/14/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
If I plan to have sexula contact with a person I fully disclose my sexual history without feeling negative about myself. I expect the same in return.
12/14/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
Honestly Ive never really had a problem with the number so I wouldnt care if anyone else had a problem with the number.
12/14/2011
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Quote:
Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Do you freely reveal your #? When asked do you tell your current partner the number of past partners you've had, or do you avoid the question?
My number is so small I'm ashamed to admit how inexperienced I am!
12/14/2011
Valentinka Valentinka
My current partner is my first and only sex partner so far, so there's nothing to share. But he knows about all my previous boyfriends.
12/14/2011
Nothere Nothere
Quote:
Originally posted by gone77
I've never had a sexual partner, so I've never had to answer that question. However, even if I'd had numerous partners, I'd have no problem telling a current partner. I'd also have no problem not telling them, if that's what I ...
Have you ever been in a situation where you've been asked by a boyfriend/girlfriend?
12/14/2011
Daemonin Daemonin
I don't mind sharing if asked, I just don't think he believes me
12/14/2011
Taylor Taylor
I don't really mind telling at all. I don't think most people would consider my number to be all that high, and even if it was I would hope that they wouldn't hold it against me.
12/14/2011
philly philly
Yup always best to tell the truth and I really haven't had that many so it's not a big deal
12/15/2011
LAndJ LAndJ
I've got a one and only, he knows. With just one, it's not a big deal.
12/15/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
My number isn't really large, so it was never a big deal. I do have some friends that get really squirmy when asked
12/15/2011
Lucky21 Lucky21
Honesty and trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, so if I was asked that question, I would be completely honest.
12/15/2011
ijako9 ijako9
I've only had 2 so I'm never embarrassed to be honest about that
12/15/2011
Nazaress Nazaress
I chose "Other" because my boyfriend is the only man I've slept with, though he does know about the guys before him that I *ahem* did other things with. And he obviously knows about the one sexual experience I've had with a female because he was watching. Lol.

I didn't have to "bite the bullet" and I wouldn't have to even if I had slept with more. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has slept with probably 20 different women and he had no problem telling me.
12/15/2011
mandaj mandaj
I've only had one, thts my hubby my high school sweet heart
12/15/2011
In Between Soliloquies In Between Soliloquies
It depends. Not that I have a slew of partners to which this applies, but if the person wants to know, I'll be honest. If he doesn't bring it up, I won't forward the information. On the same note, I'd expect the same from him. Although his business is his own, I'd rather get a non-answer than a lie, and I'd rather get an answer than a non-answer! (This makes sense in my head.)
12/15/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I have only had one partner, and I'm with him still, so no need for lies or "biting bullets!"
12/15/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I've been asked before and almost no good comes out of any number (unless it's really low). If asked in the future, I'll ballpark it. I'd give them specifics if they ask.

I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just that your current partner wants to know they're the best you've had (NEVER tell them anything else). If you tell them someone else was better, they'll try to out-do that person or feel intimidated by your past. If you're with a more experienced partner, they'll be able to tell from your reactions about sex...most of the time.
12/15/2011
In Between Soliloquies In Between Soliloquies
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
I've been asked before and almost no good comes out of any number (unless it's really low). If asked in the future, I'll ballpark it. I'd give them specifics if they ask.

I don't think it's a matter of numbers, just ...
It's interesting that you say it's not about numbers; as a female, I find that women are often scrutinized much more on things even as simple as numbers than men are. You're right about the perceived importance of being "the best you've ever had," but I think that Western double-standards make it so that for females, numbers can be just as condemning as the resulting rankings or feelings.

Fortunately, I think the people on this site for the most part are in relationships with people who are more rational (or "progressive" in this sort of thinking) and don't have to deal with that kind of thing. Either way, ditto on telling them they're the best ever!
12/15/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
Yes if he were to ask. He hasn't though, and I don't ask him. I'm not really interested in finding out the number for him, and I'm glad it hasn't been brought up
12/18/2011
pixxie87 pixxie87
Not ashamed of my # cab count them on one hand
12/18/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
In most cases I feel it's non of their business cause I don't want to know theirs.
But with my Master, he demands to know things he is curious about and I didn't actually mind telling him.
12/18/2011
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