Does it ever make you upset/ lose arousal when...

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Does it ever make you upset/ lose arousal when...

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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
your husband cums before you? For example....

You're underneath him and he's just going and going, tearing your pussy up. You're starting to get there, slowly, rubbing your clit, aching to cum... and then you feel it... he slows down, and the hot cum pours out inside of you. You sigh because you know your session is over.

But are you upset? Do you just let him go to bed and continue to masturbate? Are you just used to that by now? Does he help you cum with a toy/his hands before the end of the night? Do you go a second round?

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10/04/2011
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Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I feel disappointed if he doesn't want to continue at all, and I'm not satisfied. But usually we will continue to do other activities after he cums. A lot of the time, after a minute or 2 he's ready to go again. He stays hard, but just gets overly sensitive right after an orgasm.
10/04/2011
Contributor: Jaimes Jaimes
It's not very easy for me to orgasm during sex, unless we are doing particular positions, and at those times, he is conscious that that's what we are doing, and controls himself. So I rarely get mad about him finishing first. But there have been times that I am on a brink in a position that doesn't always work, but he will typically just let that oversensitivity afterwards pass, and then help me out. But if we cross signals, it can be a little frustrating.
10/04/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I don't think this has ever happened to me. My lover has stamina like a race horse and I get off super easy. But if he did come first he'd more than likely finish me off with his fingers. (although I tend to have sympathetic orgasms, so he probably wouldn't have to, him coming would push me over.)
10/04/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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He usually is ready to go a second round pretty fast!
10/04/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Wow - am I ever spoiled....my husband has always made sure I orgasm first and sometimes multiple times if he knew I needed it...well - I'd say maybe 99% of the time. I think there might have been one or two times and even then - he'd use his fingers afterwards to stimulate my clitoris till I was ok.
10/04/2011
Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
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Originally posted by Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Wow - am I ever spoiled....my husband has always made sure I orgasm first and sometimes multiple times if he knew I needed it...well - I'd say maybe 99% of the time. I think there might have been one or two times and even then - he'd use his ... more
Yes you are jkjkjk.

Well, my husband makes sure I orgasm first (multiple times if I need to) as well... about half the time. But there's always those days when he finishes first and passes out. I think his run time is getting shorter for some reason. We're both quite young, though!
10/05/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by ToyGurl
your husband cums before you? For example....

You're underneath him and he's just going and going, tearing your pussy up. You're starting to get there, slowly, rubbing your clit, aching to cum... and then you feel it... he slows ... more
He then finishes me off. Often he gets so aroused doing this, that he gets and other boner and we have yet more sex!

We aren't "done" having sex when I come first, why should we be done simply because he came first?

No. He doesn't get to go to sleep or get up for the day until I get what I need. It isn't even a discussion, he just dives in an finishes. Although, sometimes I do need to say, "Uh, I'm not finished." And, he will then usually say, "I know. Let's do this thing."

Talking to him about the problem, NOT when you are aroused and in bed is the best idea. Let him know, without blaming and with using "I" statements is the best way. Say something like, "I love making love with you. But, I feel left out and end up frustrated when you come first and then fall asleep. I know orgasm is very relaxing for you. Is there a way that you could finish me off during the times that you come first before you conk out, so that I don't have to either be frustrated or masturbate by myself. It makes me feel sad to have to take care of myself when a big strong, well endowed man is lying right there. Can we please do this? I'll let you know when I still need to be finished off and we'll go on until I also get what I need from the session. Is that something that will work for you?"
10/05/2011