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Have you ever faked Orgasming? How do you feel about it?

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Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
So have you or do you fake orgasming during sex? And do you think it's healthy?

WARNING: READ THIS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE!

(Healthy) = You think it is good for you relationship
(Unhealthy) = You think it hurts you relationship
(NA) ... more
Well, in a way I think it's unhealthy because if you aren't orgasming because of something your partner isn't doing right, faking it will never help them figure out what they need to do to get you off. On the other hand, sometimes your partner will just keep trying until you're ready to pull your hair out when really you just aren't up for it.

Overall, I think as long as the non-orgasming individual is ok with it, it's probably fine.
08/05/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I have done this rarely. When I first started having difficulty with orgasm about 2 years ago, I thought it was just a fluke, and he was trying SO hard. I kinda made a little more noise than I should of, then realized, "Neither of us are benefiting from this, and I'm being left horny and frustrated, while he thinks I'm OK." I never have done it again, and we learned to change some things so I could orgasm again.

JR, I think it's easier not to have to fake (for a man) when you are in a good relationship. There are times when My Man just finally says, "It's OK, it's not gonna happen. I'm tired. Let me go to sleep and we'll try again in the morning." I think people probably fake it more when they are younger, or when their sexual response changes and they are not sure what they should do about it.
08/05/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Annemarie
Yeah, I fake sometimes if I'm pretty sure it's just not going to happen.

Hell, I think I've even accidentally faked during masturbation just because I wanted to get it over with already!
Hahahaha. Did you believe yourself? "Wow, she had a good time. I'm a stud!"
08/05/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I'm not going to lie. I have. I probably will again.

It's not something I've done often. I usually don't need to, since even when I'm not in the mood for sex, I eventually get there and get off. But, you know, sometimes ... more
I feel the same way as you do.

Sometimes I do it because my mind is elsewhere and just can't get off. I also tell him as well that I feel like my body just isn't cooperating. I feel a little bad for it - but it's always better the next time around.
08/05/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by seaofneptune
I feel the same way as you do.

Sometimes I do it because my mind is elsewhere and just can't get off. I also tell him as well that I feel like my body just isn't cooperating. I feel a little bad for it - but it's always better the ... more
Yup, I think that's the key. So long as it's a rare occurrence and isn't hurting anyone - you and your future orgasms or him and his feelings - it's ok, even healthy. But when it gets to be often or someone is hurt by it, then it's bad.
08/05/2010
Contributor: AU AU
I think I only did that once a few years ago. There was something about the situation that I don't recall, but I didn't want to disappoint. But I think honesty is important with people who are your life partners. It's rare that I can't come, but it happens so I just say I can't. I am happy to let him if I cannot. Not a big deal, in my opinion.
08/07/2010
Contributor: Danielle1220 Danielle1220
I dont do it as much as I did when I was younger lol
11/09/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I have faked it a few times. But that is only because I wanted to please my partner, let him cum, and then relax. It simply takes a few louder moans and saying his name repeatedly. I don't mind faking it, because I love to please me, and he always pleases me in return.
11/09/2010
Contributor: tbag tbag
i can porb count the times ive faked in one hand. dont see how this can be unhealthy
11/15/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I just can't fake it. If I can't achieve it for some reason, I don't have a problem telling the guy.
I don't have any problem with people who can fake it - I just can't do it myself.
11/16/2010
Contributor: sbon sbon
I used to fake them when I was younger because I didn't know any better. Now I wouldn't. Now I understand how important communication is and I know that even if I don't orgasm it doesn't mean it's not a pleasurable experience.
11/16/2010
Contributor: Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
Only a few times.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Destri Destri
I used to fake orgasms on a regular basis in my first two marriages. I honestly did not know at that time why I wasn't enjoying sex. Turns out, I'm a lesbian! So don't have to fake anymore, thank goodness.
11/20/2010
Contributor: Nicky Nicky
I faked all of them with the first three guys I dated. I was young, and came to the conclusion there was something wrong with me, or that I was the only one able to get myself off. That was before my met my last ex, and now my husband. Boy, was I wrong!! No more faking, that's for sure!
11/20/2010
Contributor: m4rshm3ll0z m4rshm3ll0z
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
So have you or do you fake orgasming during sex? And do you think it's healthy?

WARNING: READ THIS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE!

(Healthy) = You think it is good for you relationship
(Unhealthy) = You think it hurts you relationship
(NA) ... more
I actually do fake orgasms sometimes just because my partner says the line of "are you gonna cum baby?" I think it would be more awkward saying "erm... not yet.." about 5 times before actually feeling it. I usually end up riding my partner and getting myself to orgasm. That always feels good.
11/21/2010
Contributor: BadassFatass BadassFatass
I have faked it a few times...but only during bad/awkward sex. Basically, I feel rude saying "You're creeping me out get off me." So, I faked it to get said person to stop. Probably not the best idea but it worked at the time. Thankfully, I don't have to do that anymore,
01/19/2011
Contributor: HoneyHoney HoneyHoney
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
So have you or do you fake orgasming during sex? And do you think it's healthy?

WARNING: READ THIS BEFORE YOU CHOOSE!

(Healthy) = You think it is good for you relationship
(Unhealthy) = You think it hurts you relationship
(NA) ... more
Once or twice. lol
03/01/2011
Contributor: girl next door girl next door
I faked it with my ex. That did not end well, so I have learned my lesson.
03/01/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I used to. Now with a different partner I never do, and I think the honesty is healthy.
03/01/2011
Contributor: NaughtyButterfly NaughtyButterfly
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Originally posted by Annemarie
Yeah, I fake sometimes if I'm pretty sure it's just not going to happen.

Hell, I think I've even accidentally faked during masturbation just because I wanted to get it over with already!
That's hilarious!
03/01/2011
Contributor: Howells Howells
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Originally posted by NaughtyButterfly
That's hilarious!




Anyway I'm a guy and I don't think a guy can fake it. I can cum without the jizz if I want to and the first times I do that they were with big eyes not wanting to belive you REAALLY just came? How? Then I did it again and again and somehow they accepted it. I don't know if my girl ever faked it I hope no. That wouldn't be a so honest thing to do.
05/02/2011
Contributor: Bonesdance Bonesdance
My now-wife faked it once before we were even having sex (I was manually stimulating her in my car, LOL), and I could totally tell. We talked about it, and she promised never to do it again - I'd always rather know whether or not she's actually enjoying herself than get false validation for poor performance.
05/14/2011