My parents pretended like sex didn't exist in the universe.
Growing up: Open, or Prudish?
02/10/2012
It wasn't talked about it, but I don't think it was taboo, either.
I remember my mom telling my sister I couldn't watch a movie because of the rating... it was basically soft porn. I watched it at age 13...
I remember my mom telling my sister I couldn't watch a movie because of the rating... it was basically soft porn. I watched it at age 13...
02/11/2012
I grew up with only my mom and brother in the house and I don't think my mom knew how to communicate with us about that.
02/11/2012
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My family was a really odd mix of prudish and open. Porn was available all around but I was taught abstinance almost obnoxiously so.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
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Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
02/11/2012
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I'm glad your mom was open and understanding enough to care whether or not you got pregnant.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Oh, wow! That's insane! I know some groups view masturbation and other self-pleasuring to be wrong, but they told you that touching yourself AT ALL in those areas was wrong? Jeez, that's really extreme!
Yeah, I was 16, and had my ... more
Yeah, I was 16, and had my ... more
Oh, wow! That's insane! I know some groups view masturbation and other self-pleasuring to be wrong, but they told you that touching yourself AT ALL in those areas was wrong? Jeez, that's really extreme!
Yeah, I was 16, and had my (then) boyfriend had convinced me we should start having sex. I was naive, and gave-in. When my mother found out I was having sex, she bought me a 3 pack of condoms (THAT lasted half a day) and gave me the "talk". less
Yeah, I was 16, and had my (then) boyfriend had convinced me we should start having sex. I was naive, and gave-in. When my mother found out I was having sex, she bought me a 3 pack of condoms (THAT lasted half a day) and gave me the "talk". less
Yeah, the Catholic Church isn't really open to either sex (unless you're married and making babies) or birth control at all. My mother "found" my diaphragm when I was 17 (an "accident" of course, as was her "accidentally finding" my BC pills in my purse a few months later) and she didn't know what it was. When she brought it up, I told her it was a birth control device. She said, "I though we agreed you wouldn't use birth control." WTF? I never "agreed" to that. I had only been given lectures that Margaret Sanger was in hell for all the babies she "murdered." I said, "I never said that. What do you want me to do, get pregnant?" And my mother said, "No. I want you to tell me you'll never do it again until you're married." I explained that that wasn't going to happen, I liked my sex life and was not going "wait until I was married." She stomped out of the room with a silly, "You're playing with fire."
Yeah. Whatever. Not a healthy atmosphere for a growing sex life. But, I persevered (this was before the internet was available outside of Universities etc) so I had gone to the library and looked up sex and birth control, so I could protect myself from pregnancy before I ever had sex the first time. Then I bought some spermicidal foam or cream, and wasn't comfortable with that, so I went to Planned Parenthood (two Els and a bus ride) and got birth control that was more effective all on my own.
I realized it was MY sex life and my body and if I was adult enough to have sex, I was adult enough to figure out a way to make pregnancy and STDs as unlikely as possible.
I'm glad your mom was so open. Nothing I can do about it now, except be open to my own kids, as much as I can without crossing certain boundaries.
02/11/2012
My parents are very religious. We didn't say a word about it! Actually I got a sort of sex talk from my boyfriends parents in High School - not mine!
02/11/2012
it was an open subject. along with everything else. its all part of life. And I grew up in a christian household. Still live in one.
02/12/2012
I voted other. My family is christian and although my mom would of prefered i didn't have sex and still thinks this way because i am not married shes open to talking about it.
02/13/2012
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Mine were very open and easy to talk to about sex and things. I never asked anybody how to give myself an orgasm though. I found out pretty easily and VERY early on.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
...
more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
02/13/2012
My family chose not to speak of it at all.
02/13/2012
My family was really open. It was kind of weird at the time lol
02/13/2012
Other; not prudish, but I never got the talk like anyone else. I think that they knew I used the internet to answer my questions.
03/07/2012
icyqueen
I was told to stay away from boys and everything sexual.
03/08/2012
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Heavy on the prudish-ness.
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
...
more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
04/22/2012
i learned alot from friends and the internet lol
04/22/2012
Kinda in the middle, different thoughts on different things.
04/23/2012
I've never had a sex talk with my parents, but I think that's because they know I've never been really interested in sex. It's rare to hear one of my parents make a sex joke, and when they do, everyone does a double take.
04/23/2012
My family was pretty relaxed and open. My dad was more prudish.
04/23/2012
it was completely avoided in our household except the occasional joke that was so rare it was more awkward than funny
04/23/2012
I never had a sex talk with my parents.
04/23/2012
Nope not in my household
04/23/2012
My mom answered all of my questions but she knows very little herself, she taught me the biology of it all but nothing about pleasure or the enjoyment surrounding sex, she tried though
04/23/2012
I never really had "the talk" but I could always tell my mom would have been willing to discuss anything with me. She was just that kind of parent that figured if you were going to fool around you might as well be informed and safe about it
04/23/2012
I'll go other. My family was more than willing to talk (On an educational level) *I* was the prude....LOL
04/23/2012
my mother actually urged me to discover things for myself, although she did tell me that i didn't need to discover SEX itself until she felt good and ready to tell me.
needless to say, i discovered it about 7 years before she finally told me how sex felt and the pros and cons behind it.
all i was told was that sex was done with a man, how to have sex, and thats it.
needless to say, i discovered it about 7 years before she finally told me how sex felt and the pros and cons behind it.
all i was told was that sex was done with a man, how to have sex, and thats it.
04/25/2012
My mom would just say "I hope you're not doing it" and freaked out when she found out I was. She would throw out my condoms if she found them too. I also remember her saying blowjobs were degrading or something like that. I think she was just trying to protect me from doing stupid things when I was very young but went about it in the wrong way.
04/25/2012
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my mom was very prudish..she didnt even explain what a period was to me until I got it and freaked thinking I was dying!Im so open with my son because of that..he wants to know anything about sex or his body he asks me with no hesitation!
Originally posted by
(k)InkyIvy
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping
...
more
Growing up, my family was always very uptight and prudish about sex. Sexuality was taboo, enough so that my mother's "sex talk" for me essentially consisted of "If he can't give you an orgasm, he's not worth sleeping with." And when I asked how you make yourself have an orgasm, I was simply told "Rub until it feels good."
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
Needless to say, I grew up very confused and uninformed about all things sexual. It was only after I'd graduated from high school and began college that I began really learning about sex, from a friend who was much more open about it all.
Finally, at age 19, I learned what an orgasm felt like and how to give myself one.
So, here's my question:
While you were growing up, was your family open, willing/able to explain things to you so you understood sex and sexuality? Or were they prudish, barely telling you the basics? less
04/25/2012
My sex talk was being given an encyclopedia, and then being told that it was wonderful for a married couple.
I didn't even care about sex until my 20's, though, so no harm done.
I didn't even care about sex until my 20's, though, so no harm done.
04/25/2012
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Same in my household. And I really appreciate that.
Originally posted by
Melissa Smith
Our household was very open. Sex was never off limits to talk about or bring up.
04/28/2012
my parents never talked to me
04/30/2012