Guys, how much do you REALLY notice?

I have been with my boyfriend a long time, I'm talking almost 8 years, and I know this is going to sound weird, but he's never seen me naked. Hes seen bits of me when the lights are dim, but never in the light. I have self esteem issues, I've never been "skinny" but i'm not really big either, i'm what you would call chubby I guess. I love to look at the cute little camisoles and lingerie, but even when I do buy something, I cant muster it up to wear it in front of him because I worry he'll just see parts of me that I view as "flawed".

I am going to therapy already, but I dont think that will really help me in this aspect of my life. Guys,when your girl is naked or close to it in front of you, how much do you really scrutinize their body, or are you just happy to be gettin some? lol let me know what you focus on from a males perspective I just want to know. less

I used to have the same problem with my Husband. I hated sex with the lights on because I was afraid of what he'd think about me. The truth is, we see far more flaws in ourselves than our significant others see.

I've asked my Husband a thousand times about what he thinks of me in the light. He says he has never had a problem with my body. I'm sexy. If he didn't he wouldn't fuck me, much less be with me.

Over time I've grown mostly comfortable with myself and having him see me without turning all the lights off in the city. It's something you just have to keep doing until it clicks that hey, they think you're fucking awesome. less

I used to have the same problem with my Husband. I hated sex with the lights on because I was afraid of what he'd think about me. The truth is, we see far more flaws in ourselves than our significant others see.

I've asked my Husband a thousand times about what he thinks of me in the light. He says he has never had a problem with my body. I'm sexy. If he didn't he wouldn't fuck me, much less be with me.

Over time I've grown mostly comfortable with myself and having him see me without turning all the lights off in the city. It's something you just have to keep doing until it clicks that hey, they think you're fucking awesome. less

If he doesn't like it, he'll let you know - most all will be tactless enough at some point or another and tell you if they do feel that way. After eight years, even with all your incognito attempts, he would have seen you.

Now, what YOU need to do is give yourself a nice bath, scrub and fix up your skin, wear nothing but a pair of panties and a camisole, and walk around like that. All day (if you have the house to yourself for the day). Get used to seeing yourself, drag the mirrors out. Keep doing it while he's home, too. I've recently discovered that the confidence a woman shows in her body is a hundred-fold sexier than any piece of lingerie she uses to put it in the best light.

Am I right, boys? less

If he doesn't like it, he'll let you know - most all will be tactless enough at some point or another and tell you if they do feel that way. After eight years, even with all your incognito attempts, he would have seen you.

Now, what YOU need to do is give yourself a nice bath, scrub and fix up your skin, wear nothing but a pair of panties and a camisole, and walk around like that. All day (if you have the house to yourself for the day). Get used to seeing yourself, drag the mirrors out. Keep doing it while he's home, too. I've recently discovered that the confidence a woman shows in her body is a hundred-fold sexier than any piece of lingerie she uses to put it in the best light.

Am I right, boys? less

If he doesn't like it, he'll let you know - most all will be tactless enough at some point or another and tell you if they do feel that way. After eight years, even with all your incognito attempts, he would have seen you.

Now, what YOU need to do is give yourself a nice bath, scrub and fix up your skin, wear nothing but a pair of panties and a camisole, and walk around like that. All day (if you have the house to yourself for the day). Get used to seeing yourself, drag the mirrors out. Keep doing it while he's home, too. I've recently discovered that the confidence a woman shows in her body is a hundred-fold sexier than any piece of lingerie she uses to put it in the best light.

Am I right, boys? less