I'm going through that right now because of some meds that I'm on. It doesn't make me bitchy, but it makes me sad...kinda like I'm broken or something. My boyfriend is super understanding though. I love him to pieces!

I have gone through this, around the time I started premature peri-menopause. I could have orgasms, but not whenever I wanted, and they were hard to get.

I saw my GYN and he first tried Viagra, which didn't do much (made me horny as hell, but I don't know if it helped the problem, as the problem was intermittent) then when that didn't work (I couldn't afford it, as my insurance wouldn't pay for it, "We only pay for it for men." Assholes.) my gyn put me on an estrogen creme used intravaginally and after about a month of constant use, things got better.

Is there any chance you could be in peri-menopause? Are you taking a new antidepressant or a pain medication or blood pressure med? Any of these could cause the problem. I'd talk to your GYN and see what he or she has to say.

And, yes, I was bitchy as hell. I get very frustrated when this happened. In fact, it was the reason My Man and I started using sex toys! They certainly helped, too.

This happened once and lasted for about a month. I never did figure out the cause — diet? meds? time of year? — but it was extremely frustrating. Technically, I could reach orgasm with a lot of time and effort, however the orgasms were so short and weak compared to what I normally experienced, that it just increased my frustration instead of relieving it.

This happens to me intermittently. For me it's related to my ADD. I just can't focus enough to reach orgasm (after all, the brain is the most important sex organ). When I was medicated for ADD it was a lot better. I've learned to be patient with myself, and when it's really bad, break out my Hitachi Magic wand and hump it. Sometimes I can't even come that way... but if I'm going to come at all, that's how.

Although I'm going through perimenopause, I do not have trouble reaching orgasms. I believe good foreplay is a major factor, I cannot achieve orgasms if there is not enough stimulation during foreplay. I'm always thankful to have a husband who gives me great oral and is willing to use toys on me.

I went through this last year. It lasted for a little over a month and it was soooo frustrating! I ended up getting bitchy and not having sex for 2 or 3 weeks and that seemed to fix it

This happens to me sometimes when I'm stressed out. I hate it.

I have this happen to me once in a while. I get pissed!!! I throw my toys around and swear up a storm. I try my best to calm down and relax because if I'm pissed there is NO way I can O.

Stress does this to me...I've also had issues because of psych meds.

I've never had a problem reaching orgasm.