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He Wakes Up, Tries To Bone Me, and Doesn't Remember...?

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Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
does this ever happen to you? guys? girls?

my boy wakes up frequently in the middle of the night, tries to bone me and wakes me up in the process.. sometimes i oblige to the point of kissing him a bit but never let it get too far because i know he'll just conk out within 5 minutes anyway. most times he doesnt even remember.



i had a friend w/benefits once who i would get SO mad at before we ever really got physical because i'd sleep over and wake up and he'd be all grinding on me. and say i'm so sorry i just do that when i wake up next to a girl.


what the fuck is this??

and do girls do it too?

testosterone is so weird...




please let me know if you have any information on this strange phenomena below. thanks for sharing.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
i've done this before and i'm male
3
i've done this before and i'm female
6
my guy has done this to me
21
my girl has done this to me
i've found it to be quite rare
20
i've never heard of another person doing this till this poll
13
i know lots of folks who do this
2
Total votes: 65 (52 voters)
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
My guy does this...a LOT...

In fact, I was so concerned, I made an entire thread on it. P'Gell had an interesting response! link
10/28/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
I have a friend who has done this in his sleep and won't remember doing so when he wakes up. It sounds a little silly!
10/28/2011
Contributor: Cherrylane Cherrylane
Never heard of people doing it/had it done, however, my guy has trouble sleeping and tells me frequently that I'd wake up and talk to him briefly at obscene hours of the night. I never have any recollection of these conversations. At all.

So, I suppose in the case of your boyfriend, I could see him actually really not remembering. He might wake up, be super groggy, and of course want to be close to you and get all handsy handsy before the sleep takes over again. In that way, it could be kind of cute...

The other guy, that's just weird.

Also, to Peggi, that IS really interesting! I have a lot of family members who have had to go to sleep labs but I have never gone myself. Maybe I should. I too have sleep paralysis frequently and tend to have a lot of very strange, very vivid, sometimes horrifying dreams. Not a sleep walker, but curious all the same...
10/28/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I'm definitely guilty of this. If we didn't have sex before we went to sleep, I'd be reaching for his cock in the middle of the night...

Early on, we pretty much realized, came to terms with it, and if he wasn't going to be in the mood for sex before bed he'd let me know in advance so I could get myself off a time or two before bed, or he'd just say "aw, all right" and we'd have sleepy half-rememberable sex in the middle of the night.

Failing that, or if I know in advance he needs a sound night's sleep and we didn't get to have sex before bed, I'll cocoon myself in a separate blanket so my hands can't wander. You could suggest this to your boy.



Bascially---can you let him know in advance if you're not going to get off with him? If he could release a little pressure before bedtime, he would probably wake you up way less often.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
My guy does this...a LOT...

In fact, I was so concerned, I made an entire thread on it. P'Gell had an interesting response! link
It IS just like sleep walking or carrying out any other activity when asleep. Mind and body usually are in disconnect. When override happens, POOF...this is what happens, and the person's brain still IS asleep (REM, in fact...deep sleep), so there IS no "conscious" memory.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
It IS just like sleep walking or carrying out any other activity when asleep. Mind and body usually are in disconnect. When override happens, POOF...this is what happens, and the person's brain still IS asleep (REM, in fact...deep sleep), so ... more
I did a poll on this, as well. I am a sleepwalker myself, so I already knew some of the crazy things we can do, but I'd never actually met someone who can have sex in their sleep. Typically, I will mouth off nonsense or try to cook, which is why we have a switch for certain appliances in the house which is turned off at night, but he always seemed awake. Now, other occasions where he sleepwalks it is obvious after a few moments, but these were no different than when he was awake.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I've never heard of this before, but I guess if people can sleep walk, it would be fairly easy to grind on someone...
10/28/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
I find myself doing this every once and a while, but i find my S/O doing it more. I Sleep talk and move, but I don't think i've ever sleep-walked.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Kkay Kkay
Have done it and had it done. We consider it normal. In extreme circumstances, there's also sexsomnia.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Yeah, my guy has tried doing this to me, but not successfully.
10/28/2011
Contributor: LaLaLouise LaLaLouise
I used to get VERY mad at my boyfriend when I would sleep over, because sometimes he'd wake me up fingering me. And by the time I was awake enough to realize what was going on, I would already be aroused, so I'd try to return the favor, which would wake him up and he'd have a stomach ache or something, or not wake up at all. Then I'd be pissed off and horny, not easy to fall asleep in that condition, lol. One time it did actually lead to sex and the next morning we were like, "Did you initiate, or did I?". It hasn't happened in a while but last night when I crawled into bed and we were cuddling (he's VERY cuddly) he starts kissing me intently and I'm like, "whhhaaaa?" and yeah. Long story short, awesome sex, haha.
10/28/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
My husband tells me I do this to him. In the middle of the night, I'll just fondle his cock for like 10 seconds, then roll over and be a useless lump again.
10/28/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
My ex was a sexsomniac. He would frequently wake me up with sexual overtures that he would not remember the next day.
10/28/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Hasnt happened too much.
10/28/2011
Contributor: null null
My boyfriend has never done this to me, but he will initiate when he wakes up in the morning and I'm still mostly asleep. I normally just play along until he decides to take care of himself.
10/28/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
Raises hand

I've done this before. If it happens again, she'll either go with it or not, I wouldn't take it personal if she turned me down though.
10/28/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I dont think I have ever done something like this. Maybe I have and dont remember.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Been there...done it...not proud of it...but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.
10/29/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
Has happened with several guys
10/29/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I've never heard of this before. Interesting!
10/29/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
There was actually a news article over here awhile ago where there were cases recorded of this kind of thing - only more extreme.
These guys would force themselves on their partners and would get aggressive if the partner didn't allow them to have their way. These were guys who were never aggressive in person and they were actually asleep (although appeared awake) while in the act.

Some who were single would go out and rape. They were never aware of what they were doing or had done.

One wife had to resort to locking herself in the spare bedroom to sleep cause the husband was doing it most nights.

I believe they got these guys on treatment so they could live a normal happy life again.
10/30/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
these are some funny stories.


he also as he's falling asleep or even while asleep will like every 5 minutes give me one good thrust of his hips, and shove his cock into my side. i've had to wake him up and be like , yo. stop it. you're waking me up.

and would YOU like it if i just, say, stuck my fingers in my vag and shoved them down your throat every five minutes while you were sleeping? ya jerk?
10/30/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Shellz31
There was actually a news article over here awhile ago where there were cases recorded of this kind of thing - only more extreme.
These guys would force themselves on their partners and would get aggressive if the partner didn't allow them to ... more
holy shitbird. thats intense. so glad the guys got on treatment. fuck sakes. its a crazy world.
10/30/2011
Contributor: eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
does this ever happen to you? guys? girls?

my boy wakes up frequently in the middle of the night, tries to bone me and wakes me up in the process.. sometimes i oblige to the point of kissing him a bit but never let it get too far because i ... more
I didn't really know this happened
10/30/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
My guy has done this to me a few times. I think he sleep sexes his favorite things. He's gotten on top once, made me get on top of him twice and made me suck him off once. In the morning, he remembers absolutely nothing.
12/06/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Sometimes I half wake up and masturbate..
12/06/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I would LOVE it if my partner started doing this, haha! Anyone know how I could get her to start?
12/06/2011
Contributor: SweetSurprise SweetSurprise
My s/o and I sometimes have sex in the middle of the night still half asleep. When we wake up the next morning we look over at each other like did we have sex or was I dreaming lol. But were both cuddlers and very touchy when in bed and sleeping so thats probably why. Ive also grabbed him while sleeping got him going then rolled back over still out of it. He isnt too happy when I do that
12/06/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
my favorite is the time i asked him to get up and check the noise i heard, and he totally grabbed my crotch and got all fucking sexy talk with me out of nowhere. we did it. still dont know what the noise was. LOL
12/06/2011