Sometimes its hard to let someone know what you like during/before sex and the kinky things you enjoy how and when do you go about bringing it up? I get a feel for the person during the first few sex sessions then I slowly let all my kinkness out lol..
How and when to release the kink?
12/03/2011
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You forgot an "Other" option, because I do kind of a combination of all of the first four.
There are kinks I get squared away on the first date, before we get to bed the first time (because if they're not okay with them, we won't be compatible). There are others I build up to gradually as I get to know them and think they'd be down with. Then, most fun of all, there's learning all of their kinks!
There are kinks I get squared away on the first date, before we get to bed the first time (because if they're not okay with them, we won't be compatible). There are others I build up to gradually as I get to know them and think they'd be down with. Then, most fun of all, there's learning all of their kinks!
12/03/2011
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I agree with Antipova. My approach is a combination of the options you presented. I'm really really kinky, and I'm completely incompatible with people who aren't also extremely kinky. I get a feel for whether someone would be open to it by dropping some hints. If they respond well, then I tell them quite frankly what my kinks are. If they're not into it, then it falls off after that. If they are, then the fun begins...
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SweetSurprise
Sometimes its hard to let someone know what you like during/before sex and the kinky things you enjoy how and when do you go about bringing it up? I get a feel for the person during the first few sex sessions then I slowly let all my kinkness out
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12/03/2011
Oops I did forget an OTHER option sorry about that..But im the same way with dropping the little hints. When I do tell what really gets me going I hope they are ok and into it too..Recently I went though this when telling my so and was glad he enjoys what I enjoy but I was a little hesitant.I know what gets me going and what I enjoy if its not what the other person likes then we won't work..I realized awhile ago to speak up about what I like and want and to find someone who enjoys the same.
12/03/2011
I just let loose on the kink. It lets me know if I'd be compatible with someone, and thankfully my girlfriend/Master is perfectly matched.
12/03/2011
I wouldn't want to freak someone out by coming on too strong, and I love a wide variety of things, so I feel them out for a couple of the less crazy sounding things I enjoy, and then gradually bring up the rest. My husband wasn't into ANYTHING when we started dating! ;-)
12/06/2011
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