My boyfriend has never had any "experience" in using toys in the bedroom. He has used my vibrator on me but that is about it. I need to know how I can get him to become more open and willing to try new toys with me. It's almost as if he's embarrassed about the topic. Any suggestions?
How do I get him more interested in using toys?
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Ask him if there are any toys he is interested in. And then use it together.
02/06/2012
Is he actually hesitant about using toys or does he just not have much experience?
In either case, have him explore some other toys with you. See if there are some things that would maybe appeal to him (to use on either of you) and keep talking about sexuality and both of your interests in general.
While people here probably aren't at all ashamed or embarrassed to talk about sex and sexuality a lot of people grow up thinking it's not something to be talked about and even as common as toys are there are many people who have a hard time talking about them.
In either case, have him explore some other toys with you. See if there are some things that would maybe appeal to him (to use on either of you) and keep talking about sexuality and both of your interests in general.
While people here probably aren't at all ashamed or embarrassed to talk about sex and sexuality a lot of people grow up thinking it's not something to be talked about and even as common as toys are there are many people who have a hard time talking about them.
02/06/2012
I think that a great way to start is surf Eden with him, see what piques his interest. Also, don't make him feel like you want to use toys because he's a bad lover; that's something a lot of men get into their heads.
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Took the words right out of my mouth! Safe, secure, doesn't have to worry about anybody looking at him. Plus you can talk about a certain toy together. Also show him the Fleshlight line or the Tenga toy line, see if he sparks an intrest. If he does buy him one and throw that into your foreplay. This way he gets to experience what a sex toy can fel like for a man, and he might warm up to them more. Also a lot of men do see sex toys as a threat to there manhood with the "Why isn't my dick enough for her!?!?!" You just have to tell him that most women can just not cum that way. Teah him what works for you and keep it open. If he can't come to grips with any of that, he may need to go.
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Ryuson
I think that a great way to start is surf Eden with him, see what piques his interest. Also, don't make him feel like you want to use toys because he's a bad lover; that's something a lot of men get into their heads.
02/06/2012
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