I know when my wife and I had kids, we were lucky to have sex once or twice a month!

I think if you've still got some type of ongoing sex life your doing better than most couples. Congratulations and good luck.

I think you're doing fine. It's not the quantity, it's the quality. And remember, all your sex doesn't have to be partnersex. It's perfectly fine for each of you to masturbate to find some release. You can leave each other sexy notes or e-mails, phone calls, or even watch each other. Get creative and don't be afraid to be spontaneous.

we aren't afraid to be spontaneous it's just finding time for it between work and a cranky toddler that doesn't like to sleep... its frustrating... but you guys made me feel so much better... recently i've been getting jealous of my fiancee because hes been masturbating a lot and i don't have time to find my release and he wasn't helping me out because he had gotten his... sexually frustrated... so we've been fighting about that a lot... but i love the intimate times we have together...