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Contributor: married with children married with children
How many times in your life had you had sex?
My wife and I have only been with each other. All my friends tell me that I am missing out on the number of times I have had sex. I feel they are full of crap.
Let me do the math. I will start counting from when we moved in together.

Being living together for 11 years, 1 month, and 3 days. So aprox. 4,050 days. We have sex 5 days a week. So 578.5 weeks equals 2,893 times. Plus the times not counted when we did not live together. So that comes out to about 263 times a year. Give or take a few.
I am not trying to brag. That number is higher then any number my single friends my age had. And also higher then my married friends who have had a number of partners.
I am wondering about how the numbers stack up for other couples and individuals. Do people who have had multiple partners have more sex then those of use who stick with one?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have only had one partner
28
I have had mutiple partners
52
we have sex less then 100 times a year
32
we have sex less then 150, but more then 100 times a year
9
we have sex less then 200, but more then 150 times a year
13
we have sex less then 250, but more then 200 times a year
3
we have sex more then 250 times a year
15
other
11
Total votes: 163 (85 voters)
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Contributor: married with children married with children
I did not make this post for people to brag about their sexual conquest's. I just want some numbers to take back to my friends who tell me I am missing getting some because I choose to only sleep with my wife.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
I did not make this post for people to brag about their sexual conquest's. I just want some numbers to take back to my friends who tell me I am missing getting some because I choose to only sleep with my wife.
That's rubbish. If you are happy with your wife, what are you missing?
07/10/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
Quote:
Originally posted by Ghost
That's rubbish. If you are happy with your wife, what are you missing?
nothing. that is what I tell them. But they dont believe me. So I will give them some numbers and hope that shuts them up.
07/10/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
I did not make this post for people to brag about their sexual conquest's. I just want some numbers to take back to my friends who tell me I am missing getting some because I choose to only sleep with my wife.
Why do you feel the need to prove yourself to anyone? I was about to commend you in the other post that I started about number of partners. It is very rare these days to be with one person for one's entire life, and that's something to be proud of, not ashamed of in my opinion. It's the quality, not quantity that counts.

As for the topic, I would say between roughly five years since I became sexually active, I've had sex probably less than a hundred times. Much of the reason for that is being in long-distance relationships.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
nothing. that is what I tell them. But they dont believe me. So I will give them some numbers and hope that shuts them up.
My husband was a virgin when I met him and has never been with anyone but me, and has never shown any interest (even when we were still dating and I gave him the option, because I know a lot of men feel they have to "experience many women") in being with anyone else.
07/10/2011
Contributor: MJ1337 MJ1337
I've had a few partners. But with this one, less than 100/year (so far)
07/10/2011
Contributor: Destri Destri
My hubby is my third. We have the most sex I have ever had before, and average about 4 times a week, but I will admit this is down from about 10 times a week the first year we were together.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Endocott Endocott
This is my third partner.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Noira Celestia Noira Celestia
I have no idea how many times I have had sex I knew someone in high school that was counting but I really have no clue. Over the last three years since my daughter was born, I have probably had sex less than 100 times. However over the last month I've really made up for that, not to mention before my daughter was born.
07/10/2011
Contributor: irishlove irishlove
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
How many times in your life had you had sex?
My wife and I have only been with each other. All my friends tell me that I am missing out on the number of times I have had sex. I feel they are full of crap.
Let me do the math. I will start ... more
I estimated my number. My current boyfriend is my 3rd partner. We've been together a year but don't live together. He works at least 10 hrs a day, 5 days a week plus goes to school part time so we don't have much time. We somehow have sex a lot. Some weeks more than other due to our schedules. Sometimes we'll have sex everyday (sometimes multiple times a day) and some weeks we'll only have sec once or twice. I estimated our number to be 150-200.
07/10/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
Why do you feel the need to prove yourself to anyone? I was about to commend you in the other post that I started about number of partners. It is very rare these days to be with one person for one's entire life, and that's something to be ... more
Oh, I am in no way ashamed of only sharing with my wife. Just the opposite, we both are very proud of only being with each other.
07/10/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
This is hard to tally!
07/10/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
Only had one partner, and only had sex one time, and that's it. He cheated on and dumped me recently, too, so now no sex for me.
07/10/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
Only had one partner, and only had sex one time, and that's it. He cheated on and dumped me recently, too, so now no sex for me.
sorry to hear that. you are better off without him.
07/10/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
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Originally posted by married with children
sorry to hear that. you are better off without him.
Thanks. Everyone tells me that. It was an LDR of 4 years, and I guess he just couldn't wait any longer despite the fact I could have moved to him this very year. (Only saw him for 2 weeks in person. Flying is expensive.)
07/10/2011
Contributor: lanky lanky
its hard trying to figure the math on this one
07/10/2011
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I've had sex with 2 people and I picked less than 100 times a year, but it's hard for me to figure out the number. I think it would have been less than 100 times in the last year from today since I've only been with my bf for about 5 months, but for 2011 it will probably end up being at least 200.
07/10/2011
Contributor: ToyBoy ToyBoy
I have had multiple partners, but don't have a steady partner, so the number changes with my relationships.
07/10/2011
Contributor: soyandapplecrisp soyandapplecrisp
Have had nine partners. Numbers vary with the people and living situation, really.
07/11/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
Oh, I am in no way ashamed of only sharing with my wife. Just the opposite, we both are very proud of only being with each other.
Good!
07/11/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
we have sex just about daily maybe skip a day or two even that time of the month there are other holes! we both have been with others but neither of us have had sex lives like we do now
07/13/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I used to have a sex tally that I gave up this past year. I never averaged it out per year because when I'm single I'm basically celibate and depending on how many single years I had it can totally throw off the numbers.

But thrown off or not, I don't come anywhere close to 260.
07/13/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
My fiancee and I are in a long distance relationship now, so we're probably a little under 100 a year.
07/13/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
Oh, I am in no way ashamed of only sharing with my wife. Just the opposite, we both are very proud of only being with each other.
You and your wife SHOULD be very proud of each other. You two are the perfect example of what a wonderful relationship should be like, those people out there who cheat on their partners should look up to you!

Tell your immature friends a good relationship that includes love is much more important than one based on sex ONLY!
07/24/2011
Contributor: Jobo Jobo
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
How many times in your life had you had sex?
My wife and I have only been with each other. All my friends tell me that I am missing out on the number of times I have had sex. I feel they are full of crap.
Let me do the math. I will start ... more
3 times twice with the same person.
11/10/2011
Contributor: mudpie mudpie
I can't say for sure, but I'm willing to bet that people with one partner have more sex. I don't have one steady partner, I tend to sleep with people casually, but that means no reliable source of sex.
11/12/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I think I saw this discussion on an episode of How I met your Mother.
11/14/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
I think I saw this discussion on an episode of How I met your Mother.
Yep. Barney was ragging on Marshall and bragging that he was about to hit his 200th conquest. So they made charts.
11/14/2011
Contributor: Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
I don't think it's a bad thing to have only been with one person. If it feels right to you, then I don't think you're missing out on anything.
11/14/2011