In addition to "Just do it more!" - plan it. Make or buy a romantic/sex card, think about what your going to do to make your partner feel special - to drive them to new heights.

The brain is your biggest sex organ - get it engaged in the process and you won't believe how great your 'routine' sex will become.

Creating anticipation through planning will have you horny beyond belief! less

I have to agree here. This is my reaction to planning as well. If I feel that I am obligated, or expected to perform in any way I just shut down sexually. I find being drunk helps tremendously though. I also LOVE to tease people and that does get me all revved up as well. Maybe just try to drive your partner out of their mind to the best of your ability, if you are anything like me, you will find the worse off they are the more eager you are. less

I'm guessing this is the difference between men and women.

When I plan - only I know the plan. There is no expectation because my partner has little or no idea what the plan is.

The plan never goes as imagined - it can't. It's like chess - what your opponent/partner does cannot be ignored. It's just a tool to get your mind in 'sex' mode - stored up energy. less

See I might send multiple sexts throughout the day, just to torture my significant other and then plan on waiting naked in the dark to surprise them with a cold beer when they walk into the house after work. Then I will go put my clothes back on just to fuck with them. Half an hour later I might start taking clothing off again, complaining of the heat, and lean across his/her lap a couple of times to grab something/put it back. I would of course act completely oblivious if they started initiating anything or mention it. This sort of torture will likely go on until they either jump me or I get myself so horny I jump them. I find it immensely entertaining. less

I like it - to me sexting has the same purpose as planing. It gets you thinking about sex, lets your SO know their in for some fun tonight - and gets them thinking about what they want to do to have fun.

Whatever it takes to amp-up your sexual energy. less

Drinking too much can put me in the mood, but a drink or two will put me to sleep.

I find that masturbation helps a lot! When women masturbate, it brings blood flow TO the sexual organs, whereas after men ejaculate, blood flow LEAVES the sexual organs.

I also find that discussing fantasies, reading erotic fiction (by yourself or to each other), or watching a sexy movie can help (doesn't have to be porn, I like erotic stuff more than straight up pornography). less