If someone sucked in bed would you tell them?

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If someone sucked in bed would you tell them?

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Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
curious who would really be honest. I believe in honesty but idk if I could tell someone that.
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yes i would they should know
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37  (54%)
no ways thats too akward
CindyH , BlooJay , unfulfilled , WhoopieDoo , Geogeo , *Camoprincess*
6  (9%)
depends on the person
Woman China , Airen Wolf , Zombirella , DeliciousSurprise , deltalima , Mew , Do emu , Rossie , Lizzy , MissCandyland , hey steady , Luv Tabone , ellejay , Kitten has left the site , padmeamidala , Rin (aka Nire) , sweetpea12 , CollegeFun2014 , Eva Schwaltz , Missmarc , L&P3040 , elli , solitudinarian , quackbuster , meezerosity , digit88
26  (38%)
Total votes: 69
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03/23/2012
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Contributor: married with children married with children
you can only fix the problem if you are honest about it.
03/23/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have told a couple of my ex what I like and don't like and I told them they were not doing something right.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Welcome to my world. There comes a time when after a few partners you begin to think it is you. Then... thankfully, you come across someone who knows sex is not just for them and it blows your mind!!! And his compliments about the things that you do or that your moans don't scare him and that you becoming a little aggressive don't make him want to run away... remind you that men are not always the same on both sides of the pond (or land mass).

I do tell him things I'd prefer him do if I know that he'll listen and take them under advisement.

For some men, there is no point. And it is just easier to lay there and listen to him grunt and moan while I am bored stiff let him finish, then roll over and grab a toy and enjoy myself. Because afterall, to some of these men... the female orgasm is just a myth. The doctors say so. And there is no changing their minds.

Sorry!!! I am on a man-grrrr'ing day!!!
03/24/2012
Contributor: Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
Communication is vital, but I would do my best to avoid using the word "suck" as an adjective in the conversation.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
curious who would really be honest. I believe in honesty but idk if I could tell someone that.
Depends on whether I wanted to continue the relationship. If I did I would probably work to improve their technique and what not.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
curious who would really be honest. I believe in honesty but idk if I could tell someone that.
It depends.....I have before =/
03/24/2012
Contributor: curious kitten curious kitten
If you want the relationship to continue, you would have to. If it was a one time thing, they probably would want to know why.
03/24/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
no would hurt there feelings and if liked them would hope things would get better ever if had to intruduce them to he toy
03/24/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
curious who would really be honest. I believe in honesty but idk if I could tell someone that.
I might if they think they're damn good.
03/24/2012
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Well, I would be really gentle about it and just ask them to do some things how I want them, and that we need to practice more to get good. It depends on why they were bad I guess.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Do emu Do emu
In the most positive and loving way, I would suggest some improvements. I wouldn't be blatant about it. That's a kick in the balls of confidence.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
Well, I would be really gentle about it and just ask them to do some things how I want them, and that we need to practice more to get good. It depends on why they were bad I guess.
Great approach to the problem!
03/24/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
No. If i liked them i would try and teach them. Great sex is an art that few understand. Otherwise i would just ignore them until they went away.
03/24/2012
Contributor: wildorchid wildorchid
There is a tactful way to tell someone what you would prefer they do to you.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Indigo Morada Indigo Morada
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
curious who would really be honest. I believe in honesty but idk if I could tell someone that.
I would and give them pointers.
03/24/2012
Contributor: plaidvulva plaidvulva
I'd tell them and try to help them improve their technique
03/24/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Depends on the person. Sometimes a white lie is the nicer thing to do.
03/24/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I would want to know, but in a nice way.
03/24/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
No. I even find it hard to tell someone their cooking sucks.
03/24/2012
Contributor: sassyNsensual sassyNsensual
I'd say something - but I'd kind of beat around the bush about it. Like "oh babe, try this" or "I love it when..."
03/24/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I wouldn't feel bold enough to do that.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Taylor Taylor
Quote:
Originally posted by wildorchid
There is a tactful way to tell someone what you would prefer they do to you.
This is pretty much how I feel. I don't have a problem telling someone what I like, but I don't need to be harsh about it.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
How about an option for No, I can teach them. It would be a lot of fun too.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
Suggestions and positive reinforcement go a long way.
03/24/2012
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
If I was in a relationship with the person, I wouldn't say "yooou suck," but I'd try to guide them and teach them what works for me/find out what works for them.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
if it was a lover, i would try to teach them what i can and know so that it helps later on in the bed
03/24/2012
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I don't think I'd tell someone they "sucked," but I would try to tell them that some things could use work. Best to make the learning process a positive experience.
03/24/2012
Contributor: guro guro
it depends on the person...if one of my significant others was bad in bed i'd tell them how things weren't working out for me and try to help them improve in terms of giving me pleasure, i'd expect them to do the same for me if i wasn't getting them off as well as i could.

if it was just a one-night stand or something though i'm not sure i'd bother, no way they'd know what i liked in the first place.
03/24/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
you can only fix the problem if you are honest about it.
^agree
03/24/2012