If things don't go your way, do you pitch a fit?

If things don't go your way, do you pitch a fit?

ToyGurl ToyGurl
I'm just curious, if sex doesn't exactly "go your way" (the sex was awful, you didn't orgasm, it hurt, you were tired, you felt left out, etc.) do you pitch a fit, or stay cool?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I get pissed, I wont lie.
Ghost
1
I don't throw a huge fit, but I do let my s/o know when I'm not satisfied.
ToyGurl , Shellz31 , Ms. Spice , Rossie , Eva Schwaltz , ss143 , AndroAngel , l'amour , Tessa Taboo , Adriana Ravenlust
10
I hold a grudge, roll over, and go to sleep. It's over in the morning.
ToyGurl , Shellz31
2
I blow it off. I'd rather not get upset over something so small.
EJ , Gunsmoke , El-Jaro , wetone123 , Adriana Ravenlust
5
I blow it off... I'd rather not repeat what happened last time...
I don't even care. Sex is sex! Why make a big deal?
Kkay , WierdAl , DeliciousSurprise , slynch , unfulfilled , Antipova , ToyTimeTim , ToyBoy , The Curious Couple , Katastophy , mandiegk , Illumin8 , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Ash1141 , MaryExy , potstickers
17
Other
DeliciousSurprise , Ansley , catgirl9 , ThoughtsAblaze , MaryExy
5
Total votes: 40 (35 voters)
Poll is closed
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Kkay Kkay
Sex I really don't give a damn about when it comes to something like that. So it doesn't turn out right- okay. I get more irritated when a meal turns out badly.
09/25/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
I do one of two things. I will SOMETIMES say "Babe, I didn't cum yet..." and sort of hope he isn't too tired to help me finish off. Or, I just hold it in and go to sleep. Not necessarily hold a grudge, but I hold in the fact that I'm upset. In the morning it's over.
09/25/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
I won't have a hissy fit, but I will bring it up either later that night or the next day, so we can figure out how to make it better for the pair of us--if it's not just that I'm too cranky to have a good time.
09/25/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I won't have a hissy fit, but I will bring it up either later that night or the next day, so we can figure out how to make it better for the pair of us--if it's not just that I'm too cranky to have a good time.
See, same here. I like to mention it because I feel like if it goes unmentioned then it may cause problems down the line. I think you know where I'm coming from.
09/25/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I make it very clear that I'm not happy and if my partner is decent, he would ask me straight away to talk about it. Otherwise by morning it will be even a bigger mess and I DO hold a grudge!
If there is something wrong I expect a partner to care enough to force it out of me asap. If he doesn't, we won't last.
09/25/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Obviously I don't care since I haven't ever experienced an orgasm. I could see where it could cause problems in other partners b/c its best to communicate and be open with one another.
09/25/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I will make it known that I wasn't satisfied, and I'll be pretty annoyed/ agitated till I go to sleep.
09/25/2011
Antipova Antipova
I marked that I don't even care---I'm easy-to-orgasm so I get off most times during sex, but even if I don't get off, I enjoy being close with my partner and seeing/feeling him get off.

I guess there are two exceptions---once after a few dates I was spending the night with a new fellow, who decided to try the 'whoops, wrong hole!' trick instead of asking for anal, and when I told him that wasn't acceptable he switched back to vaginal without switching condoms. I sent him home in the middle of the night. But that wasn't just 'came too fast for me to get off too,' it was actively risking my health and well-being, as well as showing me no respect.

One other instance was nonconsensual but I guess that doesn't apply to this question.

Pretty much every other sexual experience I've ever had has "gone my way," in that both partners mutually benefitted.
09/25/2011
catgirl9 catgirl9
A little bit of letting him know and sex is sex. It really depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes the intimacy of sex is more important than having an orgasm, for both of us.
09/25/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Sex is sex. If things don't go my way, they probably will next time.
09/25/2011
Ghost Ghost
I'll admit: I've had the worst temper. I've dumped people over bad sex before, if not merely kicked them out.
09/25/2011
Rossie Rossie
I'll let my husband know in a pleasant tone, communication and getting it done the proper way, is very important in a great sexual relationship.
09/25/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
My boyfriend can usually tell if it isn't working for me - apparently I'm very bad at controlling my facial expressions during sex. It's usually fantastic, but when it's not it doesn't really bother me too much - it can't be mind-blowing every single time.
09/25/2011
Illumin8 Illumin8
There are of course times where it doesn't go as great as others, but getting upset over it would only make the situation an unpleasant one. We realize that it's not going to be perfect every time, and we're ok with that!
09/25/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I don't hold a grudge, but I'll say something if I didn't like it.
09/25/2011
ss143 ss143
We talk openly and always want each other to be happy so if something doesn't turn out right we talk about it and figure out if we were just tired or something just didn't work for us we don't hold grudges or get mad. After so many years together tho we don't encounter that too much anymore
09/25/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
The last time my boyfriend and I were together, he said that really changed my view of our sexual relationship: it's not about how many orgasms you have, but enjoying being together. On that particular night, we'd enjoyed hours of pleasure, conversation, laughs, etc. but I felt bad when he was too worn out to keep his erection for penetration. I felt guilty that I'd had more orgasms, and I'm SO glad now that I was honest (I'm bad about hiding my feelings) and we had that conversation.

I've learned that the best response to a less-than-stellar sexual time is to talk about it. We both know not to take it personally, but more importantly, we use it as a learning experience to make the next sexual encounter even awesomer!
09/25/2011
The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm just curious, if sex doesn't exactly "go your way" (the sex was awful, you didn't orgasm, it hurt, you were tired, you felt left out, etc.) do you pitch a fit, or stay cool?
Gotta say some sex is better than no sex regardless of the situation.
09/25/2011
ToyGurl ToyGurl
Quote:
Originally posted by The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
Gotta say some sex is better than no sex regardless of the situation.
That's very true. Gosh, when my hubby goes away for the military I'd just about die for horrible sex.
09/26/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
We very rarely have problems sexually, but when we do, we talk about it. We generally talk about what works and what doesn't anyway, regardless of the situation, though, so sex between us just keeps getting better.
09/26/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
If it happens, it happens.

To rephrase what someone said above - It's not like it's the last time you're going to have sex.

I also think that everyone is responsible for their own orgasm. If you can't get off with your partner(s), do your best to show them your buttons but be relaxed/groovy enough to be patient with them.

I don't understand getting mad at your partner for this.
09/26/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
I'm just curious, if sex doesn't exactly "go your way" (the sex was awful, you didn't orgasm, it hurt, you were tired, you felt left out, etc.) do you pitch a fit, or stay cool?
it depends, I was once messing with a guy who claimed he was huge, and he wasnt and he didnt know how to use it at all so i threw him out of my house and told him to never come back..
10/01/2011
Ash1141 Ash1141
I don't really care. I'm pretty laid back in all aspects of my life.
10/01/2011
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Unique posters: 21