sometimes my boyfriend just can't get me to cum. It's not his fault, plus i enjoy the sex just as much anyway. I want to make him feel good, so sometimes ill fake it. Is that bad?
Is it wrong to fake an orgasm?
11/25/2012
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Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going to come. Whether it's because i'm too tired, too distracted, too stressed about something else, or my body isn't cooperating or whatever. It happens and, to me, faking it is tantamount to lying and that's not healthy for the relationship. There are times when, for whatever reason, i can tell an orgasm either isn't going to happen or will take too long or be too much work, so i just honestly admit that.
Originally posted by
needapacker
sometimes my boyfriend just can't get me to cum. It's not his fault, plus i enjoy the sex just as much anyway. I want to make him feel good, so sometimes ill fake it. Is that bad?
11/26/2012
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Well said.
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going
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Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going to come. Whether it's because i'm too tired, too distracted, too stressed about something else, or my body isn't cooperating or whatever. It happens and, to me, faking it is tantamount to lying and that's not healthy for the relationship. There are times when, for whatever reason, i can tell an orgasm either isn't going to happen or will take too long or be too much work, so i just honestly admit that.
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11/26/2012
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I agree with this not to mention if your partner finds out you are faking they will then feel as if they weren't good enough. This can cause self confidence issues in your partner as well, if I know I am not going to be able to climax I say something an they either try harder or just hold me.
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going
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Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going to come. Whether it's because i'm too tired, too distracted, too stressed about something else, or my body isn't cooperating or whatever. It happens and, to me, faking it is tantamount to lying and that's not healthy for the relationship. There are times when, for whatever reason, i can tell an orgasm either isn't going to happen or will take too long or be too much work, so i just honestly admit that.
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11/26/2012
We agree...if you are "faking it" aren't you basically lying to your partner?
Just tell him it isn't going to happen today...this happens to BOTH of us sometimes. But honestly...honesty is really your best route.
Just tell him it isn't going to happen today...this happens to BOTH of us sometimes. But honestly...honesty is really your best route.
11/26/2012
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Honesty is the best policy, so if you are not being satisfied let your partner know what satisfies you.
Originally posted by
needapacker
sometimes my boyfriend just can't get me to cum. It's not his fault, plus i enjoy the sex just as much anyway. I want to make him feel good, so sometimes ill fake it. Is that bad?
12/17/2012
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I agree. Faking an orgasm is unproductive and a disservice to both of you. Besides, if you fake it or don't speak up, your boyfriend will then think that something works when it doesn't, and be more likely to repeat whatever it is and continue to expect the same reaction (and since he doesn't know the truth, how can you blame him?).
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going
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Personally, i think it's unproductive and not good for the relationship. i'd rather be honest and admit that, though i'm having a great time and that it feels good and i'm not feeling like anything is lacking, i'm just not going to come. Whether it's because i'm too tired, too distracted, too stressed about something else, or my body isn't cooperating or whatever. It happens and, to me, faking it is tantamount to lying and that's not healthy for the relationship. There are times when, for whatever reason, i can tell an orgasm either isn't going to happen or will take too long or be too much work, so i just honestly admit that.
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Just be honest. It's okay to enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm, and I'm sure your boyfriend can handle learning that. And the more you communicate, the better you both will become at pleasing one another. Also, there's no shame in taking matters into your own hands (so to speak) and stimulating yourself a bit while you have sex - no need to always rely on your boyfriend to get you to come all by himself. He may even enjoy the sight!
12/17/2012
In the context of a relationship, I don't think it's a good idea.
If it's like.....a sex worker faking an orgasm for a John....or a one night stand that you're sure to NEVER EVER SLEEP WITH AGAIN....then it's justified.
If it's like.....a sex worker faking an orgasm for a John....or a one night stand that you're sure to NEVER EVER SLEEP WITH AGAIN....then it's justified.
12/17/2012
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