Is there really a difference between fucking, making love, and sex?

Contributor: lovelylolaa lovelylolaa
Everyone always says theyre not the same... but is there a difference between "fucking" "making love" and "having sex"??? And explain please and thank you.
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yes
37  (95%)
no
2  (5%)
Total votes: 39
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12/12/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It's always making love if you love the one you're with - regardless of how fast, hard, passionate, or soft and slow it is.
12/12/2012
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
To me, "making love" is soft and sensual. "Sex" is in between. "Fucking" is hard and rough. We only do the last two. I'm not much for "making love."
12/12/2012
Contributor: EdenG EdenG
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Originally posted by - Kira -
To me, "making love" is soft and sensual. "Sex" is in between. "Fucking" is hard and rough. We only do the last two. I'm not much for "making love."
ha! good answer!
12/12/2012
Contributor: Raymaker Raymaker
Kira hit the nail on the head with the difference between "making love" and fucking" but instead of saying that "sex" is in between the two, I prefer to think of it as an UMBRELLA term under which both categories of "making love" and "fucking" lie.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Sirena Sirena
Quote:
Originally posted by lovelylolaa
Everyone always says theyre not the same... but is there a difference between "fucking" "making love" and "having sex"??? And explain please and thank you.
I think that the difference between the 3 lies in the mindset of the individuals. In the beginning of my relationship with my husband we were FWB. We had sex without really any emotions linked to the act. We just both had physical needs that were fulfilled through sex, but we kept in mind that our partner had needs and we saw that they got off as well as made sure we got ours. Then there were times when we full on fucked. It was an animalistic, carnal act that was different. It was selfish in the fact that we were out to just get our pleasure and had no really worry about the other coming. One defining moment was after we were in a car accident. Once we were at his place and had calmed down we both attacked each other like we just had to reaffirm that we were alive. (That was a good one) When making love, there is the emotion of - well love, behind the act. All that you do is to please each other and see to not just each other's physical and mental needs, but most of all their emotional needs. Now I am not saying that making love is a gentle act with candlelight and billowing curtains. I am sure if some people watched some of the things I do with my husband they we would think we are just a couple of fuckers, but there is more behind the act. We knew after the first time we accidentally "made love" that there was a shift in our relationship where we gained more than just FWB emotions and we realized we were not longer FWB, but something much more.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
It depends on the context it's used.

Usually fucking implies quick, animalistic sex, "making love" implies intimacy with someone you care a lot about and "having sex" is pretty meh.
12/12/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
Yes there is a difference.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Lovesickalien Lovesickalien
Making love is when you care about someone and are in a relationship. Fucking is like a fuck buddy or something where you really don't care about how the other person feels, and you just wanna go at it. And sex sounds like just a general word for any way you wanna say it.
12/12/2012
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by lovelylolaa
Everyone always says theyre not the same... but is there a difference between "fucking" "making love" and "having sex"??? And explain please and thank you.
yes I am married and there are different types of ways to be intimate. We do all of the above, but there's always love there.
12/12/2012
Contributor: table38792 table38792
I think 'fuck' or 'having sex' can be done without an emotional connection while 'making love' cannot because it requires a personal bond or relationship and that enhances the physical pleasure.

Sorry that's the best I can explain it.
12/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
For some people there might not be a difference. But there is a definite emotional difference for me.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
I think there is, and although I understand the debate about emotional connection and love, I think it all depends on the two individuals. I personally do all three with my wife depending on our moods, and I can guarantee you that when we fuck I'm still as deeply in love with her as when we make love.
12/12/2012
Contributor: kitty1949 kitty1949
I think there's a difference.
12/12/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
We're often none of the above - it may sound strange but sex for us is recreation - it's our play time.

We don't go dancing or to the movies - we have sex. Dinner may come before or after - but the main event is sex!

Go figure?
12/13/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by lovelylolaa
Everyone always says theyre not the same... but is there a difference between "fucking" "making love" and "having sex"??? And explain please and thank you.
Well, there is kind of a difference, but making love to someone you do love can happen in any form. My partner and I have pretty rough sex, but it's plenty passionate and that makes it "makin' love."

Now, what you're talking about. People say there's a difference because most people refer to "makin' love" as gentle, more romantic, sensual, soft, gentle, but often rough. You get what I'm saying? Sometimes that's what a person prefers and that's why we sometimes tell our partners "I want to make love." Saying "I want to fuck" usually gives the impression you may want to be thrown down and literally fucked. Nothing soft, nothing sensual and sometimes nothing romantic. Just fucked. Not that there's anything bad about that. Sometimes I LOVE it that way. But I think that's the idea behind the different terms.
12/13/2012
Contributor: vulvalicious vulvalicious
I agree with what a lot of people have posted. I think you have to have a close intimate connection with someone to make love. If you have this connection with someone, fucking or having sex is still love making, it's just more of a term for how rough, hard or fast you want to be with each other. I think fucking is more raw, animalistic, and about doing what feels good. I see fucking as being less inhibited, maybe more kinky, just doing what feels good. Sex is just a generic term for the act. It's all sex.
12/13/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Definitely a difference
12/13/2012
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
There really is. I can make love and fuck the same person I love. I've always thought of fucking to be more primal and animalistic while making love is slower and sweeter.
12/13/2012