It's been a long time

Hi I'm new here hope this is ok to ask here.. I got with this man 2 years ago and he was probably one of the first people who ever got me off so soon into our relationship. He took the time to show me attention and I was impressed. I even told him that I was used to doing it myself most of my life because the majority of men either don't know how or don't put the effort in it takes me to reach orgasm..... Fast forward a few months and we broke up for about a month. I slept with one guy one time and as soon as I did I knew it was a mistake..... When me and my bf got back together I told him the truth about it and the part about regretting it. Well the first few times when we were messing around he tried but gave up before I got off, even though I was close, which didn't bother me. Until now it's been over a year since he made any effort whatsoever to get me off. He barely touches me in any way to please me sexually though his appetite is still strong he wants blow jobs a lot and penetration. I have talked til I'm blue in the face telling him it's not cool that he's not willing to make an attempt to get me off too but expect me to. I have tried dressing up, I have tried doing it all really good to show him he's wanted, I have tried doing it all really bad and told him when I get some attention it will get better for him....... And I have definitely talked, communicated, cried pouted everything. He always tells me it's going to change it will get better that it just really fucked him up that I slept with someone else. Finally I'm like seriously imagine if I didn't do anything to please you sexually for over a year..... Really imagine...... He knows how to get me off he just really never ever tries and it hurts, it really does. When we do talk he blames me, I try to say it's not fair to punish me for over a year when we were broken up in the first place and if he wasn't going to forgive me he should say so. But he says he's not punishing me I'm messed up for thinking that he says if anything it's punishing him because he doesn't get it like he wants and I don't know it pisses me off when he says that because he gets it any time he asks or brings it up. I may not be in the most giving mood but I do it. Now it's been like a year and a half and I'm not even sure I would know how to act if he did try to get me off. He shows me he loves me outside of the bedroom in plenty of ways and I don't doubt his feelings for me really but how long am I supposed to go pleasing myself, Everytime I ask him that he just promises it will be different....