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How long can you go without sex? (With a partner)

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Contributor: snowminx snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you could wait for sex?

If you don't see the exact answer, find the biggest answer and then also select the smaller answer that will add up close to the amount you're looking for.

No judgments on this, just a curious thing =)
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
One day
Beautiful-Disaster
1
A few days
Gunsmoke , XxFallenAngelxX , P'Gell , AmethystQueen
4
Full week
Boyfriend , ChubbyNerd , married with children , XxFallenAngelxX , Sbmsvschoolgirl
5
Couple weeks
rihanne , hillys , MissCandyland , Silverwinds , solitudinarian , DeliciousDrip
6
Full month
Noelle , Sylvan , Stinkytofu10
3
A few months
sillylilkitten , BlooJay , snowminx , SecretKinksters , Isola , earthmama , EastCoast36
7
Half a year
lainebug
1
A year +
Incendiaire , nikki0668 , souviet , LexiKitten , edeneve , mcahill
6
Other?!
PropertyOfPotter , Sassy Pam , Deeder , Cosmonaut , Breas , FLIPxMODE , LoganAshlee. , TJtheMadHatter , mcahill , Hazeleyes2012 , spiced , ~BabyCakes~ , novanilla , earthmama , Lioncub , PeaceToTheMiddleEast
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Total votes: 49 (46 voters)
Poll is closed
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Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
My partner and I are long distance, and we don't see each other for months at a time, so I can wait several months when we're apart, but when we're together I can hardly go 2 days without bugging him about sex.
03/06/2013
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
It's not ideal, but months.
03/06/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
If they couldn't due to medical reasons, I would stay even though it would be a challenge. As long as the person is still willing to engage in some type of intimate activity with me, it would be fine. If it was for another reason, I would have to start looking deeper into the reason for it and see if the rest of the relationship is okay. I would give it a few months, but probably not longer than that...but again, it would depend.
03/06/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
Quote:
Originally posted by sillylilkitten
My partner and I are long distance, and we don't see each other for months at a time, so I can wait several months when we're apart, but when we're together I can hardly go 2 days without bugging him about sex.
Woot! I admire your ability to not stray in that kind of situation. I sure don't think I could keep up with a long distance relationship for a very long time.
03/06/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
We did long distance, and we did a few months without sex...now that we are together a week is too long.
03/06/2013
Contributor: rihanne rihanne
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you ... more
a bit.
03/06/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I agree with PropertyOfPotter, if it's due to medical reasons I would stay without straying. Of course I would hope they'd be willing to engage in other intimate actions. Whether it be other sexual activities other than penetration, or simply snuggling.

I feel all types of touch in a relationship are even more important than the actual act of sex. I love to be kissed, touched, stroked, and snuggled.
03/06/2013
Contributor: Sassy Pam Sassy Pam
Quote:
Originally posted by ShadowedSeductress
I agree with PropertyOfPotter, if it's due to medical reasons I would stay without straying. Of course I would hope they'd be willing to engage in other intimate actions. Whether it be other sexual activities other than penetration, or simply ... more
The same here.
03/06/2013
Contributor: Deeder Deeder
Indefinitely. I'm not in a relationship because I love the sex; I'm in a relationship because I love the person.
03/06/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you ... more
a very, very, very long time.
03/06/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I could probably go for a week before I started to feel horny.
03/06/2013
Contributor: LexiKitten LexiKitten
I've gone a year and some before!
03/06/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
A few days - 1 week max.
03/07/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I could turn celibate and be fine.
03/07/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I could turn celibate and be fine.
03/07/2013
Contributor: Sylvan Sylvan
I freak out if I have to go more than a day without sex, BUT if I had to I could go about a month. I've been in a long distance relationship before and have spent a month away 3 different times with my current guy so I know it can be done...but I can't stand it!
03/07/2013
Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
He goes away for a couple of weeks a few times a year and I've managed fine. I do get angsty if it has been more than a week. But otherwise, sometimes we can't have sex for while because I have thrush or some other reason.
03/09/2013
Contributor: FLIPxMODE FLIPxMODE
It's hard ... I guess one day. But usually we have sex everyday.. even multiple times a day.
03/09/2013
Contributor: LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
I'd say other - it varies. I don't think there's a set time. Sometimes I can't go more than a day and then other times I can go months.
03/11/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
Probably just a day.
03/11/2013
Contributor: Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I don't think I've gone much longer than a couple of weeks so I don't know how long I could last if I had to.
03/11/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
My husband is tired a lot and we often have sex only once a week. When we start the second week of a dry spell, I start to get antsy and aggressive. The longest I've ever gone without sex in general is 4 months. I hope I never go through that again. lol If there was a medical issue, we'd work through it. It would just mean extra affection, and toy play. All I know is thank GOD for dildos, vibrators, butt plugs and suction cup bases. lol
03/11/2013
Contributor: lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you ... more
not by choice but we have been in this situation. we are about once a weekers
03/11/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
I've been celibate for several years until recently.
03/11/2013
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you ... more
Full month
03/11/2013
Contributor: mcahill mcahill
Quote:
Originally posted by snowminx
Say you had a partner that you're not married to or have any children with but you love them. If for some reason they refused to have sex or had something medical come up where they can't have sex with you anymore. How long do you think you ... more
I know sex is an important part of a relationship but if something medical came up I couldn't turn my back on someone I loved but I would have to love them because sex is a big part of a healthy relationship.
03/11/2013
Contributor: Hazeleyes2012 Hazeleyes2012
As long as it takes.....
03/11/2013
Contributor: mcahill mcahill
Quote:
Originally posted by mcahill
I know sex is an important part of a relationship but if something medical came up I couldn't turn my back on someone I loved but I would have to love them because sex is a big part of a healthy relationship.
Also if they just lost interest I would feel they were being selfish and would seriously consider ending the relationship. Not to mention if they weren't interested in me sexually I would be insulted and hurt then defiantly end the relationship.
03/11/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
If something happened medically to my wife, so that she couldn't have sex anymore, I'd wait the rest of our lives, if necessary. That would have been true with her a LONG time before we got married. I would probably buy one of every Fleshlight model and a LOT more porn! As long as there's love and I can fly solo for sex.

If she refused to have sex with me, I'd work hard to find out why (probably something I did, which I didn't think was a big deal!) and then I'd work hard to fix it; if it was unfixable, I'd wait a very long time (months? years?) before I gave up.
03/11/2013