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Contributor: Otherdescription Otherdescription
Hello to you all,
I have recently started exploring and experimenting sexually and have always wanted to be apart of a mfm threesome and interested in the swing lifestyle but haven’t had any luck being picked to join. I read a comment you both are in the lifestyle and thought maybe you had some advice for a single guy?
08/03/2022
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Contributor: Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
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Originally posted by Otherdescription
Hello to you all,
I have recently started exploring and experimenting sexually and have always wanted to be apart of a mfm threesome and interested in the swing lifestyle but haven’t had any luck being picked to join. I read a comment you both ... more
Maybe rename your post something like: Advice for New Single Guy Swingers.

First off listen to the Stag Stable podcast. Dr. Dave is a pro single swinger for decades and was written about in GQ magazine. I think he has the best lifestyle podcast around. I’m not single and I still enjoy the insights.

The metric: There is a thousand interested single guys per couple in this equation. So why you?? The couple can and mostly will be very selective. Right out of the gates, a couple is looking for similar things that a single woman is looking for (with the exception of penis size sometimes lol).
Groomed, fit, charming, generous gentlemen that have good communication skills. When you meet them, wear nice clothes and buy them both a drink.

The guy is your ally. He wants this to happen- sometimes more enthusiastically than she does. Don’t get in a macho match, or think he wants do be disrespected or degraded. He wants to be your friend and wants you to F his wife. Internalize this. Degrading cuckold stuff is mostly a porn fantasy- and if they want this they will ask- don’t assume it.

Work on a profile on fetlife, check posts or make posts on doublelist, etc. Its free- take a look.

Lifestylers are getting into Twitter. Also free and worth checking out.

You are way better off paying for a lifetime membership on Kasidie or SDC or SLS swinger sites. Couples are way more active on there- and they have paid this membership to keep out the riff raff of people who are not committed enough to the lifestyle to for over between $100-$250. People can review you there, and you can gain a reputation as a good, respectful lay.

Show respect always. You will not be everyone’s type- just as everyone is not your type. You will have to reach out many times. Couples get bombarded by single guys. Be patient. Be polite.
08/04/2022
Contributor: Otherdescription Otherdescription
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Originally posted by Robin Goodfellow
Maybe rename your post something like: Advice for New Single Guy Swingers.

First off listen to the Stag Stable podcast. Dr. Dave is a pro single swinger for decades and was written about in GQ magazine. I think he has the best lifestyle ... more
Thank you for your input and advice, this is some great info and I am going to start looking into the paid sites. I am enrolled on fetlife but haven’t really took the time and explored the site so that’s something I am definitely going to check it out. How do you find lifestylers on twitter ?
08/06/2022
Contributor: Robin Goodfellow Robin Goodfellow
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Originally posted by Otherdescription
Thank you for your input and advice, this is some great info and I am going to start looking into the paid sites. I am enrolled on fetlife but haven’t really took the time and explored the site so that’s something I am definitely going to check it ... more
Twitter lifestylers is new thing. Much of it is tied in as a form of marketing for peoples manyvids and porn sales, or promotion of websites. Stag Stable podcast always mentions his hotwife guests Twitter handles, and he himself has Twitter and talks about how hotwife couples he would meet insisted he get on Twitter. So follow these people and see who they follow, etc. Follow lifestyle clubs and business, websites etc.

Couples can be found on OkCupid, Feeld, and Tinder as well
08/08/2022