Never had a orgasm.:/

Contributor: NicNat NicNat
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I've been with my husband since I was only in 6th grade, and we started having sex when we I was in 9th grade, and weve been together for 8 years now, and everytime we have sex I never am able to have an orgasm. There has been multiple time when i fill like im just about to burst but ether it starts to hurt, or nothing happens. I'm getting so tired of this happening, and my husband thinks its his dick that is causing it which I think is BS. Has this happened to anyone else? Does anyone know what I can do to fully each a orgasm? Please help.
10/14/2011
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Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
Can you have an orgasm by yourself?

My best friend's mom didn't have an orgasm until her kids were in college and she bought a vibrator.

Also, many women never orgasm from penetration. In fact, I think over half of women can't climax that way. Don't feel bad if you're one of them.
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I don't orgasm from penetration, ever. I also never orgasmed, period (except while sleeping, really!), until I learned to masturbate. Tell him not to take offense. If you really want to experience an orgasm, perhaps you need to take your sexuality into your own hands?
10/14/2011
Contributor: NicNat NicNat
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Originally posted by Tuesday
Can you have an orgasm by yourself?

My best friend's mom didn't have an orgasm until her kids were in college and she bought a vibrator.

Also, many women never orgasm from penetration. In fact, I think over half of women ... more
No, I can'thave one by myself. I can't even realy enjoy my self when i use my fingers on my self, unless I know I'm about to have sex right after, kinda werid huh? and I'm new to toys, so I haven't really tried there.
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Contributor: Teaser Teaser
I have had two GFs in the past that did not orgasm during sex. One seemed like she was just teasing me, but she did say that she had and apparently used a vibrator, so I assume that she had and could orgasm. I am not sure what her game really was.

The second may have been pre-orgsmic, which is what it sounds like you may be. She seemed afraid of "loosing control" or something, even though she seemed to enjoy the stimulation during foreplay. I do not know if she had ever had an orgasm at all or not, she was reluctant to really talk about it. I know that she had a "bad experience", we'll just leave it at that, when she was younger, so that may have been part of her situation.

I do not know how to advise you, I am not a Dr., but I do believe that there is help for you out there. I would suggest first doing some research, and maybe talking to your OB/GYN.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do NOT blame yourself or your husband. This is not a fault of anyone's, but rather a learning experience. Just like riding a bike. I am sure that you were not an expert the first time you climbed on one. Bike, that is! And this lesson can have some delicious homework and some fabulous results! You will get there! You'll see!
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Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
I have heard that sometimes using a small vibe clitorally between you during sex is the way to go! I've never personally tried it, but I have heard that sometimes women need it to push them over the edge
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Contributor: Beck Beck
A clitoral vibe (bullet, pocket rocket, eggs, etc) during intercourse will most likely help you out. Have fun trying out new toys and exploring new things.
10/14/2011