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Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to further thoughts and discussion.

Thanks for your help and have an awesome week!!!

Select all that apply and I am sorry if I missed anything!! CreamySweet
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am a married Female
49
I am a married Male
20
I am an Un-Married Female but in a committed relationship
57
I am an Un-Married Male but in a committed relationship
9
I am a Single Female
19
I am a Single Male
7
I am in a sexually open marriage or relationship that allows me to be sexually active with others.
15
As a Married Female I have cheated sexually on my spouse (Current or Past)
15
As a Married Male I have cheated sexually on my spouse (Current or past)
5
As a Female in a committed relationship I have cheated sexually.
12
As a Male in a commited relationship I have cheated sexually.
1
I am a Male or Female, married or in a commited relationship and I Have Never Cheated
94
The person I cheated with was married
11
The person I cheated with was in a committed relationship also
10
The person I cheated with was a co-worker (Inc. Peer, Sub. Or Sup)
10
The person i cheated with was not a co-worker but was someone I met through my job.
4
The person I cheated with was someone I met through social activities such as softball or at the gym.
5
The person I cheated with was an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-spouse
8
The person I cheated with was the result of new or re-kindled contact through facebook or similar social media.
6
The person I cheated with was a random one night stand type hook-up from a bar, club, Etc. That I met on a night out.
12
I had or I am having an ongoing affair with this person that lasted greater than 3 months.
15
The first place my affair and I had sex was in a vehicle
7
The first place my affair and I had sex was in a hotel room
3
I have had sex with them in their home
21
They have had sex with me in my home
17
We were caught by their spouse or significant other
We were caught by my spouse or significant other
3
I confessed my actions after the fact to my spouse or significant other
10
I first cheated because I was bored sexually at home
18
I first cheated because I was attracted to them physically or emotionally
19
I did things with them sexually that I dont or infrequently do with my spouse or significant other
13
I had unprotected sex with them frequently durring the affair
15
Now that I have cheated I think I am more likely to do so again
6
My spouse / significant other does not know and I do not plan to ever tell
13
I have been cheated on in past relationships - or in my current one.
33
I have confessed my affair to a close friend or co-worker
10
As a single Male I have slept with a married Female
2
As a single Female I have slept with a married Male
11
My affair was with someone of the same sex as myself.
5
My affair was never started to find a replacement for my current spouse/ Sig Oth. Only to have fun
23
Total votes: 613 (168 voters)
Poll is closed
09/27/2011
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Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'm married and have never cheated on anyone I've been with. If I'm unhappy in a relationship I just dump the person. If I couldn't stand my husband anymore I would divorce him rather than cheat on him.
09/27/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Same here. If I wanted to be with someone else I would just end the current relationship and move on. I have no plans to ever do that though.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I'm married and haven't ever cheated.
09/27/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I'm married and am in an open relationship.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Elaira Elaira
Other/Other/Other?

-I'm an un-married female in a weird "sort of open but not open really at the moment even though it's something we're working towards, but we're still committed with freedom right now" relationship. (I think that's Facebook's definition of 'It's Complicated'.)

-I did cheat on my last serious boyfriend, but it was when our relationship was nothing but a title towards the end.

-It was with a co-worker.

-He had a serious girlfriend.

-There was only one time of drunken sexual activity, but lots of flirting and sneaking around on our lunch breaks at 2-3am.

-I told my boyfriend at the time about it. He also told his girlfriend.

-He's still with her even though the past boyfriend and I broke up (but still live together as awesome friends/roommates).

-I really don't think it's something I would like to go through again.

-I have been cheated on in the past, but this was my first and only serious time doing it.

-As a single female, I have slept with men in relationships.

Ok, enough with my novel.
09/27/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Elaira
Other/Other/Other?

-I'm an un-married female in a weird "sort of open but not open really at the moment even though it's something we're working towards, but we're still committed with freedom right now" relationship. ... more
Hey that is way awesome though and thank you so much for sharing this. I agree "Its complicated" probably really fits lol. I think when this poll is over it will show that it is a very common thing and that the how, where and when can be almost predictable. Though I do know we will have a lot of folks who never have, it will be closer to 50-50 then a lot of folks might think.I like you have been cheated on in past relationships. Like you I have slept with guys ( and a couple gals) who were in committed relationships - and even a couple married ones though they passed along that little tid-bit after the fact. My curent, first and I plan very much to be my one and only husband, share a sexually open marriage - meaning I can have sex with others provided we talk about the who and what before hand and that we both agree. He has the same option and a no vote from either ends the discussion without arguement, begging or pleading. At the start if our dating relationship I did screw up by fucking another guy who I had been dating ( and still sort of was but ge was out of the country at the time I started dating my now husband and had said we could date other people). The other guy knew about my guy I married but my future husband didnt know about the other guy. When the other guy came home from being tdy I met him at the airport and fucked him that night. When I saw the one I married the next morning by accident on my way home I still smelled like sex, had just been fucked hair and was wearing the other guys shorts and tshirt as my little black dress I had been wearing no longer was... He knew right off what I had been doing so I didnt try to hide it. The first big mistake was not making sure that both guys knew I wasnt in a committed relationship and knew about each other. The second was assuming that the one I married just thought we were dating - which in his mind we were not and we were in a committed relationship. Because of this I hurt him very badly and for that I was very sorry. I know most will consider what I am still doing as cheating - but it is with full advanced knowledge, mutual approval and open discussion before and after between both if us. It is made clear without question that I am married to everyone I play with and that my husband knows... and also that its just sex and I have no intention of leaving my husband for them or anyone else. Thats my story... thanks for listening all.
09/27/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Mine's simple. I'm a female in a 5 year, commited relationship, never cheated and never would. We are faithful.

I have been cheated on in the past by ex's and I don't plan to ever hurt anyone like that. I do not want that kind of devastation, pain and damage on my hands. IMO it's as simple as making a phone call before you sleep with someone else and say, look it's over I'm interested in another person. I see it being painful, but a lot less than if you cheated.
09/27/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
When I was married, I never cheated at all.

During my single life, I have cheated on boyfriends that thought I cared more than I did. Not very nice of me. I used to be very wild and promiscuous.

I have settled down considerably and I'm glad; the road I was on could have only ended in disaster.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I'm married, and we've never cheated on each other.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm single at the moment and have never cheated. I have no intentions of ever cheating - it's just not in my character to do so.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Waterfall Waterfall
Interesting poll! I have always been curious about this topic.
09/27/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I am an Un-Married Female but in a committed relationship

I am in a sexually open marriage or relationship that allows me to be sexually active with others.

technically the term "cheat" doesn't apply.
09/27/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by Sex'и'Violence
I am an Un-Married Female but in a committed relationship

I am in a sexually open marriage or relationship that allows me to be sexually active with others.

technically the term "cheat" doesn't apply.
Thats our take too! ( My husband and I - same deal)
09/27/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I have never cheated on my man and never will. I've never even cheated on anyone in the past when they actually deserved it (cheating on me multiple times, mental and physical abuse, neglect) but the way I see it is if your relationship isn't working, leave it. No point in lowering myself to their standards by doing what they do or worse than they do. To each his own, but cheating messes good people up. If they're too crappy of a person to be messed up and will just say "oh well not like I care" if you did cheat, then they weren't worth sticking around with anyway and I wouldn't want to be with them and would tell them it's over long before a situation came up where I even could cheat. I just don't believe in it. But some people are all for it, I just hate seeing the aftermath (such as the emotional damage done to me because of it, and to my current guy!)
09/28/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Thats our take too! ( My husband and I - same deal)
09/28/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I have never cheated in a relationship. I have been cheated on, but never done the cheating myself.

The closest I've come to it (and beat myself up for years about) was I told my committed boyfriend of three and half years that I wanted us to take a break so I could think some things through, and then kissed a male friend a few days later. I felt horrendously guilty because H and I weren't "broken up" but "on a break", so I called and confessed to it. I ended up breaking up with H and dating my friend (who turned out to be a total loser), and recently asked H if he had counted that as cheating. He said the thought never crossed his mind.
09/28/2011
Contributor: Diabolical Kitty Diabolical Kitty
I've had some interesting points on this but i'll keep them to myself.
09/28/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
Have never cheated
09/28/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
Hope you all have a wonderful awesome and naughty day!!! XOX CS
09/29/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
where is the option for have never cheated? did I miss it?
09/30/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
I'm in a committed relationship. I have never cheated on him, and he has never cheated on me. :]
09/30/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by married with children
where is the option for have never cheated? did I miss it?
Yes sorry. That option is married/committed and never have... Its there but I admit not easy to see. Sorry
09/30/2011
Contributor: robertk2380 robertk2380
Married a long time and neither of us has cheated on the other.
10/05/2011
Contributor: Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama Hot 'N Sexy TexasMama
Married 32 years and never really thought about cheating - nor has he.

Visiting this site and reading about open marriages has really "opened" my eyes to the way so many others live...pun intended.

I can't picture myself in an open relationship and I would not want my husband with another lover.

There have been times when we were younger that we might feel an attraction to someone else - but we would tell each other and pray together about it and then find a way around it - for instance I might hang around a girlfriend alone rather than him being there because he was struggling a bit at the time (and vice versa).

Only happened a couple of times though and we realized that we had too much going on in our marriage to really be tempted by anyone else.
10/06/2011
Contributor: UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
A few weeks after hubby and I started dating way back in college I blew my most recent ex-boyfriend. There was no lingering emotions at that point, though. He just had the most gorgeous cock and I wanted to service it one last time. The funny thing is, at the time, hubby knew we had hooked up. He brought it up in conversation a few years later. He didn't care at all that it had happened. I told him I'd give him a get out of jail free card since he was such a good sport. Not that he really needs it since we have a kind of open door policy in our marriage.
10/06/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
Hurts to cheat or to be cheated on
10/06/2011
Contributor: Jobo Jobo
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
you guys should follow me! im pretty dope!
10/06/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by CreamySweet
Hello everyone, Sorry for how long I made this poll. I tried to think about all the common questions I have seen in other polls and reports and put them together in one place. Please leave additional comments and questions if your comfortable to ... more
We have an open relationship while ic an playa nd he can playw e do it together
10/06/2011
Contributor: socceras socceras
never ever ever
10/06/2011