Regrets

Regrets

merc41 merc41
I hope this hasn't been asked before but I thiught it might be an interesting discussion. I will have three regrets related to sex in my life.

1. I would like to have sex with a trans women. Top and bottom everything included. Sadly I am married and choose not to attempt.

2. I would like to have a bi-sex threesome MMF and MFF. In the MMF it would be the full monte with the focus on me. In the MFF I would love to try and satisfy two women. One sitting on my face while the other rides cow girl. Both girls would be face to face and they could kiss,fondle,caress each other while I'm in heaven.Understandably my wife isn't on board with that.

3. I would like to spend a significant amount of time with a woman who matches or exceeds my sex drive and kinks. Days,weeks or months. I really want to say enough I'm done. I don't think that will ever happen.

Don't get me wrong I love my wife. And most people would consider that we have a great sex life. We do! But there are somethings she just won't consider. 2 and 3 are totally out of the question!Among others.Most not as kinky.What goes on in the bedroom between two or more adults is their business. So I have regrets. Does anyone else have regrets that they know will go unfullfilled for any reason? Health,significant other, situations it doesn't matter
10/03/2017
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Like you there has always been a fairly big disconnect between my desires/fantasies and my real sex life. But with years of patient prodding and my wife's willingness to indulge me, over time - we're talking 28 years now - I've been lucky. Toys, face sitting, rimming (for her), anal sex, pegging, DP (with toys), D/s, squirting - have all come to pass, albeit recently.

The big difference is that although I have entertained thoughts about multiple partners - intuitively I just know it's not right for her - or for me. As exciting as those fantasies are for me, the personal and health complications are just not worth the effort. I'm happy to leave those as unfulfilled fantasies.

Your not there - you want to live out these fantasies. Although I am well aware that there are many people who are active in these multi-partner relationships, IMO the risks are too great.

At some point you have to ask if you are willing to sacrifice everything you have for a few things you don't.

I can't answer that question for you, if you asked me my opinion - I'd say don't go there.

Best of luck to you - which ever way you decide to go.
10/03/2017
merc41 merc41
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Like you there has always been a fairly big disconnect between my desires/fantasies and my real sex life. But with years of patient prodding and my wife's willingness to indulge me, over time - we're talking 28 years now - I've been ...
I agree not worth the risk and I did take a vow. I just thought it might provide an interesting discussion for men and women. They are fantasies and regrets.
10/04/2017
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by merc41
I agree not worth the risk and I did take a vow. I just thought it might provide an interesting discussion for men and women. They are fantasies and regrets.
Just my 2 bits. I think it's good you got this off your chest. Wanting what you can't have is human nature. And also unhealthy. Regrets are negative thoughts. Counter productive to a happy life.

Best to understand and realize you can not have it and move on. Perhaps occupy your mind and day's with something else be it doing something outdoors, reading ( not erotica) , sports etc.
What's the use in hurting your own mind. Just accept it was not meant to be.

Any time " could have, would have, should have " thoughts come to mind STOP !

And if you are viewing mmf and mff porn , Stop immediately.

Again, just my 2 bits. Life's too short, best not to have regrets. Will get you nowhere.
Look at what you have, not what you don't have.

Have a good day .
10/04/2017
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by merc41
I hope this hasn't been asked before but I thiught it might be an interesting discussion. I will have three regrets related to sex in my life.

1. I would like to have sex with a trans women. Top and bottom everything included. Sadly I am ...
Everybody has regrets in life, if you are candid.
I recently had prostate surgery and now cannot ejaculate like before, so my fantasies that involved ejaculating just will not ever be fulfilled. But there are bigger things to consider.

I regret wasting too much time in a failed relationship, not being close to my baby brother before he died of AIDS, not taking advantage of educational opportunities along the way. Not spending more time with my father while we grew up. The list goes on

Spending time ruminating over past regrets only serves to rob us of the enjoyment of the here and now. Use your energy to focus on the very special things that comprise your world. Take pleasure in the simple things, the sound of birds, the smell of fresh baked bread. Beautiful sunrises and sunsets, the way raindrops collect on spiderwebs and shimmer in the early light.
We have so much to be greatful for, enjoy the journey. As far as I know, we only get one trip through this life.
12/05/2017
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Gr8pumpkin
Everybody has regrets in life, if you are candid.
I recently had prostate surgery and now cannot ejaculate like before, so my fantasies that involved ejaculating just will not ever be fulfilled. But there are bigger things to consider.

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I pretty much agree - forward looking is best. I can say however, the spending a little reflective time on regrets - like not being as kind to my mother as I should have been - or calling my father enough in his later years - do serve a purpose.

The reflections help inform me to contact loved ones more and to be kind whenever possible. They maybe a bit of a cliché, but the real-life experience sharpens your focus and helps you redouble your efforts.
12/05/2017
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