As I've probably mentioned in a few threads before, my guy has a few pretty distinct quirks when it comes to sex. One such quirk is that I can't for the life of me get him to ask or suggest anything for himself. When I show him the restraints I've been considering buying, he clearly gets excited and openly approves of the idea of tying me up. Finds it very sexy. But when I ask him, "What sort of thing would you like to try?" or "Do you have any fantasies you want to explore?" BAM, deer in the head lights. "I don't know" and "I don't think I have any?"

I can't tell if when he seems excited over certain ideas he's just trying to appease me, or if he's just uncomfortable about asking outright for something? Or unsure whether I'd be into it?

I'm almost positive he "has it in him" somewhere. Not due to an assumption that all people must be at least a little bit kinky--He just really seems like he has it in him somewhere lol. It's just there's like some disconnect? Idk.

How should I approach this? Should I keep trying to get him to come to me and/or talk about it, or should I just keep suggesting we try various things and attempt to suss out what he responds to best on my own? less