The New Intimacy
  • Free Shipping With Orders $55+
  • EXTRA 10% OFF ANY ORDER — USE: SUMMER10
  • SUMMER SALE : SAVE UP TO 85%

Sex importance

Skip to last post
Set alerts
Updates
Forum search
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
What would you do if your long time girlfriend/boyfriend suddenly decided to cut the sex off after 1-3 years of intercourse?

Would you leave him/her?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes
7  (20%)
No
12  (34%)
Other
16  (46%)
Total votes: 35
Poll is closed
02/17/2012
  • Fruit Basket of Fun
  • Long-distance pleasure set for couples
  • Anal Sub Hook&Rope Kit for $19.99 Only
  • Complete strap-on set for extra 15% off
  • Save Extra 30% On The Bigger the Better Kit
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
I wouldn't leave them, but there's be some discussions to talk through to see how best to make things work.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
What would you do if your long time girlfriend/boyfriend suddenly decided to cut the sex off after 1-3 years of intercourse?

Would you leave him/her?
I don't know, would depend on the reasons for the change.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
It would depend on the reason why? Are there medical issues? I would certainly explore many possible options/solutions before I would be willing to call it quits! If it was because my partner was no longer committed to me, and wasn't willing to work on the relationship anymore then yes, I probably would leave. But short of that I would try to work it out!
02/17/2012
Contributor: Tagmstr Tagmstr
I wouldn't just walk away from her. I would try to understand why shes feeling the way she is.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Ms. N Ms. N
Negotiate for the right to get some on the side. A girl's got needs
02/17/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
I can survive without it. -shrug- I'm demi, so I'm 50/50 sex/asex. Masturbation would please me just fine. However, if it's because of a relationship issue (like she was seeing someone else...) there'd be problems.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Tangerine Tangerine
I wouldnt want any if the sex was boring. I would probably just break up if the sex just stopped,becuase I feel that sex is an important connection to have with your partner.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Silverdrop Silverdrop
If they stopped having sex and weren't trying to fix the problem or talk about it? Yes, I'd end it.
02/18/2012
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
If this happened to me I would be extremely worried as to why he wanted to do that. My boyfriend and I have a great sexual relationship and to stop without reason would just end it.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Raym Raym
Quote:
Originally posted by Silverdrop
If they stopped having sex and weren't trying to fix the problem or talk about it? Yes, I'd end it.
Absolutely agree with this.
02/18/2012
Contributor: jokerzwild jokerzwild
I would try to work it out and find out the problem but ultimately if we couldn't work it out yes
02/18/2012
Contributor: Breas Breas
No I would not leave him. We'd have to talk about why he did though.
02/18/2012
Contributor: teachmetouchme teachmetouchme
This actually happened to me several years ago and it turned out that the guy was seeing someone else but didn't want to tell me so he'd have a "back up plan". I don't think so!!
02/18/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
Would depend on the reason.
02/18/2012
Contributor: FunFantasys FunFantasys
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
What would you do if your long time girlfriend/boyfriend suddenly decided to cut the sex off after 1-3 years of intercourse?

Would you leave him/her?
Not if I love my partner
01/11/2013
Contributor: anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
i think sex is important, so to me it wouldn't be about whether to leave or not, it would be about finding out why and wat to do about it. if they won't talk about it then the lack of communication would actually be more of an issue for me then the change in sex life.
01/11/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I am a sexual person and I need to be in a sexual relationship. If that's not what they want, no matter how much I love them, I just can't be happy so I would have to leave. That might make me sound like a shitty person but I'm not going to be unhappy. I suppose if there was a particular reason then I would consider not leaving but I can't imagine a good one that wouldn't just end in us not being compatible (such as them being asexual).
01/11/2013
Contributor: melliegirl melliegirl
figure out what is going on to make him quit having sex with you. then decide if its worth it for u to not have sex or if its better to find someone new
06/15/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Ilovelingerie
What would you do if your long time girlfriend/boyfriend suddenly decided to cut the sex off after 1-3 years of intercourse?

Would you leave him/her?
First, I'd be concerned. However, if there was no logical explanation, I'd probably leave.
06/16/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
It really depends on the reason. In most cases, yes.
06/16/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
Other- I need to know why first. You specifically mentioned intercourse, so I'm going to assume other intimacies are still on the table. Is intercourse causing him pain or discomfort? Is there a larger physical or mental health issue trickling down? Does my body feel different? Is it no longer pleasurable? Has one or both of us had intercourse with someone else? Are we drifting apart emotionally?
There are so many reasons I can't say I'd simply walk away. I can say that vaginal intercourse with my partner is very dear to me, and we often initiate it in emotional moments to be closer to each other. I wouldn't give it up lightly, and neither would he. Would we be together without intercourse? Quite possibly, we waited 9 months before we first had it. Would we be as emotionally and physically sated? I'm not sure.
06/16/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Quote:
Originally posted by Gracie
It would depend on the reason why? Are there medical issues? I would certainly explore many possible options/solutions before I would be willing to call it quits! If it was because my partner was no longer committed to me, and wasn't willing ... more
True, there may be a reason that needs to be talked about. Find out the reason, then decide if you can work around it.
06/17/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
It would really depend as to why. I would sit down and try to have an honest conversation first before deciding what I should do. I myself went through a period a few years back where my sex drive became zero because of stress at work. My boyfriend and I talked openly with bot of us fully listening to what the other had to say and just kept that communication open, we brainstormed on ways to help bring the stress down and just focused instead on the emotional part of the relationship instead of the physical part.

So I would say find out first what is up and then both of you explore your options.
06/17/2013