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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Do you have any? Have you let any hang-ups go? What did you do to let these things go and do you have any advice for others who may be going through something similar?

For instance, maybe you thought anal penetration on a straight male made him gay or that bisexuals would be more prone to cheating than hetero people...those kinds of things.
08/23/2011
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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Blow jobs and anal were always my big two. Truth be told I was never very fond of putting something you peed out of in my mouth, but I also never asked for oral either so there wasn't any "what the hell, I do it you should" moments. Well, I did have an ex who expected me to give him blowjobs and I told him that unless he was going to reciprocate the favor, I wasn't gonna do it. He wasn't very amused lol. Even now I have to be in the right mood to give them, although I do enjoy it a lot more with my husband than I did with anybody else. I do find that sometimes a drink or two helps. Not that I feel I have to be drinking to give my husband a BJ, but it helps to knock down the mental barrier between "yes I do legitimately want to" and "um, you pee out of that" lol.

Anal we still don't do tons, although we do it often enough. For both of us we didn't have partners we trusted enough to play around with any of that until we got back together. Now it's more about time and time management than anything else. Anal play takes time and patience, we just don't often have the time to devote to making sure it gets done right and we'd rather wait til we have that time than rush things and have one of us end up hating it.
08/23/2011
Contributor: Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
No hang ups. Thank goodness!
08/23/2011
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Blow jobs and anal were always my big two. Truth be told I was never very fond of putting something you peed out of in my mouth, but I also never asked for oral either so there wasn't any "what the hell, I do it you should" moments. ... more
Lol...I feel like I have read this post before, I'm having a major deja vue feeling!!!!

I have never had any hang ups, I am so open-minded and I was brought up in a very "sexualized" home. I think sexuality is a big part of me, of course there are things I do not agree with but I am open minded enough to let ppl do as they wish, it's a free world and no one should be ashamed of what turns them on. Run-on sentence...lol.

Actually, I might have a hang up, but not a stereotypical type of hang up, more of a personal hang up. I'm very focused on my vaginal hygiene, I try very hard to make my pussy attractive and clean, sometimes a little too much, which in turn hinders the possibility of getting oral. I am so obsessed with my hygiene that sometimes I turn down oral and PIV sex bcs I am afraid I stink/ am not clean/too stubbly.

I am trying to improve on this, mostly bcs my guy has sort of expected perfection from me through my obsession. He wont give me oral unless x reason and I can only blame myself as I am responsible for his expectations bcs I have always done things a certain way for him and I am the only girl he has ever been with, so what else should he expect!

Anywho rambling is over!
08/23/2011
Contributor: jg19 jg19
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Originally posted by Ansley
Do you have any? Have you let any hang-ups go? What did you do to let these things go and do you have any advice for others who may be going through something similar?

For instance, maybe you thought anal penetration on a straight male made ... more
ive let go alot of hang ups about anal. Not sure if we will get into pegging or anything but we finger and use toys anally. She has even stimulated my prostate which is awesome.
08/23/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
no hang ups that I can think of.
08/24/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
Blow jobs and anal were always my big two. Truth be told I was never very fond of putting something you peed out of in my mouth, but I also never asked for oral either so there wasn't any "what the hell, I do it you should" moments. ... more
Yeah, I'm still hung up over the anal stuff. I want to like it, I really really do. I feel like I'm missing out on *the best thing ever*. But, I gotta tell you that first experience in the bathroom afterwards reminds me that it's just not worth it.
08/24/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I totally love anal sex, both to get it and give it with a strap-on. But I have to "feel" like it, no amount of foreplay will just make me ready to receive anal something my partner doesn't always understand.
When he wants his butt fucked by me, he is ready and chooses a harness and dil for me to use.
08/24/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I think most people, myself included could use some loosening up. At the moment, I can't think of anything that is disrupting our sex life. Both my husband and I are pretty game to try just about anything, (OK, scat play is out) so we kind of flow with whatever we feel would be interesting.

I think once you break down a few Kink Barriers, it gets easier to not get upset about things in the future.

There are certainly a few things we don't enjoy doing. My Man doesn't want to be pegged, and I don't want to peg him. But, neither of us have hangups about it, other people have a good time with it. Pegging just doesn't flow with our sexual and relationship dynamic. It's more our dynamic than a hang up.

To me a "hang up" is something that makes you go "EW!" and you can't get over it.

OTOH, even very sexually free people are free not to personally partake in a certain sex act as long as they think it's OK for others to partake in if they enjoy it.
08/24/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Ansley
Yeah, I'm still hung up over the anal stuff. I want to like it, I really really do. I feel like I'm missing out on *the best thing ever*. But, I gotta tell you that first experience in the bathroom afterwards reminds me that it's just not worth it.
I really only end up in the bathroom afterwards if my husband finishes inside of me without a condom. Then I was in there for like, 20 minutes waiting for everything to decide it was done coming out for the most part lol.
08/24/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Yes, and no.

Until my current boyfriend, I've really been hesitant about blow jobs. I never liked giving them, I didn't like the taste of the skin in my mouth, didn't like it if they came in my mouth, and the thought of something that urine comes out of made me want to gag!

With my current, I don't mind so much, it isn't always something I am like "yes I really wanna do this!" but I will, and then there are times where I love to start off sex with a nice blowjob for him.

I think it also depends on how tired I am. If I am incredibly sleepy, I do NOT feel like going to the effort lol
08/27/2011
Contributor: EJ EJ
My two hang-ups were anal sex and receiving oral sex. I've gotten over the "receiving oral" issue thanks to a very enthusiastic man who (very obviously) loves to go down on a women.

He's also open to anal play, but I'm still a little hesitant about that one. I'd want everyone involved to be really clean, and I'm sure I'd have to take it slooooow, maybe start with a super tiny plug in order to get used to the feel of having something inside of me.
08/29/2011