Do you go through weeks/days where sex just is soo unappealing because this is new for me. My ex and I dated for 3 years and our relationship was for the most part long distance he lived 45 minutes away so we were only together once or twice a week and we had sex multiple times every time we saw each other. So I'm in a new relationship of about 2 months so far and I'm with him everyday we only have sex like once a week. I feel like its mostly because my boyfriend now isn't as aggressive at initiating sex as my ex but I was just wondering if anyone else has had this experience. Should I just stop worriying about it cause we've only been together for two months.
So girls....?
03/19/2012
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I'd say that so long as it really isn't hurting your relationship, it's nothing to worry about. If you're okay with it and your boyfriend's okay with it, then you're probably fine.
03/19/2012
I suffered through this with my wife early in our marriage - her sex drive was minimal. I initiated sex 100% of the time and was rebuffed more than 50% of those attempts. Sex probably averaged 2-3x per month - I was miserable!
Once she got into her 40s, things got better, we now average 2-3x per week - but I still initiate 98% of the time.
I really wish she would initiate more, but at least she rebuffs me a lot less.
Strong sexual performance (especially for men) diminishes over time - my advice to you is get it while the getting is good! When you want it go for hit - hopefully he'll respond.
Introduce him to toys early - he'll be glad to have the help as he gets older! Managing the one-and-done male sexuality with a woman's multiorgasmic capacity can be a challenge. Toys bridge the gap for us.
Once she got into her 40s, things got better, we now average 2-3x per week - but I still initiate 98% of the time.
I really wish she would initiate more, but at least she rebuffs me a lot less.
Strong sexual performance (especially for men) diminishes over time - my advice to you is get it while the getting is good! When you want it go for hit - hopefully he'll respond.
Introduce him to toys early - he'll be glad to have the help as he gets older! Managing the one-and-done male sexuality with a woman's multiorgasmic capacity can be a challenge. Toys bridge the gap for us.
03/19/2012
Why not just initiate it more?
03/19/2012
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My thought too. Maybe he doesn't initiate a lot because he doesn't want you to think he's all about it? Just a thought.
Originally posted by
Crystal1
Why not just initiate it more?
03/20/2012
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I've been in this position; initiating even more when your partner isn't very excited about it to begin with can make you feel like a villain.
Originally posted by
El-Jaro
My thought too. Maybe he doesn't initiate a lot because he doesn't want you to think he's all about it? Just a thought.
03/20/2012
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