If she's bisexual or interested in women, then you should have less of a challenge. If she just isn't, then you're probably SOL, and in my opinion, probably shouldn't try but you should have a conversation about it, openly. First, create a low pressure atmosphere where she feels supported and safe bringing up interests she might have. Be careful not to shoot down any that might not seem like your cup of tea or disrespect them, as this might shut her down and keep her from talking to you about other things. Explore fantasies and interests she has and, in general, foster a very, very open line of communication. The appeal of a FMF threesome for women only applies if they actually are attracted to other women, though. Be sure that you are really ready to discuss and explore how a threesome experience will affect your relationship. Be really communicative throughout and be sure to be fair to the third person. Make sure expectations are all clear and mutually understood and be sure to thoroughly communicate about them with all parties, especially if circumstances or feelings change at any point. less

and i think that is the thing that would keep me from ever bringing it up...the thought of feelings developing, or people getting the wrong idea. it's a selfish fantasy that seems way more complicated that the actual event would be worth. thanks for the thoughtful repsonse. i know that my wife finds women attractive, but i don't think she is attracted to them. and i would hate for her to do something just for my sake, to make me happy, when it is something so fraught with complication. i know that i'm way more open about sex than she is...or more open when it comes to relationships. and it's something that i knew before we got married. but i am determined to bring her as far out of her shell i can without causing damage. this may cause damage. baby steps and open communication. again, thanks. less